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People born under the Sagittarius sign (November 22nd-December 21st) are known to love travel and adventure, but they also crave their independence in relationships. If you've got your eye on a Sag, keep reading to learn what it's like dating this optimistic, adventurous sign. We're sharing helpful tips on what to do and what to avoid, plus date ideas that a Sag is sure to love. We’ve also asked astrologer & performance artist Angel Eyedealism and astrologer Julia Topaz for their insights about dating a Sagittarius and which signs are compatible with the Archer.

What to Expect When Dating a Sagittarius

Sagittarius loves adventure, so plan unique date activities to keep them excited and engaged. Sags are incredibly optimistic, so they're looking for partners that are positive and fun to be around. Show them that you support their dreams and give them plenty of space since they value their freedom.

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What It’s Like to Date a Sagittarius

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  1. Being a Sagittarius is all about independence. They prefer to be in charge of their own destiny, which is why dating a Sagittarius can be challenging at times. This can make them commitment-shy when it comes to dating someone or being in a relationship. If they feel confined in a relationship, they’re not likely to stick around for very long. [1]
    • Sagittarius often prefers to date like-minded people who also value their sense of independence.
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    They’re natural adventure seekers. Being adventurous is an important aspect of a Sagittarius’ personality, and it extends to their relationships. They look for and often find adventure in many different aspects of life, from trying a trendy new coffee shop to mountain climbing in the Himalayas. Sagittarius wants to be in a relationship with someone they can explore with. Even if their partner isn’t as much of an adventure-seeker as they are, they’re attracted to those who are willing to be open-minded and try new things with them regularly. [2]
    • Topaz states that “Sagittarius tends to be quite spontaneous. They are into expansion, so anything that allows them to expand their mind, their vision, and see things from a bigger perspective is appealing to them.” [3]
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    Sagittariuses are open and honest. They say what they feel and don’t sugarcoat issues they’re having. Being extremely blunt is one of Sagittarius’ weaknesses in love , which can also make communication difficult if you don’t have a thick skin. They’re confident in what they believe and what they’re feeling, and require a partner who is equally strong-minded and willing to be honest. [4]
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    They appreciate a sense of humor. Whether you’re newly in love with a Sagittarius or have a relationship with one already, you know that humor is part of a Sag’s love language . It’s one of their best qualities and often pairs hand-in-hand with their need to be blunt. Their jokes can be cruel, self-deprecating, or hilarious all at once. If you can keep up in the comedy department, you’ll be laughing for a long time to come. [5]
    • Sagittarius love intellectually stimulating conversation, but also tend to weave humor into any discussion or topic. If you end up in an ideological debate with a Sagittarius over a social issue, you may end up giggling to yourself by the time the talk is through.
  5. They love being their own person and most likely intend to stay that way. If you're dating them and thinking, "They'll be more open and emotional in the future," you may be waiting for a long time. They have no problem with how they are and can be resistant to any molding of them you want to do. If you don't like them as they are now, maybe they’re not the right one for you.
    • This doesn’t mean that a Sagittarius won’t ever take on new habits when in a relationship. As long as they are the ones who decide it’s worth doing (and aren’t forced into it), they may just surprise you.
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    They’re one of the most optimistic signs of the zodiac. Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter, the planet of expansion and luck, which may affect why Sag is so positive. Their optimism links up with their adventurous nature, which allows them to explore new ideas, places, and activities that they’re genuinely excited about. While even a Sagittarius can get down in the dumps, they’re not likely to stay there long. If they do, they need someone who can help them stay optimistic about the future.
    • In return, when you’re feeling blue, your Sag may suggest heading out of town, trying a new place to eat, or taking a walk or hike to clear your head. It works for them and may help improve your sense of happiness in the long run.
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    They love being spontaneous. Plan a date too far ahead of time, and you may bore a Sagittarius. When they’re on a date, they’re likely to wander off somewhere new and see what they’ll find. This means that an after-dinner stroll with a Sagittarius can end up in a secret speakeasy they stumbled upon or an impromptu comedy show they passed by.
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    They enjoy learning something new. Sagittarius is all about having intellectual conversations that stimulate their expansive minds. They’re not happy talking about day-to-day topics; they’d rather try and figure out world peace or discuss hot issues of the moment. On top of that, they’re also the ones taking online classes, going back to school, or reading up on new areas of interest, hobbies, or skills, like watchmaking or starting your own business. [7]
    • For example, Sagittarius may discover the art of pasta-making and sign up for a pasta-making class the very next day.
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    They can come across as outspoken and insensitive. Sagittarius embodies having “no filter”; they’re not shy about sharing their opinions about everything with you at all times. This doesn’t mean that they don’t want to hear what others have to say—they’re super interested in having a dialogue, but can sometimes seem insensitive. Though often blunt, they’re not inclined to lie, tell stories, or make things up to placate you.
    • For example, a Sag is likely to get into a debate about politics if they feel strongly about what they believe. If the other person does too, this excites them, because nothing is more boring to a Sagittarius than a bland conversation.
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    Sagittarius can be quite impulsive. Though spontaneity is seen mostly as a positive when it comes to Sagittarius, their impulsive nature can make ongoing relationships difficult at times. Here, it occurs because they don’t think ahead to how their actions or behavior might affect others; they don’t often consider the consequences for someone else.
    • For example, a Sagittarius may decide to stay home from work and go to the beach without thinking about who will handle their work in the big meeting that day.
  11. Sagittarius isn’t a fan of a monotonous routine in general. They get bored with the same old, same old, in connection with everything from food and hobbies to people. It doesn't mean they're cheaters, but it indicates that they don’t jump into serious relationships that often. They thrive in any of life’s relationships, as long as they continue to grow, change, and evolve. [8]
    • You’ll know if a Sagittarius is serious about you if they show interest in your work, hobbies, and opinions. If they know you respond to them positively, they’re also more likely to include you in their life and their future.
  12. Whether they’re interested in dating someone or already dating, the chase never goes away for a Sagittarius. They enjoy those who continue to flirt with them, even after a relationship is established. When newly dating, they remain excited by the thrill of the attraction, which is an important part of any dating relationship they have.
    • This idea circles back to the Sagittarius’ symbol of the Archer with a bow and arrow. They aim for their target and are natural hunters in areas of dating and relationships.
  13. The fact that Sagittarians are adventure-seekers who seem to thwart emotion may make you believe they’re not into finding someone to date or love. A Sag rarely denies a real connection, no matter what commitment issues they may have. [9]
    • Look for hints that your Sag is ready to commit. Are they depending on you more than anyone else? Do they go out of their way to make sure you're happy? Do the surprises and adventures just keep on coming? If so, then you might be ready to take it to the next level.
    • Once a Sagittarius decides to commit to you, there’s no partner more caring and considerate.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 425 wikiHow readers and 54% agreed that they feel special and appreciated when a Sagittarius shows they care about their comfort and happiness. [Take Poll] Lucky you!
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What to Do When Dating a Sagittarius

