So apparently I'm self-obsessed

mine said "You love people (read: can’t be alone)" and it's......probably not wrong, loll. but it's a truth i wouold rather have not uncovered lol

I think I need to take a chill pill cuz this quiz just called me ruthless. Maybe I'm just a bit more of a workaholic than I like to admit haha

dang. it gave me 'You love people (read: can’t be alone).' 😬 they ain't wrong 😅

omg mine also said i'm self-obsessed! this is my worst nightmare for real, lol. i'd rather have "can't be alone" or "commitment issues"" anyday. but i do think you're right OP self-love isn't inherently a red flag, just do what you're doing but maybe pause sometimes to ask if you're loving other people as much as yourself. maybe also ask why your prone to self-love so much--do you feel like you don't get it enough from other people? i think that's why i'm like this honestly

Mine said i need to let people in because I'm like Self-reliant and I apparently don't let people in.

your ambtious (read: ruthless

Im apparently obsessed with others... I'm not surprised I just want a partner to make me happy or someone to talk to all the time.. which is probably why I'm commenting on a WikiHow quiz... :0

It said i'm independent( read: commitment issues) untrue... kinda >_<

I got you love people. That is 1000000% me.

I got that I'm ambitious! I'm actually quite pleased with it honestly--Slytherin all the way!!

Mine says i was independent, which is completly true.

I got the same, but I'm just the other thing as self-obsessed. That doesn't match anything with me, and I've said the truth in every answer. And I really dont think being a self-obsessed person is a red flag, I do not know.

I'm not anything like self-obsessed and I've said the truth in every answer.

I'm ruthless, whatever that means.

I am also self-obsessed! But I'm not rly like that

Mine says I'm ambitious.

Mine is Confident (Self obessed) I dont think I'm self obsessed bruh

This makes sense

mine said that I am way to independent

Mine is ruthless

me too!

same here

Accurate! This is so true. My boyfriend and I aren’t really getting a lot right now. We’ve been together 3 months. I keep making so many mistakes. It’s true. All I think of are my own feelings.

Same

mine said I have commitment issues,and that might be true SOMETIMES for like stuff I want/have to do like gaming and school work so yay,commitment issues,great...

mine says i cant be alone..... how is that bad

I got you love everyone and that's true I do I'm a very kind person but I also like being by myself.

mine said I have commitment issues,and that might be true SOMETIMES for like stuff I want/have to do like gaming and school work so yay,commitment issues,great...

Ambitious, I suppose that describes Me well enough.

I got you love people (read: can't be alone) That is true on a good way I always give people 2nd chances because I just can't help that I love everyone. But the negative thing is my love for "everyone" can get annoying sometimes I want us locked to the hip which my friends have told me before. Like I remember I few yrs ago I could not stand being alone I always had to be with someone or talking to someone and sometimes meant invading their personal life/space. I would call my friends or people I don't even talk anymore at 12:00 am or 3:00 am or 7:00 am just because I didn't want to be alone. Even though people loved that I loved them. The love that I gave them just showed that I was desperate for some type of companionship or something. Because one time I was following my bff the entire day because I didn't want to be lonely she told me "Go get a boyfriend or something" I was hurt but it was true I was clinging on to people and bad. Soon my parents noticed that, so they isolated me from my phone, TV etc. I took that time to realize how lonely I was and at the end of the day I realized sometimes I need time for myself and so do others. So gave people their space and that was when my friendships returned back and I lived a healthier life. I didn't change because of my results because this happened like 2 or 3 years ago I changed because there were times where people just didn't like my presence and it because of my clingyness. This is my story

Mine said that I love my friends too much and that I have a fear of abandonment. Like, Excuse me for loving my friends and family.

So I got that I’m self obsessed. I get that I care about myself but when has loving yourself been a crime? I’m not thinking about myself day and night, but I also don’t want to embarrass myself. I also didn’t like how it told me to get on a therapy thing, my mental health is fine, thank you very much, so that was a little offending. If I truly liked the guy I would go out of my way for him, not too busy daydreaming about myself. I know I might be a little preppy and all, but it’s called personality. But thanks for the quiz anyway.

