So earlier today, I was talking to this guy at my school. We’re not exactly friends - we’re not actually; we just met a couple years ago through mutual friends. Anyways, we’re talking and then he says he hates gay people. Why? “I hate 90% of em cuz they useless in the world” —his actual quote. Those who’ve read my user page know that I’m bisexual, so you can obviously tell that I got offended by that. I mean, what does “useless” even mean? In what way does a person’s sexual orientation play a role in their “usefulness” in the world? None, because A: LGBT people are not
different from the other 7 billion people other than the fact that they’re attracted to the same (or both) sex; B: Human beings should not feel like they’re useful or useless. In a later comment, he said that guys should belong with girls and vice versa. That being said, it’s possible that he was raised in a religious household where marriage between a man and woman should be sacred; then I can only accept what he believes in. If that’s the way he thinks, then that’s the way he thinks. But still, he made a complete generalization of LGBT people and that’s what got me over the edge and pissed me off. That’s like assuming all gay men wear pink and are flamboyant just because you’ve met one that does that. It’s ignorance like this that makes me start to lose faith in humanity. A lot of LGBT people, especially youth, are ridiculed and bullied not because of their attraction of the same/both sex, but because we’re often typecast as “not normal” in a society where heterosexuality is dominant. And this is simply because a lot of people are too ignorant to open their minds, understand, and become educated. We are not aliens. We are not mentally ill. We are not freaks. We are human beings like the rest of you. We have the same attractions and sexual desires you have, except towards different genders. /rant
system
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Ha, although it has become WAY more accepted, just like in the last five minutes, you should understand that there are no societies, none, where homosexuality is accepted; and quite a few where it is punishable by death, ok? So you are still going to run into people who feel entitled to look down upon you, thus revealing their premises. One sees this also in prisons, obviously full of the guilty, who nonetheless castigate child molesters and rapists. Completely ignoring your reasoning there at the end, and why you might currently be making this choice, as I have found the real reasons there to be more complex than most people are willing to admit, and changing due to time (and hormone levels), your orientation in a matter is no one else’s business, and might be considered “too much info” in many social settings. While this guy might have preferred some clue where you are concerned, see that he did you a favor. Who do you know who is perfect? You are as good as everyone else. Peace.
Caidoz
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Chances are you’ll come across a lot of people like this in life. You have three options: 1. Take offence every time you meet someone who says something like that. This appears to be the option you’re currently going with. Being offended all the time is tiring and makes you miss out on all the good things in life. You being offended makes no difference at all to the other person, so you’re only hurting yourself with this option. 2. Try to change their mind. This choice is the most frustrating because this kind of opinion is often engrained into a religious belief, and when was the last time you managed to persuade someone to alter their religious beliefs? I’ll take a fairly safe guess at “never” being the answer to that. 3. Accept who you are, deal with the fact that there will always be people who don’t like that no matter what the reason, and put your emotional energy into positive relationships with people you like and get along with.