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    Be ready for an adventure. Whether you’re on a 1st date with a Sagittarius or in a full-fledged relationship, it’s important to be open to a sense of exploration. Avoid getting bogged down by planning ahead of time. Instead, start somewhere (like dinner or a movie) and let the evening take you where it may. Your Sag will also probably want to decide what you’ll be doing during your date, so sit back, relax, and go along for the ride.
    • If you’re going out with a Sagittarius for the first time, see what they have in mind; it won’t be boring!
    • If you plan a weekend getaway with your Sagittarius, make a few loose plans and let the rest unfold.
  2. Some of the more sensitive signs may see the Sagittarius’ penchant for telling it like it is as rude and lacking tact; that's not what the Sagittarius is intending to do. They simply don't see the value in not being open and truthful, especially with someone they’re dating or care about. [10]
    • For example, if a Sagittarius says your perfume or cologne is too strong, don't take it personally. They're just saying what's on their mind—once they've said it, they'll be onto the next thing. It doesn't faze them, so don't let it bother you.
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    Show them you support their dreams. Though they may come across as individualists, a Sagittarius needs the support of those around them. If they’re pursuing a personal goal, dream, or journey, they feel more confident in accomplishing whatever they’ve set their mind to. If you give Sag your wholehearted support, they’re more likely to continue a relationship with you.
    • Their optimism and adventurous spirit mean that you’ll also feel tons of support coming right back from them.
  4. Sagittarius is usually viewed as quite stoic and unemotional. It doesn't mean they don't have feelings; they're just not keen on expressing them. They prefer to stay optimistic and energized about life without being bogged down by worry or fear. A Sagittarius thinks of fear as a way to waste their energy. If you better understand why they act as they do, you’re more likely to appreciate their way of thinking. [11]
    • When falling in love with a Sagittarius, it can be hard to know how they’re feeling, but look at it this way—If they didn't care about you, they wouldn't be sticking around. Their actions tend to speak louder than words.
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    Meet challenges with optimism. If you’re facing obstacles, whether on your own or in a relationship with a Sagittarius, take a page out of their book and stay positive. Show them support by saying, “We’ll get through this together,” or focus on what needs to be done to overcome the challenge.
    • Sag hates complaining, so they may be there if you need to vent, but once you do, it’s time to deal with your issues as they do—be optimistic about the future and keep going strong.
  6. Sagittarius is all about the thrill of the chase. If you can keep up the chase even once they've nabbed your heart, they'll be yours forever. Don't be a completely open book. Instead, let them pry a little (they love it!) [12]
    • Being mysterious doesn’t mean not answering their texts and being purposefully vague; it means operating on your own wavelength and having a part of your life that is very much your own.
  7. Sagittarius doesn’t fall in love quickly ; it takes time. Even if your Sag has committed, you might risk losing them when your relationship becomes all hearts, flowers, and candy. There's no more exploration and adventure in the relationship when it hits this stage, so take it slow—don't jump in with two feet on the 3rd date. Explore all aspects of each other over time; after all, the flame that burns the slowest lasts longer. [13]
    • Sagittarius isn’t quick to meet the parents in the first few months; they’re also not generally fans of moving in together too soon, unless it makes sense to them and they feel ready.
  8. You have to be clever to keep up with a Sagittarius. Keeping things exciting and coming up with new ideas, goals, or plans will be the main challenge in dating them, so put on your thinking cap. Sagittarius is a sign that definitely sees a clear link between thoughts and actions.
    • Stay up-to-date about current events and pop culture. The Sagittarius loves to laugh and think. Ideally, you'll both be doing that for each other.
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    Build trust in the relationship. When you’re with a Sagittarius, this means being honest at all times, not avoiding any issues, and steering clear of drama. Big, loud fights are not what a Sag wants; being authentic is the way to their heart and how you’ll ultimately get them to trust you. [14]
    • If they did something to hurt you, tell him what they did and why it stings. Once they understand, they’ll do their best to fix it asap. Don’t harp on the issue and keep bringing it up, though. All that does is make them want to be anywhere but where the drama is.
  10. Just like the Sag wants to be their own person, they want to date someone who's like that too. If you're following them around wherever they go or take on their hobbies and interests without investing in your own, your mysteriousness disappears. They're likely to get bored with someone who has a weak personality and isn’t interested in another version of themselves.
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    Communicate openly and honestly. Brooding, walking away in a huff, or giving a Sag the silent treatment is the worst way to handle communication when dating them. They want to know what the problem is and how they can fix it, so they can move on to new and exciting adventures with you. Avoid going off and talking about what’s wrong with them to your friends or family. They may see that as being disloyal and prefer that you work things out with them directly.
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    Learn to be more spontaneous. It’s not all about big adventures—Sagittarius appreciates when their partner encourages them to try anything new, from a new brand of iced tea to an exciting new spot to hike through. When dating, this also means not going back to the same restaurant time and time again; it means being open to new activities. [15]
    • If you can’t ski, and your Sag wants to go skiing, go along and take a few lessons so you can learn something new. They’ll support your taking the steps to learn a new skill, even if you don’t end up skiing like a pro.
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What to Avoid When Dating a Sagittarius

