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. Allen Wagner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Los Angeles, California. After working as a therapist at the Childrenโs Bureau and Penny Lane Centers, he opened his own practice in 2008. Allen works with both individuals and couples and has 20 years of experience as a therapist. Allen specializes in helping clients improve their relationships, assisting people in managing life transitions, improving communication in all environments, and identifying realistic and positive goals. Alongside his wife Talia Wagner, he authored the book "Married Roommates". He received an MA in Psychology from Pepperdine University and a BA in Film and Creative Writing from the University of Arizona.
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Want to text someone and ask how theyโre doing but donโt know what to say? Well, youโve come to the perfect place! Sending a thoughtful check-in text can make a loved oneโs day that much brighter. Take a look at these example messages that you could send to a significant other, friend, family member, or coworkerโyouโre sure to find just what youโre looking for.
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Keep it simple with a short and sweet message. Sometimes, all you have to say is exactly what youโre thinking! Donโt overthink your text. Simply state that you want to check in and see how theyโre doing.
- โCouldnโt help but text to see how youโre doing. Itโs been far too long since we talked!โ
- โI saw something that reminded me of you today, so I had to see how youโre doing.โ
- โJust wanting to check in! How are you holding up?โ
- โWondering why Iโm here? Just checking on you.โ
- โJust wanted to touch base with you. Any updates from HR?โ
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Emphasize that itโs been a long time since you talked. Life happens, and sometimes you can lose touch with friends, colleagues, or loved ones. If something makes you think of them, reach out. Maybe your schedules will line up, and you can check in with each other in person.
- โIt feels like forever since we talked! What are you doing this weekend?โ
- โIโd love to catch up sometime soon!โ
- โI havenโt heard from you in a few days. Hoping everythingโs okay!โ
- โHey! Itโs been a minute. Iโd love to catch up the next time youโre free.โ
- โI saw you got a new job. Thatโs so exciting! Want to grab coffee one day soon? Iโd love to hear all about it.โ
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Ask how theyโre doing directly to open a conversation. This text is perfect for texting just about anyone! Maybe you want to reconnect with an ex or childhood best friend. Either way, get a conversation going with a simple introduction and a friendly, open-ended question. [1] X Research source
- โI know we just saw each other, but I miss you already! Howโs life?โ
- โI hope life's treating you well! How are things?โ
- โHope youโre doing okay! I really miss you.โ
- โI miss your hugs. How have you been?โ
- โJust wanted to touch base. Howโs the presentation coming along?โ
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Ask them about a specific event or task to let them know you care. Did a friend, family member, or coworker have something going on the other day? If so, donโt be afraid to ask about it! This is an excellent way to show that youโre a great listener and want to know more about their life.
- โI heard you went to the Taylor Swift concert. Tell me everything!โ
- โMissed you yesterday! How was the meeting?โ
- โHow was band practice?โ
- โI saw you were out sick yesterday. Is everything okay?โ
- โHow was your date last night? I must know all the details!โ
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Lend a helping hand to show that you care about them. If someone you know is feeling low, donโt hesitate to ask if they need help with anything. Offering support is a great and easy way to check in and show how much they mean to you.
- โI want you to know Iโm here if you need me.โ
- โSaw you were a bit behind on your workload. Can I take on some tasks to lessen the load?โ
- โI know lifeโs been tough lately. Let me know if thereโs ever anything I can do to help!โ
- โWant to start a study group? These midterms are stressing me out.โ
- โHow are you feeling about the meeting? Need help with the presentation?โ
- Reader Poll: We asked 207 wikiHow readers how they have supported an upset friend over text and 52% of them agreed that the best way to help is by offering a listening ear. [Take Poll]
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Let a loved one know theyโre on your mind. A great time to check in on someone is when you know theyโre feeling down or are going through a rough patch. A simple reminder that you're always there to talk can make them feel loved and supported. [2] X Research source
- โI know lifeโs been busy lately. Hoping all went okay today!โ
- โI know youโre going through some stuff. I just wanted to let you know Iโm thinking of you.โ
- โI know youโve been having a hard time. If you ever need to talk, Iโm here.โ
- โA piece of my heart is missing without you here, baby.โ
- โSending hugs and best wishes your way!โ
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Ask about their day or evening to get the scoop. Want to know what your partner, friend, or loved oneโs up to? Send them a quick text inquiring about their day or evening to see what theyโre up to. This is also a great way to see how theyโre feeling overall. [3] X Research source
- โHi baby! How was your night?โ
- โHappy Wednesday! Youโre halfway through the week! Anything exciting planned?โ
- โI wonder if you miss me as much as I miss you. How was your day, princess?โ
- โMorning, mom! Howโd the banquet go last night?โ
- โFriday is finally here! Are we still on for tonight?โ
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Tell them you miss them. Did a beloved coworker change jobs, or did a friend go on vacation? If so, let them know youโre missing their presence as a sweet way to check in.
- โThe office isnโt the same without you. Howโs the new job going?โ
- โItโs weird without you here. How are things going in Florida?โ
- โThe printer got jammed again, and no one can fix it quite like you. Hope your vacationโs going well!โ
- โI miss you. Tell me all about Mexico!โ
- โMy new lab partner doesnโt get my jokes like you. I hope youโre enjoying your gap year.โ
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Inquire about a specific task or job to stay on top of things. Checking in with coworkers or business partners is always a good idea, especially if youโre working on a project together. Keep it short, and gently ask how things are going with a specific task. This way, you can see how things are moving along without prying too much. [4] X Trustworthy Source Harvard Business Review Online and print journal covering topics related to business management practices Go to source
- โJust checking in on your progress. Do you think the final product will be ready by Fridayโs staff meeting?โ
- โHow are things going with your article?โ
- โIโd love to talk about the project youโre working on. Whenโs the next time youโre free?โ
- โJust checking in to see how the studying is going. Feel confident?
- โHowโs Thanksgiving dinner coming along? Let me know if you need any help!โ
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Express gratitude if youโre close to them. If youโre texting a significant other, friend, or mentor, check in by sharing how much they mean to you. Not only is this an excellent way to show gratitude , but it can also boost their spirits.
- โThank you for being such a bright light in my life. Love you!โ
- โYouโre one of the bestest friends I could ask for. Thank you for being you!โ
- โNot all heroes wear capes, and my real-life hero is you. How are you doing?โ
- โJust letting you know Iโm okay! Thanks for always being one call away.โ
- โThere are no words to say how much you mean to me.โ
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Boost their ego if theyโre feeling down. Sometimes, the best way to check in on a friend or loved one is to lift them up. Send them a quick compliment to brighten their day.
- โYour value increases every day, my friend. Donโt let the haters tell you otherwise.โ
- โNever stop smiling. Itโs only one of your finest features.โ
- โTake as much time as you need. I believe in you!โ
- โSending positive vibes your way. You can do this!โ
- โNo one is more qualified to do this job than you. Weโre all rooting for you!โ
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Send a popular quote if you donโt know what to say. At a loss for words? Use the words of your favorite movie, character, or writer to fill the blank space. Go with a reference they'll know to make the message even more meaningful.
- โSometime me think, โWhat is friend?โ and then me say, โFriend is someone to share the last cookie with.โโ - Cookie Monster
- โYouโve got a friend in me.โ - Toy Story
- โIn case you ever foolishly forget: I am never not thinking of you.โ - Virginia Woolf
- โWant to know a secret? Someone out there canโt stop thinking about you. You are beautiful. Donโt ever believe differently.โ - Drake
- โYou are my best friend. And sometimes I like to check and make sure my friends arenโt dead.โ - Ally Carter
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