Cherlyn Chong

Relationship Coach

Cherlyn Chong is a breakup recovery and dating coach. With 6 years of experience, she specializes in working with high-achieving professional women who want to get over their exes and find love again. She has experience as an official coach for The League dating app, and has been featured on AskMen, Business Insider, Reuters and HuffPost.

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Q&A Comments (19)

How can I tell if I should break up with my fiance?
This can be really difficult to figure out, but you want to look out for red flags. If they're always trash talking their exes or they seem really resentful, it could be a sign that they aren't mature enough to be married. Another sign could be if they're always talking about themselves. If you're worried about dog being sick and they turn around and start talking about a dog they had growing up, that's a bad sign. A lot of this comes down to your gut, though. If you're thinking about breaking up with your fiance, it's definitely a sign you aren't ready to get married, though. At bare minimum, push the wedding back while you evaluate your feelings.
Do couples break up after moving in together?
This happens all of the time, and it's one of the main reasons you should really analyze your feelings and make sure this relationship has legs before taking this leap. If there are no red flags and your relationship is really fulfilling, there's no reason to assume you're going to break up just because you're moving in together.
How long does the hurt last after a breakup?
It can be a really long process, especially if the relationship was really long. The best thing you can do is push yourself a little further every day. So instead of laying in bed crying for the second day in a row, make the conscious decision to get out of bed. The next day, instead of ordering another pizza, make yourself a healthy dinner. Over time, these small changes will really make you feel better and help you get over the pain.
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