320+ Best Text Conversation Starters for Couples

Texting is a fun way to get to know your partner better, catch up with them, and just enjoy each other’s company, even when you’re apart. But how do you get the conversation rolling? We can help! Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship and communicate a lot over text, or just want to up your texting game with your significant other, this guide to fun , deep , intimate , juicy , and romantic text ideas can help you get a meaningful conversation going with your partner in no time.

Our Favorite Text Conversation Starters for Couples

What did you enjoy doing as a kid that is no longer part of your life?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Have you ever met someone famous?
If you could plan one perfect day for yourself, what would it look like?
What’s your go-to karaoke song, and why?

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Fun Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Strike up an enjoyable and relaxing convo with these fun texts. “Who’d win in a fight, Miss Piggy or Bugs Bunny?” “What’s one food you could eat for every meal and not get tired of?” “Who was your first celebrity crush?” These questions are lighthearted, but they can still tell you a lot about your partner—you might even learn something new and surprising (like that their celebrity crush is Mr. Bean)!
- Would you rather spend money to travel the world or have the house of your dreams?
- Who’s your celebrity crush?
- Have you ever met someone famous?
- If you could plan one perfect day for yourself, what would it look like?
- What’s your favorite thing to do by yourself?
- Who’d win in a fight, Miss Piggy or Bugs Bunny?
- What movie have you seen the most times?
- Tell me about the subject you’re most interested in that has the least in common with your daily life.
- What was your favorite class in high school?
- Do you have a favorite phrase or word? Why?
- What was one of your favorite childhood memories?
- Do you have a favorite funny quote from a movie or TV show? What is it?
- What's your funniest embarrassing moment you either experienced yourself or witnessed?
- What's the weirdest noise you can make?
- Would you ever get a tattoo?
- If we went to trivia night together, what category would you dominate in? What category do you think I’d dominate in?
- What's your idea of the perfect day off?
- What’s your astrological sign? Do you think it matches your personality?
- When was the last time you really laughed about something? What was it?
- What's the best meal you've ever had?
- What’s something that most people you know like, but you don’t?
- What’s your most controversial opinion?
- What was one of your favorite outfits to wear as a child?
- What song or album has been on repeat for you lately?
- What’s your most unhinged Spotify playlist called?
- What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?

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Deep Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Get down to what really matters with thoughtful and reflective questions. Sometimes just shooting them a text like “What do you think happens after we die?” is a great way to launch into a meaningful conversation. So don’t dilly-dally—send one of these texts to get down to the nitty-gritty. ^{[1]
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- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- What did you enjoy doing as a kid that is no longer part of your life?
- What book had the biggest impact on you in childhood?
- What is your favorite book now, as an adult?
- Who do you most admire in your workplace?
- What have been the highest and lowest points of your life?
- If you had one million dollars to give to charity, what causes or organizations would you support?
- What do you think happens after we die?
- If you could apologize to one person from your past, who would it be and why?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life thus far?
- What do you consider to be the biggest mistake you’ve ever made?
- What have been the most serious injuries or health scares in your life?
- Tell me about a time you felt completely out of your comfort zone.
- What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken? Would you do it again?
- If you could ask a psychic one question about your future, what would you want to know?
- What does your dream home look like?
- Where do you see yourself, personally, in five years?
- What is the single most important goal you want to achieve in the next ten years?
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
- Tell me about someone you no longer speak to whom you wish you were still friends with.
- What food or drink most evokes a feeling of home for you?
- What rules or practices did your household follow growing up that you would also implement in your own household? What rules or practices would you choose not to follow?
- What do you value most about our relationship?
- Imagine you're feeling stressed. How do you react in that moment and why?
- What are your short- and long-term financial goals?
- Is there anything you consider a dealbreaker in a relationship?
- Would you rather have a job you love with a lower salary, or a job you don't enjoy with a higher salary?
- What class or teacher most impacted your life growing up?
- In what ways are you most different from the person you were in high school?

