PLEASE read this and try to help, Thank You
Hi, At school I have this friend (let’s call her BF) who is really exclusive. 20% of the time, she is really lovely and nice to be around. I’ve been told that the best way to go about life is to be friends with everyone. Until a few weeks ago, I was also really exclusive. I’ve now got out of that and I’m trying to make a new start but my best friend is holding me back…
She thinks she’s got me wrapped around her little finger and that’s how it was before I wanted to change. We’ve just started high school (pretty big, right?) and I’ve turned into a more mature person but she’s staying childish. She always walks around with a sour look on her face and she thinks she’s really pretty. She goes out of her way to impress people and all she does is make herself look stupid. Also, and worst of all, if I do the tiniest thing wrong, she’ll go and give me the silent treatment. Instead of being mature and coming to talk to me about it, she’ll not even try to resolve the problem. I’ll try two or three times to talk to her but she’ll walk away from me with a sour look on her face. Eventually I’ll give up trying and I’ll mind my own business.
There’s this boy I REALLY like called Lewis and I’ve only told her and my two other close friends. My other close friends are so lovely because when we choose where we sit, they’ll always save me a seat next to him. Not BF, no no no. Lewis is one of the really cool boys in the class and, as I said, she’ll go out of her way to impress people. Even if that means being selfish. She’ll sit next to Lewis and look at me as if to say, “Ha! I’m sitting next to the coolest boy in the class.”
Also, she only ever talks about herself. The other day she got asked if she wanted to take part in a cross country competition. She came over with a letter and I knew it was about the cross country. I already knew all about it so I didn’t need to ask her about it. Then, what does she do, she reads it loud enough so that me and the group of cool boys behind us could hear her. Typical. Then today, she came back from the cross country. Two other really cool boys called Marley and Ryan went to the cross country as well. She told me that they kept trying to steal her hand warmers and she was talking to them all the time that they were there. That story was repeated by her, minimum of 5 times. But the thing is, she lied about it all because I actually asked Marley, “What did BF’s hand warmers look like?” then he said, “I don’t know, we didn’t talk at all.”
Obviously I try not to be rude when she tells me this so I act interested and ask questions but when I finally get round to telling her something about my day, all she does is make an “ooo” noise. She make the noise to make it sound like she interested but she also tries to make it really obvious that she’s clearly not interested.
Now, I’m trying to become my own person instead of following her around all the time and I’m trying to get the confidence to tell her “No because I need to do this instead.” I used to spend entire break times hanging around in the toilets because she wanted to. I didn’t want to at all. I followed her to her locker, I followed her to the toilet, I followed her to go and sort out her issues. Once, I sat in the library next to her for the whole of lunch time doing nothing because she was too lazy and couldn’t be bothered to do her homework that had to be handed in that day. I didn’t get any lunch because of her and I went the rest of the day starving.
Recently I’ve been trying to become closer to some other people but she’s really annoyed that I’m starting to become more popular and get more attention than her so she is following me around every where and not letting me be with any new people unless she’s there with me. I need to get away from her other wise, for the rest of high school, I will not make any new friends because I’m known for being exclusive.
Please help me to tell her my problems, Any advice you give will be greatly appreciated.
Thank You
BooBoo22
