Does My Boyfriend Love Me?

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Love is what makes life worth living, but relationships can be…well, confusing! You may find yourself wondering from time to time… Does my boyfriend love me?

This quiz will help you discover the truth. Answer these 12 questions, and we’ll tell you if we think your boyfriend loves you.

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Questions Overview

1. How does your boyfriend usually show that he cares about you?
  1. Through his words and his actions.
  2. Through his actions—but he can be pretty emotionally distant.
  3. I know he cares, but he doesn’t really show it completely. It seems like there’s something stopping him.
  4. I don’t know.
2. You’ve had a bad day and need to vent—how does your boyfriend respond?
  1. He listens to me attentively and comforts me.
  2. He’ll listen and make me feel cared for. But I’ve noticed that he doesn’t open up to me in the same way.
  3. He’ll listen, but honestly, he doesn’t always seem to be paying attention.
  4. I don’t usually talk to him about that kind of stuff.
3. Conflict is a part of every relationship—how does your boyfriend react when problems come up?
  1. He communicates his feelings calmly and listens to me, too. Then we work together to solve the problem.
  2. He hears me out and we wrap up the issue quickly. Honestly though, it doesn’t always feel like everything is really resolved.
  3. He’ll discuss the problem calmly, but he doesn’t seem very emotionally invested. He sometimes seems distracted.
  4. He shuts down and avoids talking about problems when they come up.
4. Does he treat you like a priority?
  1. Definitely.
  2. Usually.
  3. Sometimes.
  4. No, never.
5. Does he ever discuss the future with you?
  1. Yes, we talk about the future together a lot. We each have concrete plans, and we’ve factored our relationship into them.
  2. He talks about the future sometimes, and I know he wants me in it. We haven’t made concrete plans yet though.
  3. Only when I bring it up. He’s not very willing to commit to things, though.
  4. No, never. When I bring it up, he changes the subject.
6. “I generally feel like my boyfriend appreciates me and thinks I’m special.” Do you agree or disagree?
  1. Definitely agree.
  2. Agree most of the time.
  3. I’m not sure; I don’t agree or disagree.
  4. I disagree.
7. Imagine you have to spend a few weeks apart—how does he act?
  1. He stays in regular touch and reassures me he loves me and misses me.
  2. He checks in regularly, but I can’t always tell how much he misses me.
  3. He checks in sometimes, but it seems like he feels obligated to do so.
  4. He hardly ever checks in. I don’t think he misses me.
8. When you express your needs and desires to your boyfriend, how does he respond?
  1. He listens to me attentively and makes a real effort to meet my needs.
  2. He listens to me attentively but has a hard time meeting my needs.
  3. He listens to me attentively and says he’ll try harder, but doesn’t follow through.
  4. He doesn’t listen to me.
9. “I feel like this relationship is really going somewhere.” Do you agree or disagree?
  1. Totally agree.
  2. Agree most of the time.
  3. I’m not sure.
  4. I disagree.
10. Does your boyfriend initiate hangouts as often as (or more than) you do?
  1. Yes, definitely.
  2. Yeah, sure.
  3. Eh, not really.
  4. Never. I always initiate hangouts.
11. Does your boyfriend open up to you about important things, like his feelings or his life goals?
  1. Definitely!
  2. Mostly.
  3. Not really.
  4. No, never.
12. Does your boyfriend seem curious about you and interested in learning more about you?
  1. Yes, definitely.
  2. Yeah, more or less.
  3. Eh, not really.
  4. No, not at all.

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5 Big Signs Your Boyfriend Loves You

  • He’s happy when you feel good about yourself. A good partner knows your worth—and just as importantly, they want you to know it, too. They celebrate your wins with you, cheer you on when you’re feeling low, and encourage you to be yourself and follow your dreams.
  • He factors you into his future. Whether he’s making plans for next weekend or ten years from now, a guy who cares about you and who’s invested in your relationship will consider how you fit into his life (and how he fits into yours). He’ll likely ask you about your plans and goals for the future as well to ensure you’re compatible and share a similar vision.
  • He openly communicates with you. Conversation flows easily between you—even when you’re talking about tough stuff. When you’ve got a problem, you can talk to him about it, and he’ll listen attentively. He’ll share his own thoughts and feelings too, because he knows he can trust you and he values your opinion.
  • He apologizes when he’s in the wrong. Every couple will hurt each other, but what counts is how they repair the damage. A guy who loves you won’t let his ego keep him from being able to say it when he messes up and take sincere, actionable steps to make amends and be better in the future.
  • You’re a priority for him. He makes time for you. Life can be demanding, especially as you get older: you’re forced to divide your energy and concentration between work, school, family, friends, personal hobbies, and basic self-care (sleep, food, exercise, that stuff), but a guy who cares about you will make you a priority. You won’t have to wonder when you’re going to hang out next or worry you’re bugging him by sending a text. And when the going gets tough and it’s hard to juggle all of his different priorities, he’ll communicate with you about it.

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