Wendy Lynne
Life and Relationship Coach
Wendy Lynne is a life and relationship coach based in Redmond, WA. In 2009, Wendy founded Wendy Lynne Coaching to help individuals break free from fear and limiting beliefs to live a fulfilling and happy life. With experience in relationship, career, health, and life coaching, Wendy was named a top coach by coachfoundation.com. She was trained by Martha Beck as a Life Coach and by The Life Coach School as a Master Life Coach. She is an Internal Family Systems Therapist and received advanced training in relationship coaching from the Hendricks Institute. Wendy also graduated from UCLA with a BA in Sociology and has previous experience as a Managing Director at the Mental Toughness Academy.
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What's the most productive way to deal with boredom at work?
In my opinion, being bored often comes from a lack of curiosity and creativity. I’d start by asking yourself, Why am I bored? Am I doing something uninteresting? Am I not really present or noticing what's going on? Or am I afraid of doing something different? Sometimes boredom comes from believing you should be somewhere else instead of being present. Even just sitting on a rock outside doesn’t have to be boring—it can be amazing if you're in touch with the beauty around you. Our society is often bored because people are afraid to connect with themselves. They need to be entertained or distracted, so notice when that's happening for you and make appropriate changes.
I don't know what to do with my life
Let's start by thinking about how you're showing up in your environment at work and beyond. A café job is rich with opportunities to connect, learn about yourself, and notice your triggers. How do you interact with customers? With coworkers? Are you open to possibilities when they arise?
If you’re approaching your life from a place of lack—“I only work at a café”—then you’re closing yourself off. But if you say, “This is where I am now, and I’m open to what’s next,” that energy creates new opportunities. It’s about embracing your current reality while being excited for change.
If you’re approaching your life from a place of lack—“I only work at a café”—then you’re closing yourself off. But if you say, “This is where I am now, and I’m open to what’s next,” that energy creates new opportunities. It’s about embracing your current reality while being excited for change.
Finding life purpose
You are experiencing a common concern. However, let's reframe this concept: your purpose isn’t something you find "out there". It’s about being present with what life is offering you now. Be open, be kind, and do your best from a loving heart. If you’re constantly searching for meaning, it’s often because you think what you’re doing right now isn’t enough. But the truth is—whatever you’re doing is your purpose in this moment.
If you want to do more, great. But don’t approach the concept from a place of lack.
What do I do if I have fallen back in love with my ex?
I believe people change moment by moment. The person you broke up with is not the same person now, even each day. If you can be open-minded and curious, you can start a completely new relationship with someone—even if it’s your ex. Just make sure to see your ex as a totally new person when you (hopefully) get back together!
Yikes! Apparently my relationship is toxic
I always say—we call relationships "toxic" because we're blaming the other person for how we feel. Know that you have the power within yourself to actually shift and change a relationship.
Most marriage counseling is about trying to get the other person to change so you feel comfortable or safe. But I always say, "You have the power if you take the power." How you communicate with someone affects how they communicate back. It's like tennis: most people try to get the other person to hit the ball how they want, but how you hit affects how they hit back. Successful relationships involve taking on personal responsibility.
Of course, if someone is abusive or mean, leave the relationship. But you shouldn’t leave just because the other person isn't acting the way you think they should. If you got "toxic" on this quiz, think — is my partner abusive or bad, or am I trying to change them when instead I could be working on myself?
Most marriage counseling is about trying to get the other person to change so you feel comfortable or safe. But I always say, "You have the power if you take the power." How you communicate with someone affects how they communicate back. It's like tennis: most people try to get the other person to hit the ball how they want, but how you hit affects how they hit back. Successful relationships involve taking on personal responsibility.
Of course, if someone is abusive or mean, leave the relationship. But you shouldn’t leave just because the other person isn't acting the way you think they should. If you got "toxic" on this quiz, think — is my partner abusive or bad, or am I trying to change them when instead I could be working on myself?