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    Don’t be overly aggressive. Aggression is a turnoff for a Sagittarius. Wooing them is fine, but avoid being too pushy or stalking them in between dates. If they avoid spending time with you and aren’t including you in their plans, you might have to accept that they’re not interested. Either way, don’t come across as too aggressive, whether about them, what you believe, or what you want to do.
    • Sagittarius appreciates enthusiasm, which is quite different from aggression. Enthusiasm is positive, while aggressive behavior can result in turning them off for good.
  2. Sagittarius needs to be free, even when dating or in a relationship. Rather than trying to control them, give them space as needed. The next time you're at a party, wander to the other side of the room for a bit; this will let the Sagittarius know that your relationship is strong enough to withstand being apart for an hour. [16]
    • Your Sag isn’t going to try and control you, either; taking space for themselves is a display of their personality type. Rest assured that if your Sag is thinking something (positive or negative), they'll let you know.
    • Eyedealism agrees that Sagittarius “wants somebody who gives them space. If you trust them enough to give them space, they will come closer; if you try to control them or micromanage them in any way, they just can't tolerate it. They appreciate an honest and direct approach.” [17]
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    Don’t be so serious all the time. Sagittarius loves to laugh and values having a sense of humor to get them through the tough times in life. Whether you like your humor silly, witty, or sarcastic, they’ll continue to inject humor into the relationship as time goes by. They’re even likely to break the tension of an argument with a joke, so be prepared to laugh a lot until you’re able to laugh off nearly every challenge you face with your Sag. [18]
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    Don’t appear too sensitive. Because they’re known for being blunt, Sagittarius can sometimes come across as cocky or snarky. If you’re able to ride the waves of their blunt nature, you’ll be just fine dating or being in a relationship with a Sag. Their outspoken tendencies link back to their sense of adventure and spontaneity. They want to surprise you with things they say, and see how you react. If you can roll with the punches, they’ll continue to be stimulated. [19]
    • There is a big difference between being blunt and being abusive. While a Sagittarius may tell it like it is, things they say should never include emotionally abusive statements. If they do, it’s important to stand up for yourself. Being verbally abusive isn’t a trait of any zodiac sign.
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    Don’t act jealous. In addition to avoiding being clingy or overly controlling, jealousy is a real turn-off for a Sagittarius. It’s an obvious no-no when it comes to the independent nature of the Sag; try to take it away, and the relationship may not last long. [20]
    • While Sagittarius isn’t the jealous type, they may show signs of jealousy when they feel their freedom is being threatened or they lose trust in the relationship.
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    Don’t discourage them or their dreams. If you step in the way of their pursuit of adventure, knowledge, or personal dreams, you can very easily alienate a Sagittarius. Support builds them up, while limiting behavior cuts them down. They need to feel that you’re on their side and believe in them, even if you know what they’re trying to do may not succeed.
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    Don’t be too predictable. If you can’t be as spontaneous as your Sagittarius is naturally, do your best to avoid being super predictable day in and day out. If you wear the same outfit every time you see them, they’ll notice and may grow tired of it. If you want to spend time doing the exact same thing on the weekends, change it up from time to time to keep them happy and entertained. A Sagittarius is the number 1 reason you won’t ever get stuck in a rut! [21]
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Who is a Sagittarius compatible with?

