How to Make Your Boyfriend Miss You

Co-authored by Cristina Morara and Janice Tieperman

Last Updated: August 25, 2021 Approved

Is your relationship feeling a little stale? Don’t worry—there are plenty of ways to get those sparks flying again and still leave your boyfriend wanting more. We’ve put together some helpful tips and tricks that are sure to keep you on your boyfriend’s mind.

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Let him call or text first.

If you’re always starting the conversations, he won’t think about missing you. Instead, wait for your boyfriend to take the initiative and shoot you a text. By creating a little space, he might realize that he was taking your regular calls and texts for granted. ^{[1]
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- If you’re always texting “How are you” or “How was your day” first, take a step back. Instead, let him check in first.
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Match his texting speed.

If you’re always replying super quickly, he won’t really be missing you. Instead, take a page out of his book. Let’s say he takes an hour to reply to your texts—in return, you might wait 1 hour and 5 minutes before shooting him a text back. ^{[3]
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Send vague texts.

Leave your messages on the vague side instead of sharing too much. This way, he has to fill in the blanks on his own. Adding a sense of mystery to your life will leave him curious and more likely to miss you. ^{[4]
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- For instance, you might say “I’m heading out with some friends tonight” or “I’ll be out most of the day tomorrow.” This way, he won’t know what “out” means, and may be curious about what your plans are.
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Use compliments sparingly.

Don’t constantly tell your boyfriend how much you miss him. Instead, try creating a little extra space, even if you’re dying to chat with him. ^{[5]
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- Instead of saying “I couldn’t stop thinking about you today!” you might change the subject and say, “Are you catching the big game tonight?” or “Was the traffic really bad this morning, or was it just me?”

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Text him a spicy photo.

A sexy photo reminds him of what he’s missing. Dress up in your sexiest outfit, snap a few pictures of yourself, and send them his way. Getting a spicy, personalized picture is a great way to get him missing you. ^{[6]
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- You might dress up in a set of lingerie he really likes, or send a quick sext.
- Only send spicy photos if you really trust your boyfriend. If taking sexy selfies isn’t really your cup of tea, there are plenty of other ways you can get him to miss you.
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End the conversation first.

This is a great way to stay in control and keep yourself in his thoughts. Whether you’re texting, video chatting, or talking on the phone, do your best to sign off the conversation first. This way, you’ll stay on his mind even after the conversation ends. ^{[7]
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- You might say, “I’ve gotta get up early for work tomorrow. Talk to you later!” or “I have to run to the grocery store for a few things.”

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Send him a gift.

A gift will keep you in his mind. Pick out something that will really remind him of you. Every time he uses or looks at the gift, he may think about how much he loves and misses you. ^{[8]
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- For example, you might send him one of your hoodies or shirts, or mail over a package of homemade treats.
- This is a great option if you’re in a long-distance relationship.
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Log off social media.

Social media always lets you and your boyfriend know what the other is up to. Whether it’s through tweets, status updates, or photo posts, your boyfriend can constantly see what’s going on in your life. Instead, log out of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and any other socials you use frequently. After enough radio silence, your boyfriend may miss seeing you on his feed. ^{[9]
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- If you tweet pretty frequently, you could log off and take a 2-day break.
- You might delete the Instagram app off your phone for a few days so you aren’t tempted to post.

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Decline last-minute invitations.

Remind him that your time is valuable. When you say “no” to a last-minute plan, you’re actually saying that you have a social life and schedule of your own. This way, your boyfriend will think about how you used to be more available, and he may work harder to be a high priority in your life. ^{[10]
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- For instance, if your boyfriend invites you on a last-minute movie date, you might hang out with your friends instead.
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Invite him to a group hangout.

Remind him that he isn’t the only part of your social life. Your goal isn’t to make him feel jealous or possessive of your relationship. Instead, a group hangout will show him that he isn’t the only priority in your life. In fact, being a part of your active social life may help him learn to miss you more. ^{[11]
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- For example, if you and your friends are grabbing happy hour drinks, ask if he’d like to join you.
- If you and some friends are heading out for a hike or bike ride, ask if he’s free.

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My boyfriend doesn’t spend a lot of time with me. What should I do?

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Remind him that your time is valuable! Let him text and call you first, and wait a little while before you reply to his messages.

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My boyfriend doesn't call me but I do frequently. What should I do?

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Stop calling him as much, and let him miss you.

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What shall I do to make my boyfriend miss me? He's so into his work and his new car and he rarely calls me. We decided to marry, but he has been withholdng emtion, as he wanted to focus on his career and financial stability.

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Sit down with him and express how you feel. If he wants to be with you, he will fix things.

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Don’t be afraid to focus on yourself! Prioritizing self-care, schoolwork, and other aspects of your life can create a healthy distance between you and your boyfriend, which might make him miss you more. ^{[12]
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Remember: your goal is to make him miss you, not manipulate or play games with him!

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How to Make Your Boyfriend Miss You

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Let him call or text first.

Match his texting speed.

Send vague texts.

Use compliments sparingly.

Text him a spicy photo.

End the conversation first.

Send him a gift.

Log off social media.

Decline last-minute invitations.

Invite him to a group hangout.

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