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Intimate Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Text your partner to foster intimacy, even when you’re apart. You can still cultivate a sense of closeness even when you’re not together by texting thoughtful, intimacy-building questions and thoughts, like these:
- How do you think your parents’ relationship shaped you?
- How can I make you feel emotionally safe?
- What's the first thing you remember as a kid? How did you feel in that memory?
- What is the thing you're most proud of?
- What's something you haven't told me because you're afraid I might judge it?
- How do you think being hurt has made you more or less willing to be vulnerable in a relationship?
- What do you miss most about me right now?
- What's something you've always wanted to say to me but couldn't?
- Where would you like me to kiss you?
- When did you last cry and why?
- What one word would you like to be the theme of our relationship?
- What would you like me to do the next time we're together?
- How can I be a better partner to you?
- What is the closest you've ever felt to me?
- What part of yourself do you not love but need me to love?
- Who do you think has been your greatest influence in life? How did they help shape who you are today?
- Was your first time having sex a positive or negative experience?

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Romantic Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Send a cute and sweet text to make them feel loved. Marriage and family therapist Allen Wagner, MFT, MA, observes that while asking someone “How was your day?” can show your partner you care, “I think those [texts] usually end up with answers like ‘fine’ or ‘good,’” but a more thoughtful text might lead to a more meaningful discussion. “It could be something…as simple as a text that says, ‘I just drove by that thing [that reminds me of you], and I was thinking about the night that we had such and such, and I just wanted to say I love you.’”
- What’s something I do that always makes you feel loved?
- What is your love language?
- Do you believe in soulmates?
- What would you say “our song” is?
- What’s your favorite love song?
- Where would you take me on a date if money were no object?
- How can I understand you better?
- How do you show your love?
- What’s the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?
- What’s the best surprise you’ve ever gotten?
- What do you think my love language is?
- Would you want a small or a big wedding?
- When do you think the right time to get married is?
- When we don’t see each other for a while, what do you miss about me?
- Who was the first person you told about me?
- Which famous (or fictional) couple do you think we’re most like?
- Which couple do you look at and think, “Couple goals”?
- When did you first realize that you loved me?
- What would we do on your dream date night?
- What’s one thing you really hope we’ll do together?
- Why do you think we make a good match?

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Creative Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Try weird and unique text openers to get them thinking—and talking. They can’t not respond to a text that says something like, “Your skeleton is always wet” or “Why do we say ‘tuna fish’ but not ‘chicken bird’?” Maybe they’ll even share some of their own creative, shower thought-esque fun facts and theories.
- Firefly is the opposite of waterfall.
- What fictional character do you identify with the most?
- Your stomach thinks all potatoes are mashed.
- Honey is the tastiest insect vomit in the world.
- Would you survive an apocalypse? How? What’s your plan?
- If you’re over 30, you were born before every dog in the world.
- If you could only follow one person on social media, who would it be?
- It’s a good thing that blinking doesn’t make a noise.
- Your skeleton is always wet.
- What’s your go-to karaoke song, and why?
- What song would you love to see me sing at karaoke?
- Salt is the only rock that’s socially acceptable to eat.
- Cults are only cults until they become so big that they’re socially acceptable.
- How come you can kill a fire, but you can’t kill a water?
- Why do people say “tuna fish” but don’t say “chicken bird?”
- If you’re lucky, your internal organs will spend their entire life in complete darkness.
- Every machine is a smoke machine if you operate it wrong enough.
- Brushing your teeth is the closest you’ll ever come to cleaning your skeleton.
- There’s nothing stopping you from using someone else’s voice when you think.
- Do teeth taste like nothing, or does your mouth get used to the taste of teeth?
- Alcohol is a depressant, but bars and clubs are designed for people to be energetic.
- If we buried the dead vertically instead of horizontally, we would save a lot of space.
- Before humans and dogs were friends, who fixed dog ears when they went inside out?
- Most people aren’t scared of being alone in the dark—they’re scared of not being alone in the dark.
- Gravity is creepy when you realize you’re not walking around on a surface, but getting pulled into a burning core of magma.
- History museums are the embodiment of humans keeping old stuff that we don’t want to throw away.
- Biting your tongue while eating is the best example of how you can still screw up with decades of experience.
- Eight hours of drinking is binge drinking, and eight hours of TV is binge watching. But eight hours of sleep is barely enough.
- The spiders that live in Buckingham Palace are probably the descendants of spiders that lived there during the Victorian era, which is a parallel royal family, but with spiders.