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    Most compatible: Leo, Aries, Aquarius, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius Sagittarius tends to flourish in relationships with Leo and Aries . They represent some of the best signs for Sagittarius to date because they share a love of adventure and freedom. Sagittarius does well in a relationship with someone who understands their spontaneity while remaining open-minded. More details on Sag’s best matches are ahead: [22]
    • Leo: They connect over creativity, passion, and focus.
    • Aries: They’re a dynamic duo with a shared love of adventure.
    • Aquarius : They bond over a search for higher truth and a deep emotional connection.
    • Gemini: They both adore intellectual stimulation and love to laugh.
    • Libra : They have a strong attraction and are an emotionally intense pair.
    • Sagittarius: They become childlike and incredibly optimistic about their journey.
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    Least compatible: Cancer, Scorpio, Taurus, Virgo, Pisces, Capricorn A Sagittarius’ unpredictable energy can prove too much for water signs. This includes Cancer , Scorpio, and Pisces, who often clash emotionally with a Sag. Some earth signs, like Taurus and Virgo, also struggle with the lack of stability they find in a Sagittarius. More details on who Sag is least compatible with are ahead: [23]
    • Cancer: It’s difficult for them to find common ground, especially with emotions.
    • Scorpio : They approach life very differently and often experience power struggles.
    • Taurus: Taurus’s love for routine can get in the way of Sag’s love for spontaneity.
    • Virgo : Sag focuses on the big picture, while Virgo is caught in the details.
    • Pisces: Pisces is driven by emotion, while Sag is focused on action.
    • Capricorn : Capricorn is too disciplined and goal-oriented for the free-spirited Sag.
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Date Ideas That Sagittarius Love

