Q&A for How to Deal With a Rude Family Member

Establish a connection with them so you can start to build your own relationship with them. You might say, "I'm not sure if we got off on the right foot or not, but I'd love to have a closer relationship with you. Let's grab lunch sometime—just the two of us." You could also say "I know there might be some tension between us. Is there anything I can do that would help you feel more comfortable?"

Stand up for yourself. Tell him that his behavior is not okay, and that he can't talk to you like that. Consider going to couple's counseling so you can talk through these issues. If that doesn't work, or if he refuses to go to counseling, you should consider leaving him.

Have a polite and private conversation with your sister explaining your position. Let her know what happens and ask for her help. Tell her that you will attend one more family event as a trial. If things don't go well, then you will not be back. Warn her once, that is all the respect you need to show.

Defend yourself! Tell your father what actually happened and don't be afraid. If she continues the rude behavior, tell another adult you trust (no matter how corny it sounds). You must not let this get away from reality or your dad will get all defensive on behalf of the child of the woman he married and that is just plain wrong.

Tell your parents. Do not suffer in silence. Tell your parents or parent or adult guardian. If they won't listen, call the police.

Try to confront her in a way that won't seem rude, or tell your parents what you saw or heard and let them decide whether or not they want to do something about this. Also, you could simply be the bigger person and ignore it.

Are they annoying or rude? Annoying: Report their email to Google, Yahoo or Apple. This can allow you to block their email. Rude: Report to the police or to parents, or both.

Don't acknowledge that they're there, just play on your smartphone or pretend to be talking to someone on the phone. Rude people want the satisfaction of knowing they hurt you, or got under your skin. If you ignore them, they'll leave or give up.

You may just have to accept it and try to ignore her. Most of us have one or two people in the family we just avoid because we don't get along with them. It is a little ridiculous she's behaving that way towards a teenager, but you should just be the better person. Now if she is really harassing you or something, that might be a different story and you should tell another family member if your mom won't listen to you.

Teasing is a way many males show love. It's a way to show you attention without exposing their own emotions. It can be annoying and sometimes they may cross lines and hurt you or make you mad. You can just tell them when they've hurt your feelings and they'll back off because they love you.

This is unacceptable. Tell your parents about this and ask them to talk to her.

Contact them and say something like "Hello. I hope you are well. Missed you at dinner. What happened?" Be direct, but non-confrontational, and strive for a civil tone—after all, you don't know why they were absent.

People who don't want others to succeed usually have very low self-esteem or secretly feel like a failure. You can tell that someone is insecure if they frequently boast about their accomplishments or make snide comments when your life is going well. It is very hard to change this type of person, so you may have to learn to value their opinion less. What they say or think doesn't change your success. If possible, cultivate relationships with other people who do not feel threatened when they see others succeeding. If you look on your petty family members with pity instead of seeking their approval, their comments may hurt a little less.

While it may seem rude, he does not have to. They are his things. Similarly, you don't have to share your things with him.

Is the sibling possessive of objects or of you? If by possessive you mean your sibling won't share items, you can stop sharing your belongings with them. Draw a line to make sure the give and take between you is fair. If your sibling tries to take things by force, tell your parents. If your parents won't help, tell a teacher at school or other adult you trust. If your sibling is possessive of you, report it to a responsible adult, because this kind of mentality can be dangerous.

Confronting an abusive person usually leads to more abuse because they feel threatened when you criticize their behavior. If you feel able to forgive and can move on to a better life, that is probably the better option for your own sake. An abuser's actions only reflect badly on their character. Choosing to survive and live with dignity means you have won.

An overly controlling parent is usually someone who is fearful or has very low self-esteem. This may not be obvious because they will act the opposite to hide their true self. A parent may try to control you to alleviate their own fears about other things they cannot control or to feel powerful when others make them feel powerless. If you love your parent, you can try to be patient with their weaknesses (tyranny is a weakness), as long as they are not abusive. If your parent tries to control you by hitting, grabbing, throwing things at you, putting you down, and calling you names, seek help immediately from another adult or the police.

Ignore them. That is the best way to handle rude people. As they always seek attention, ignoring them lets them understand that you and your entire family doesn't give care for their rude behaviour. Before doing so, you can try to talk to them and be clear about the situation. If they don't understand, the advice given above works like a medicine for them.

Take him aside and talk to him about it. Speak from an “I” perspective and let him know how you feel. He may have been brought up in a tough environment or may be insecure with himself and his achievements and is likely just projecting his insecurities out on people. However, let him know that his own issues don’t excuse him to be rude to other family members. Be prepared, though, because, he may last out and make you feel like you’re the issue. Don’t let that occur. Just try and enjoy with other family members that will take you seriously and will respect you.

Talk to your step parent about how that makes you feel. Use “I” statements rather than “You” statements to make sure you’re not coming off accusatory but you’re expressing how you feel. You can say something like, “I don’t appreciate the comments being made about my sibling. Please stop.” If the step parent has a temper though, things could escalate. However, people tend to make nasty comments about someone else because of their own issues. Let your sibling know that what the step parent is saying about your sibling is a reflection of the step parent, not the sibling.

With great thought. If they are rude to you about you, then stand up to them and tell them that their comments are unacceptable and to change the way they are speaking to you. If they can't be civil and polite to you (especially if they are in your home) then they don't get to come over, or you don't go there. Maybe ask you partner to talk with them first, and if that does not help, always feel okay to stand up for yourself because nobody else will do it for you.

Your house, your rules. Talk to them about the situations that occurred, and politely explain you will not tolerate that behaviour again. If they have a problem with your rules, they do not need to by at your house. You don't have to host trouble-makers. If it is a child, it is good to talk to their parents about their behaviour. Find a way how to discipline the child, talk to the parents how they solve similar issues.

When family members make rude or invasive comments, especially in front of others, it is because of their own in securities or inner doubts( most likely unless they are socially stupid/awkward and think they are being funny.) Talk to him first, but if you feel uncomfortable or he doesn’t listen, talk to someone you trust, like your parents. If he is doing this to be mean, that is terrible and not classy or funny. Ask him what his intentions are, and tell him if there is something he should do about it to in order to release his loud mouth elsewhere or on different topics. Your brother loves you, so help him understand and forgive.

Ignore her, or, speak up. If she is constantly rude towards you and you're comfortable enough, tell a parent. It doesn't have to be a full-on, corny conversation, just let them know.

You call them instead! Maybe they're uncomfortable calling and think you wouldn't want to speak with them.