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Juicy Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Learn something unexpected about them with a juicy convo starter! You might know where they’re from, what they do for a living, and what their most-binged TV series is. But do you know who their first kiss was with? Who their “hear me out” characters are?
- What would be the biggest dealbreaker for you in our relationship?
- What was your biggest heartbreak ever?
- Do you think you can really stay friends with an ex?
- What was one of the worst first dates you’ve ever been on?
- Tell me about your first heartbreak.
- What bad habit are you totally determined to break?
- What does it take for someone to be considered your best friend?
- Have you ever been in love before me? Will you tell me about that person if you have?
- Is our relationship physical enough for you? What would make it better in your eyes?
- Describe a moment when you felt the most connected to me physically and emotionally.
- Who’s your most embarrassing “hear me out” character?
- What does it mean to be “good in bed”?
- How many past partners have you had?
- What’s your most embarrassing moment?
- What is your biggest regret in life?
- What’s the sexiest thing I do in my everyday life?
- Do you ever check out other people?
- What’s something you’ve always wanted to ask me but were afraid to?
- What’s something you’ve never told anyone else?
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Flirty Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Heat things up with these flirtatious (and dare we say sexy?) texts. Whether you want to make them feel some butterflies in their stomach or you’re hoping to rev their engine a little, these flirtatious and fun texts are sure to do the trick:
- How do you really feel about foreplay?
- Do you have a secret you would only want to share with me?
- What is a hot fantasy you’d like to live out but haven’t had the nerve to ask me?
- What’s your favorite physical quality of mine?
- What really gets your heart racing?
- What’s your favorite photo of me?
- What initially attracted you to me?
- How do you feel about morning sex versus evening sex?
- What’s a way I can make you feel more desired and appreciated sexually?
- If we were to set up a romantic and seductive evening, what elements would you want to include?
- How do you feel about trying different locations within our home for sex?
- How and where do you like to be touched? Are there any places I don't know about?
- What’s a very ordinary action that you find super attractive?
- Do you get turned on seeing me in a sexy, dressed-up outfit or jeans and a t-shirt? ^{[3]
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- What's your favorite part of my body?
- Do you think we’re intimate often enough?
- What's the naughtiest thing you've ever done, and would you do it again with me?
- What type of music gets you in the mood?
- Do you ever dream about me? What am I doing in your dreams?
- Have you ever used a pick-up line ? What’s your go-to?
- Which of our past sexual encounters do you like to think about?
- What's your favorite way to cuddle?
- Would you rather give me a massage or receive one from me?
- How do you feel about PDA?
- If we were together right now, what would we be doing?
- How do you feel when I wear perfume or cologne?