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  1. Sagittarius loves being in nature, which means you can both go exploring together. Enjoy the outdoors with activities like a walk in the park, mountain-climbing , or skydiving can feed a Sag’s sense of wanderlust. Not every date has to be momentous; feeding birds at a sanctuary or visiting a dog park will do. [24]
    • Go hiking , bike-riding , or roller-blading , especially if you’ve never tried it. A Sagittarius will love learning something they’ve never tried before.
  2. Check out an independent film, sing a karaoke duet at the top of your lungs, play laser tag , or see an avant-garde theatrical performance—do things that get you together, laughing, and thinking. The Sagittarius believes that life should be fun and is optimistic about creative pursuits of nearly every kind.
    • Combine a Sag’s love for the outdoors with the arts by going to an outdoor music festival. If they can hike and see new artists that expand their musical horizons, they’ll be doubly happy.
    • Eyedealism emphasizes a Sag’s love of “being outdoors. They love movement, action, and drive, and want adventure and excitement. Plan outdoor activities or go to rock concerts they love. They're the rock stars of the zodiac; they're very fiery and dynamic.” [25]
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    Focus on activities where you learn something new. This may mean taking a class in pottery , painting , or dance; it could involve a group fitness training or a culinary course that teaches students about a particular new cuisine. When their mind and body are stimulated, there’s no telling where dating a Sagittarius can take you. [26]
    • It’s not necessary to always plan a learning activity with a Sag; they’re likely to walk past an outdoor yoga class , pop off their shoes, and drop in for a downward dog or two.
  4. Sagittarians love to travel. Once you and your Sagittarius have established a firm connection, plan a trip somewhere special. It could just be a day at the beach, or it could be a getaway to an exotic villa. Whatever it is, your Sagittarius will probably have their bags packed already. [27]
    • Make sure your relationship is well-cemented before planning a trip. If you've been dating for two weeks, don't book a week-long stay at a bed and breakfast in the countryside of northern France. Small adventures like going to an amusement park, a food festival, or a one-person show are just as fun.
  5. Sagittarius loves adventure and trying new things; this doesn’t always have to mean travel or outdoor activities. To avoid their penchant for boredom, keep the little surprises coming as much as possible. Wow them one night with a home-cooked meal that features their favorite cuisine, or get them 2 tickets to a show that’s in town they didn’t know about. Sagittarius loves dating someone who's just as open to exploring as they are. [28]
    • Make sure to surprise them in different ways. Sending a flower bouquet five days in a row isn't exactly surprising. Instead, send them flowers one day and take the next day off. There's something to be said for mixing it up, too!
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Sagittarius Fast Facts

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  1. Sagittariuses are born between November 22 and December 21. They’re symbolized by the archer (sometimes represented as a centaur) who holds a bow and arrow, and are ruled by the planet Jupiter, which is associated with optimism, exploration, and adventure. Like Leo and Aries, Sagittarius is a fire sign, which means they’re passionate, action-oriented, and sometimes impulsive. They are known for valuing their independence and being open and honest (sometimes to a fault). Sagittarius’s astrological modality is mutable, which means they’re more flexible and can adapt easily to change. [29]
    • Birthstone: Turquoise, blue topaz.
    • Flower: Carnation, protea, narcissus.
    • Color: Orange, purple, yellow.
    • Lucky number: 3, 5, 6, 8

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WikiMistRider554
Hi y'all, I just went on my fourth date with a Sagittarius and I think things are getting a little more serious, but I've never dated a Sag before and I'm wondering what to expect. What should I know about dating Sagittariuses? What are they like in relationships and what signs are compatible with Sagittarius (fyi I'm an Aries)?
Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Sagittarius loves adventure and excitement. Like, if the two of you go sit on the back porch to watch fireflies, your Sagittarius partner is going to want to get on the next plane to Vegas, so try to keep date night active and fun. Sagittarius signs like being outdoors, so things like skiing trips or off-roading adventures are ideal.

So again, if you're very stagnant and set in your ways, this can be a tough relationship. I think Taurus signs are probably the least compatible in this regard. I knew a Sagittarius that was trying to have a relationship with a Taurus. I was like…dude, you have to actually go explore with them.

So, my final advice for you is to plan outdoor activities and try to be a flexible partner. Sagittarius is the rock star of the zodiac. They're very fiery and dynamic. So, that’s what they want in a partner! If that sounds like a good time to you, you’re going to be compatible with a Sagittarius regardless of your sign.
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I don't typically like Sagittarius men. They have no emotional skills or intelligence to keep things peaceful, can be verbally attacking. Being disrespectful seems to be their birth right.

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      Dating a Sagittarius can be a lot of fun if you indulge their adventurous and energetic side. Sagittarius people generally love to explore new places, try new things, and be in nature. Be prepared for lots of trips and new experiences. However, on the flip side, they can get bored and restless if they sit around doing the same thing. Sagittarius partners can also seem emotionless because they don’t like expressing their feelings, but try not to take this personally, and be patient with them. You can easily win their affection by spending quality time together and treating them to spontaneous dates, like a home-cooked meal or tickets to their favorite show. For more tips, including how to maintain your own social life when dating a Sagittarius, read on!

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