so Im in a bit of a pickle can someone help me please?
ok so ive been dating this guy he lives is California we’ve been dating since September 16th 2014 . but ive developed feelinings for my friend of 5 yrs and I don’t know what to do
Lexys
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That sounds like a difficult situation. My only advice to you is to let time solve this. See if your crush on your friend develops further, becomes more intense, or if it fades away. See whether you still like him or not, after a week or two. If you don’t, that’s great, but if you do, then you might want to consider ending your relationship with the California guy, but make sure your friend reciprocates. (;
ive been thinking about this for about 2 months and I feel like I love my friend and ok so my friend is 19 my parents don’t like me dating older guys and my bf is 16 but he never answers the phone we barely ever talk he tells me he loves me but I don’t feel like he does and I feel like im lying to him by not telling him about my feelings for my friend. should I tell him I have feelings for my friend or no?
Lexys
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I still suggest that you wait. Be honest with your guy, though.
Lexys
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No problem. :) I’m actually pretty decent with relationships, until it comes to myself. I’m horrid with guys.
lol yea im terrible at realtionships .
Your friend does not sound very convincing. Would he have any long term interests? Is he otherwise flirty with other girls or you think he would be loyal to you?
When you are in a relationship it is quite natural to feel like you have feelings for other guys or guy. If your present boyfriend is loyal with you then he will be as it is heart broken that you are considering someone else too.
The more caring and genuine your boyfriend may be, the easier for you to know that he will stand by you which you must too. Honesty and ridding yourself from tempting people and other temptations is what two people bond over and survive the otherwise lonely society.
so then what do U think I should do?
If your bf is avoiding you it could mean he is signaling that he wants to leave you or that he is genuinely busy. First, ask and figure out, why he is not seeming interested in you.Stay away from your friend romantically. Keep your friendship with him. He is an old friend. Old friends are precious.
Keep your mind clean. There is no sincerity in liking two people at one time. Although it is natural to like many people, do not think of him as anything other than a friend.
Try to understand your friend’s view. If he is not thinking about dating you, then why affect your friendship? You will have to be tricky in finding out, if you dont know already. If you are single again, would he be okay with dating you?
Some time guys like being friends with caring girls and it may not last if they both push their friendship to love.
@Vishwavijay
he told me a few days that he loved me which made me even more confused I just said thank you.
I think the reason me and my bf can talk is because he works and theres a major time difference.
Okay, so here’s my humble guy opinion on the matter(don’t take it too seriously). How it sounds to me is that you think all the effort of proving that there’s love should come from his side? It’s a two-way street and it *should* come from both sides. If it’s not you’ve got an issue. You say he said/says he loves you but you don’t mention if you still love him, which you do say about your friend. Do you love your bf and your friend? Just one of them? If you don’t love your boyfriend, it’s best to end that relationship. If you do love him, talk about him not spending as much time with you as you’d like. Try to work it out. Alright this is from a guy with no dating experience whatsoever, so just take it with a grain of salt(or a bowl of salt, ya know, if you want).
thank u . I do love my boyfriend but I was talking about my friend telling me he loved me . and I mean I feel loved but we’ve never met he dosent talk to me I call 2 x a day when I can and he barely ever answers
I am a bit confused. Who have you not met among the two?
I am sorry I missed such an important aspect of whether you love and if yes, then whom. Thanks @Danielbauwens
I love sam (my bf) but im starting to like joey( my friend) ive met joey I hang with him all the time.
When you love one guy, you wont love any other guy. But when you start having feelings for a second guy, it shows that you may be, liked him, and not loved. Same could be with joey, that you like him.
Ummm is there a rush to be in a relationship? If not, then be friends with joey. See how he deals with you and how caring and accepting he is of you along with your problems, flaws or concerns. If he is supportive, then he is clearly a good guy.
About Sam, he could be any body or no body. You have not met him neither could you be fool proof sure that he never lied about his life, history or background. I see some place for lies here. (Try never trusting someone enough to date them if you have never met them personally).
If there is a time gap, meaning he lives far away. What are the possibilities of you both ever getting any more closer or clearer about each others whereabouts.!!??
Solution: Find out the interest level of sam. If he is true to you and is not a catfish, stay with him.Never leave Joey. He sounds like a friend indeed.
Merc, I am sorry if I sounded a bit too much. Did I ? Please allow me to apologize if I did?
