How to Get a Virgo Man to Chase You, According to Astrologers

Win over the Virgo cutie in your life with these expert-backed tips

Written by Stina Garbis | Edited by Annabelle Reyes

Last Updated: August 14, 2025 Fact Checked

Virgo men are loyal and dependable, but they can also be a bit shy when it comes to romance. If you want to get a Virgo guy to chase you, you'll need to catch his eye and appeal to some of his key personality traits. In this article, we'll walk you through everything you need to know about attracting a Virgo man and getting him to chase you, including expert insights from professional astrologers. Keep reading for the scoop!

How to Make a Virgo Man Chase You

According to psychic astrologer Stina Garbis, it can be hard to get a reserved Virgo to open up and pursue you, so try to be as intriguing as possible. Detail-oriented Virgos love a good mystery, so if you’re alluring and a little elusive, this could draw him in. Virgos also like honesty, authenticity, and cleanliness.

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Look your best when you’re around him.

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Virgos appreciate well-groomed partners with a great sense of style. Garbis says that Virgo men are attracted to cleanliness and good hygiene. “They want you to smell good and look good,” she says. ^{[1]
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Expert Interview} They’re looking for someone who dresses well , looks neat, and takes self-care seriously. Virgos also have an all-seeing eye when it comes to little details, so pay special attention to your hair , nails , and shoes!
- Sophisticated, polished clothing will catch his eye, rather than wild or outlandish looks. Stick with basic colors like cream, black, and brown. Virgos also appreciate nice materials like silk, leather, and suede.
- For example, if you’re going on a date, try a cream-colored silk top, black trousers, and a simple black leather belt.
- Virgos love clean, fresh scents. Stick with light, natural perfumes ; avoid heavy florals and synthetic fragrances.
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Stina Garbis is a psychic astrologer with over 30 years of experience and the owner of Psychic Stina in Corvallis, Oregon.

Paige Ferris is a tarot reader, astrologer, and intuitive psychic who specializes in psychological astrology.

Aliza Kelly is an astrologer and author who has been featured in The New York Times and has appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live! , The Today Show, and The Drew Barrymore Show .

Mechila Blake is an astrologer and intuitive tarot reader who shares insights on her popular Instagram account, @Astrology_Lyfe.

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Ask him to help you with something.

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Virgo men are helpers by nature and love to feel useful. Virgo men “love to pitch in and help,” says Garbis. ^{[2]
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Expert Interview} Since your man is a natural problem solver, he’ll love it if you ask him for some practical advice or help with a project that you’re working on. Be sure to cater to his particular skills and interests, though—Virgos want to help people with things they’re actually good at.
- This sign is great with organizational projects, cleaning, and fixing things around the house. If you need help whipping your messy garage into shape, he'll jump at the chance to help bring order to your chaos. ^{[3]
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- If you end up in a relationship with this Virgo man, he’ll likely continue to show his love in this way. “A Virgo man is usually very thoughtful. He’s not super verbal about his feelings at first, but he’ll show it through actions. Acts of service are big—doing things to make your life easier,” explains astrologer Paige Ferris. ^{[4]
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- Reader Poll: We asked 516 wikiHow readers who've dated Virgo men, and 77% of them agreed that the best way to get them to take interest in you is by asking for help with a project. [Take Poll]

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Boost his confidence with compliments.

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People born under this sign can be prone to insecurity and self-doubt. Virgo men may have a tough exterior, but deep down they’re hypercritical of themselves and tend to be their own worst enemies. Dropping a few sincere compliments will boost his ego and make him feel appreciated. Avoid heavy-handed compliments, though; Virgos can see right through them. ^{[5]
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- For example, you might say something like, “You're so good at picking fabulous places to eat! I love that you know where all the best restaurants are.”
- You could say, “I really appreciate how well-read you are. I’m a bookworm myself and it’s refreshing to talk to someone about my favorite novels. If you have any book recommendations for me, I’m all ears.”
- Keep in mind that this tendency to be hypercritical does extend to a Virgo’s romantic relationships sometimes, but this is just because they want to create the best partnership possible.
- “They take their role as a partner very seriously, and they're always looking for ways to improve how they relate to their partner, which also means that they can get overly in their head or critical about the shortcomings of the relationship [...] but fundamentally, it's coming from a place of wanting to really show up as the best version of themselves,” says astrologer and spiritual coach Aliza Kelly. ^{[6]
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Be clean, tidy, and organized.

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Virgos are perfectionists who value cleanliness and order. Virgos are the neat freaks of the zodiac! If you have a messy home or appearance, a Virgo will notice right away, and it will likely be a deal breaker for him, explains Garbis. ^{[7]
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- Little things, like dirty dishes piled up in the sink, will drive this guy nuts.

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Impress him with your intelligence.

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Virgos are diehard intellectuals who live for stimulating conversation. “Virgos are ruled by Mercury, so they’re very analytical and philosophical,” says astrologer and intuitive tarot reader Mechila Blake. ^{[9]
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Expert Interview} As a result, they value intelligence in others and often think a partner’s brain is just as sexy (if not sexier) than their body. This man loves witty banter and good conversation , so try chatting with him about interesting topics . If you can hold your own in a lively debate or philosophical discussion, he’ll be super impressed. ^{[10]
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- On the flip side, Virgos aren’t big on meaningless small talk or celebrity gossip, so avoid frivolous conversation topics.