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Random Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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These texts are sure to grab their attention! Nothing is more compelling than an unexpected and truly random text, like, “Do you believe in ghosts?” “What’s your favorite ice cream flavor?” or “How would you spend a million dollars?”
- If you were a superhero, what would your secret power be?
- How would you spend a million dollars?
- What was your favorite family vacation?
- What is one thing that will always make you laugh?
- What is your least favorite word or phrase?
- What does your dream house look like?
- If you could live with any celebrity, who do you think would be the best roommate? Who would be the worst?
- If you could have any animal as a pet, what would you choose?
- What’s the ultimate comfort food?
- If you were an animal, which one would you be?
- What movie could you watch on repeat?
- If you could live inside any fictional world, which would you choose and why?
- What’s your favorite soda flavor?
- Have you ever seen a ghost?
- Which of the four seasons is your favorite?
- Have you ever won an award?
- If you could instantaneously become an expert in something, what would it be?
- What’s an unexplained mystery that haunts you?
- What’s your favorite ice cream flavor?
- Who’s a celebrity you think you could genuinely be friends with?
- Who’s a celebrity you think you would not get along with?
- Which celebrity do you think you look the most like?
- If you were a plant, which one do you think you’d be?
- If you could invent a new ice cream flavor, what would it be?
- What’s your favorite quote or saying?
- Would you ever live in a haunted house?
- What is the loudest thing you’ve ever heard?
- What’s your favorite icebreaker question? Which icebreaker questions make you roll your eyes?
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- Do you remember names easily?
- Do you have any hidden talents?
- What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
- What’s your favorite kind of flower?
- Do you appreciate flowers better for how they smell or how they look?

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Funny Text Conversation Starters for Couples

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Make them laugh with a silly, unexpected text. These funny conversation starters will ensure big laughs! Send a random and silly text out of the blue—or ask them a quirky question like, “Would you prefer to be reincarnated as a cat or a dog?” or “Have you ever laughed so hard you peed?”
- Why are turtles green?
- There comes a time in everyone’s life when beating up someone younger than you goes from pathetic to impressive.
- Making a typo in an online argument is the equivalent of your voice cracking in a verbal argument.
- What’s the best way to waste time?
- Would you prefer to be reincarnated as a cat or a dog?
- What secret conspiracy should we make up together?
- What’s the strangest food combo you’ve ever tried? Was it any good?
- Teenagers drive like they’re on borrowed time. Elderly people drive like they’ve got all the time in the world.
- Do you have any nemeses?
- If you could invent a new flavor of potato chip, what would the flavor be?
- Cake or pie?
- What’s the weirdest question you’ve been asked in a job interview? (And did you get the job?)
- What random skill do you wish you could turn into a side hustle?
- What’s the most disgusting thing you’ve ever eaten?
- Which classic board game could you totally dominate in?
- What is a very low-stakes mystery you wish you had the answer to?
- What’s the most ridiculous fact you know?
- What’s the weirdest thing a guest has ever done in your house?
- If you could have an extra body part, what would it be?
- What action movie would you love to see turned into a musical?
- If you worked at the circus, what would your job be?
- What crazy conspiracy theory do you kind of think is true?
- Have you ever laughed so hard you peed? What did the trick?
- Whoever created the tradition of not seeing the bride in the wedding dress beforehand saved countless husbands from hours of dress shopping.
- What's your weirdest autocorrect fail story?
- We don’t check the refrigerator multiple times to find new food, we check to see if our standards have dropped enough to eat what was available.
- What’s your most embarrassing accidental text story?
- Would you rather have no eyebrows or no eyelashes?

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Text Conversation Starters for Long-Distance Couples

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Even when you’re miles away, texting can help you feel closer. Whether you want to enjoy a fun chat or check in with them about their life, texting is one of the best ways to maintain intimacy and feel connected in a long-distance relationship.
- What’s the last thing you think about before you fall asleep?
- What would you do if I were there with you right now?
- Is there a movie that reminds you of me? Why?
- What is your favorite part of your day?
- Would you rather never be able to FaceTime me or never be able to text me again?
- What’s one thing that made you feel curious today?
- Do you think I’ve changed since we started dating?
- Where do you go when you miss me?
- Where is one place that makes you feel like yourself?
- Where would you like to be with me right now?
- How do you feel about our relationship these days?
- Do you feel close enough to me, even though we’re far apart?
- How can we make our relationship stronger until we’re in the same place?
- How do you spend your free time?
- What are you looking forward to this week?
- What movie should we watch together?
- Can you make me a playlist to listen to when I miss you?
- Did you miss me today?
- What should we do the next time I visit? The next time you visit?
- Where should we go on vacation together?
- If you could relive one romantic moment we’ve shared, what would it be?
- What’s your favorite memory of us together?
- Is there a place you’ve always wanted to visit? Why haven’t you gone yet?
- What’s the first thing you’ll do when you see me next?
- Is there anything you’d like to achieve in the next year?
- Can I do or say anything to help you feel more secure in our relationship?

