Plus, expert-backed tips to cope with pain and heartbreak
Searching for a sad love quote to capture your emotions and nurse a broken heart? We’ve got you covered. For this article, we’ve compiled an extensive list of quotes to help you heal from a breakup, unrequited love, or loss. We also interviewed relationship coach Amy Chan for the best tips on getting over someone. Keep reading for the most moving quotes about heartache.
Sad Love Quotes & Lyrics
- “The hottest love has the coldest end.” — Socrates
- “Love is so short, forgetting is so long.” — Pablo Neruda
- “Now, you are just a stranger with all my secrets.” — Unknown
- “You call me up again just to break me like a promise.” — Taylor Swift
- “For you, I was a chapter. For me, you were the whole book.” — Tom Neal
- “Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime.” — Bette Davis
- “The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever.” — Carroll Bryant
Steps
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How to Cope with Pain & Heartbreak
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Acknowledge and accept your emotions. “Studies show that bereaved people who avoid grief and make an effort to suppress emotion take the longest to recover from loss,” according to Chan. Instead, recognize the emotions you’re feeling in your body, and “write down how you feel and where you feel it.” That way, you can “process the emotional energy that is stuck in [your] body.”
- “Close your eyes and see what sensations come up in [your] body,” says Chan. Do you feel tightness anywhere, hot, or cold? Think of what this emotion needs from you in the present moment and “cry, scream, shake, or dance” to give it a voice.”
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2Practice self-care and positive self-talk. When you’re heartbroken, it can be difficult to stay on top of things like personal health and hygiene. However, doing small things for yourself can make a huge difference in how you feel. Saying positive things can also challenge negative thoughts that creep in as you recover. Instead of thinking “I’ll never find love again,” for example, you could say “Every relationship teaches you a lesson, so the next one can be even better.”
- Chan also advises to “create a morning ritual so you can be intentional on how you start your day…and an evening ritual to help you wind down.”
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3Reach out to friends and family members for support. Sometimes, getting your feelings off your chest can help you cope with heartbreak , so talk to a trusted friend, family member, mentor, or therapist. Chan recommends “putting parameters for the conversation by explaining that you are not seeking advice…and are looking for someone who can hold space for you to share your feelings without judgment.”
- If you don’t have anyone to turn to, look for a support group online. There are numerous support groups for people who are going through, or have already gone through, similar experiences.
EXPERT TIPRelationship CoachAmy Chan is a Relationship Coach based in New York, New York. She is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. She has over 12 years of experience helping clients work on their relationships with strategies rooted in the psychology and science of relationships and personal development. Her team of psychologists and coaches at Renew Breakup Bootcamp has helped hundreds of individuals, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. Her book based on her work, Breakup Bootcamp, was published in 2020 and was featured by the New York Times.Take time for yourself after a breakup. Immediately after a breakup, self-care, self-compassion and community support should be a focus. A breakup can feel traumatizing, and it’s normal to take time to grieve, process and get back to an equilibrium.
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4Digitally detox from your ex and create space. “Delete old messages, unfollow your ex’s accounts, and take a break from social media altogether. Block their number if you have to, so you don’t obsess about your ex not contacting you,” advises Chan. Keeping in contact with your ex will only make you feel worse, so try not to reach out to them at all.
- If you feel the urge to reconnect with your ex, “replace the urge for connection with another behavior that forces you to be present,” says Chan. This could be going for a jog, calling a friend, or cleaning your room.
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Reconnect with yourself and meet new people. Being single is the time to reconnect with the relationship you have with yourself. Chan says to, “start that passion project you’ve procrastinated on, develop those friendships that have been on the backburner, or take that solo trip you’ve always wondered about. Your breakup is merely the end of one chapter and the beginning of your next. So make this next chapter colorful, vibrant, playful, and fun!”
- Dating can be scary or overwhelming at first, but the goal is start slow and focus on making great connections. You can meet new people by volunteering, going out to bars, or joining an intramural sports team or some other organization.
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