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Ask for his advice.

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There’s nothing a Virgo man loves more than giving advice to others. According to Garbis, Virgo men “like to think they know it all,” but in a lovable way. “Allow him to give you advice, no matter how cringey,” she says. ^{[11]
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Expert Interview} If he feels like he’s really helping you work out a problem, he’ll be on cloud nine!

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Speak with class and dignity.

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Crude jokes and profanity are real turn-offs for Virgos. This sign tends to be a bit conservative, and they prefer partners who have a calm, tasteful, and dignified presence. And while Virgos have a great sense of humor, they tend not to appreciate dirty jokes or vulgarity of any kind. Keep it classy, and this guy will take notice!
- Virgos also don’t appreciate being the butt of jokes. It’s fine to tease him a little as long as you’re being lighthearted and sweet, but he’s likely to get offended if you pick on him or use heavy sarcasm.

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Be confident and independent.

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Virgos are serious about life, and they love it when their partner can match that vibe. Don’t hesitate to tell your man all about your goals and plans for the future—he’ll appreciate your ambition and commitment. And since Virgos are slow to open up, you might just inspire him to share some of his personal goals with you, too.

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Be a little bit mysterious.

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A Virgo man can’t resist a good puzzle. “It’s very hard to get a Virgo to open up and to pursue you, so you have to really intrigue them in a particular way,” says Garbis. ^{[12]
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Expert Interview} “They like to unravel mysteries and have a few of their own. Being mysterious and not completely upfront about everything gives them a chance to become interested and want to know more,” she explains. ^{[13]
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- Because Virgo men are so drawn toward mysterious energy, they tend to have a natural pull toward secretive Scorpios, adds Garbis. ^{[14]
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- For more info on Virgo’s compatibility with the other zodiac signs, check out this helpful guide !

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Invite him to volunteer or do charity work.

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Virgo men are drawn to kindness and love to help those less fortunate. “Virgos are incredibly kind. They genuinely want to help make the world a better place and come up with systems and structures that are supportive for themselves, their loved ones, and humanity at large,” says Kelly. ^{[15]
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Expert Interview} Appeal to his charitable nature by mentioning any causes that are close to your heart. He’ll be impressed if you mention volunteer work you’ve done or charities you’ve supported in the past. If you really want to intrigue him, invite him to take part in an upcoming charity function or community-based project.
- For example, you might say, “I’m doing some fundraising for a local women’s shelter. Would you be interested in sponsoring me or making a donation?”

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Be open and honest with him.

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This sign is attracted to honesty and hates mind games. Be direct and upfront when you’re talking to a Virgo man, and he’ll notice your authenticity right away, says Garbis. ^{[16]
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Expert Interview} He’s a little distrustful by nature and doesn’t forgive easily, so he’ll be drawn to you if you’re transparent with him from the get-go.
- Since your guy is very observant and intuitive, he can spot lies and insincerity a mile away.

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Encourage him to pursue his goals.

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Virgos are hard workers who define themselves by their achievements. In their minds, if they aren’t out there achieving goals, they’re wasting time! He won’t be satisfied unless he’s actively working toward his goals and will appreciate anyone who understands this. Supporting his projects and endeavors will help you win his heart. ^{[17]
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- Ultimately, a Virgo man is looking for a partner to build a beautiful life and chase goals with, and he’s always looking for opportunities to level up. If you end up in a relationship with him, get ready to achieve heights you never even dreamed of!
- “Virgos often try to refine aspects of their life [...] refinement is a big theme for them. It’s almost like a nervous tick when a Virgo man has a crush—he starts optimizing everything,” explains Ferris. ^{[18]
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Be patient with him.

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Virgos do things in their own time and hate to be rushed. Virgos prefer to move slowly in relationships. Don’t try to rush things with this guy or take your relationship to the next level until he’s ready. Give him plenty of time and space to open up on his own terms, and he’ll feel understood and safe with you.
- Don’t mistake a Virgo’s shyness and reserved nature for lack of interest—it just takes him a bit of time to feel comfortable enough to make a move.
- If you try to push a Virgo, he’ll panic and feel trapped. For example, if you insist on spending every night together, your man will likely feel smothered. Be sure to give him plenty of space and let your relationship unfold organically.

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It is very hard to get a Virgo to open up and to pursue you: you have to really intrigue them in a particular way. Virgo’s like honesty, availability and cleanliness, and they love to pitch in to help.

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A Virgo will stare at you from afar, and will follow you somehow without you knowing for some time if they are into you. If you make yourself open and not a hard target, that might get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach.

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How to Get a Virgo Man to Chase You, According to Astrologers

How to Make a Virgo Man Chase You

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Look your best when you’re around him.

Ask him to help you with something.

Boost his confidence with compliments.

Be clean, tidy, and organized.

Impress him with your intelligence.

Ask for his advice.

Speak with class and dignity.

Be confident and independent.

Be a little bit mysterious.

Invite him to volunteer or do charity work.

Be open and honest with him.

Encourage him to pursue his goals.

Be patient with him.

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