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Text Conversation Starters for New Couples

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Get to know the person you’re dating even better with these texts. Texting is a great and low-key way to get to know someone you’re dating, but you’ve got to ask the right questions! Try one of these text suggestions to learn more about them—and see how compatible you really are:
- What’s a piece of advice that a family member gave you that you live by?
- Do you prefer a big family gathering for the holidays or a small dinner, and why?
- Who is the coolest ancestor you have? What did they do to be so cool?
- Which of your skills do you think is the coolest?
- What is your prized possession?
- How far do you like to plan ahead?
- What gives you the ick?
- What activities make you lose track of time?
- Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
- What’s the best present you’ve ever received?
- Have you ever cheated in a relationship?
- Are you still friends with any of your exes?
- Do you believe in monogamy?
- What was your dream job as a child? Is it close to what you’re doing now?
- What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
- Tell me about your last relationship. What happened?
- Do you believe people are basically good or basically bad?
- Is violence ever justified?
- If a friend ever betrayed you, would you forgive them?
- What’s the biggest dream you have that’s yet to come true?
- What country would you love to visit for the first time?
- What public figure do you find to be the best influence on people?
- Would you tell people that you did a good deed, or keep it private?
- How much do you worry about climate change?
- What's the best way to go about improving the world?
- Is it better to be selfless or look out for yourself before anyone else?
- Where do you see us in five years?
- Where is your ideal place to live?
- How many kids do you see yourself having?
- When it comes to money, do you like spending or saving?
- How do you really like to unwind after work?
- How do you calm down when you feel anxious?
- What’s your favorite way to chill and do nothing?

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Text Conversation Starters for Married Couples

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Send your long-term partner a text that will surprise or touch them. Wagner notes that, often, couples who have been together for years may only talk about work, family, friends, chores, and kids. He advises setting aside time during which neither of you is allowed to mention any of these things, because “when you take all of that away, it makes people very naked. It forces people to have to start to talk about the things that they think about, and they dream about.” Ask your spouse one of these questions to get a fresh and meaningful conversation going—and perhaps learn something new about them:
- What is your favorite memory of us?
- What is something you want to ask me but are afraid to ask me?
- Name three things we have in common.
- What’s the one thing you think we can improve on when it comes to our relationship?
- Do you have any favorite memories from our wedding day?
- How can I help you achieve your goals over the next few months?
- What do you like most about married life?
- What do you miss most about being single?
- What memory from our life together always makes you smile?
- Are you happy with your career?
- What adventure should we plan next?
- What’s the best meal we’ve ever shared?
- What’s the best date we’ve ever been on?
- How do you feel about the way we’ve divided household responsibilities?
- Where would you like to travel with me?
- What’s something you enjoy about our daily routine?
- How can we support each other better as a couple?
- What’s one thing you’ve learned from me?
- What is a quality you admire in me? Why?
- Tell me about the strangest dream you had recently.
- How has our relationship changed since our marriage?
- What’s the most romantic thing I’ve ever done for you?
- What do you think is the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for me?
- What’s a major challenge we’ve faced that you think made us stronger?
- Do you feel like I appreciate you?
- Do you appreciate me? What do you appreciate about me?
- What’s something on your bucket list that you’d like to accomplish soon?
- How do you feel about the way we handle conflict?
- What’s the most unexpected way I could reinvent myself this year?
- How do you imagine our retirement years?
- Where would you like to be in five years, personally and professionally?
- What achievement in your life makes you feel the most fulfilled?
- If there was one thing you could change about our relationship, what would it be?

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