Mine said ruthless but I’m so happy I need to be ambitious to achieve what I want (I’m just not the type of person to maliciously hurt people, I could just care less about others actions)

Mine is that "i love ppl/ i cant be alone" help

Apparently I love people and can't be alone ( which is true)

Um I got independent……. I’m dating someone and completely reliant on them. It also told me I should seek professional help😃

I also got "confident (read self-obsessed)". Btw I'm passing those quizzes just 4 fun. Don't really believe 'em, duh

I think being self obsessed is a good thing it means you know how to look after your self self care is the best care!

same!!!!! i do not think that its really a problem to be self-obsessed. is there anything wrong with loving the amazing, wonderful person that i am?!?

i got the same as you lol

lol I got that I love other people. haha is that a red flag? OH CRAP. is THAT why I'm single???

Nothing like me, (self obsessesed) I despise people who are that way. Ask anyone I know, they’ll tell you for sure.

Mine says that I love people lmao

Main said that my red flag is that I love people but actually I’m the most unsocial person in the world 😅😂

Mine said I can't be alone but I'm an ambivert so I can be alone

I agree with you!

Mine also said this. I think the description was a bit harsh. I can be alone and have whatever friends i want. However, I did take the test tho, sooooo....

my result said I was independent, how is that a red flag?

I'm Independent and looking back,yeah I am

My result says I'm ambitious aka ruthless

My said that I love ppl and i cant be alone when im the opposite I LOVE my alone time and don't want to be around ppl that often

You’re ambitious (read: ruthless).

My result was TRUE of course it was to independent (read: comitment issues) yes but I don’t!I’m just a loner! :(

My red flag is I'm too independent or afraid of commitment but I've been happily married for 12 years and hopefully we're going to grow old together and raise our kids so I'm confused

ambitious sounds like me tbh fair enough

Mine says that I love people and I can't be alone but that sounds nothing like me???

I got commitment issues 😓

Hi guys I kind of like all of the quizzes but all of the Harry Potter quizzes I am a pro at especially the one where you get to find out what house you're in you would really do that quiz

Apparently I have commitment issues 😂 I literally love commitment

I got that I love people

the fact that you commented this IS your red flag

My result said ''You love people (read: can't be alone)'',but I really care about friends and family so I don't think it's a red flag. Still, it's better than other red flags.

mine says i wanna be successful in everything but i wanna do that to help everyone else so is it really that bad?

My result told me that 'I love people'. Like, is that really so bad?

I got that I love people. So that basically means that I hate being alone

i love people too much but why is that so true❤️😭

My result says I'm too attached to people- like- no. I just am scared of being abandoned because It's happened to me one too many times. How is that a red flag?

im 'ambitious (read: ruthless)' which is probably true and i embrace it.

My red flag is being too independent, and I get that. We need community, we're social creatures, but capitalism makes a lot of us fractured and obsessively self-reliant and antisocial. Wish we had some third spaces/commons left and could afford to build mutual aid groups of people who care about each other and work together!

I am too abitious. That's not a lie at all

lol mine said i cant be alone. u cant blame me i was an only child

ambitious (ruthless)

I think a common one we all have is denial -_-

I got independent what’s wrong with that?

omg i alo got that

omg i also got that

mine said i love people and cant be alone lol i mean i do love people but i kinda dont rlly like being alone but i HATE my family sooo its half right but i can be alone if i want

I got cant be alone and its probably right

it said i don't like being alone it is so true tho

Self-obsessed. Aren’t you supposed to love yourself for who you are

I'm independent. Not really.... but also i like alone time. Its how I practice my religion! Hey, yall don't need to worry you will be happy.

nah its not a red flag because if your partner hates you or brings you down or is toxic in any way you look in the mirror and are like "yea no there wrong I'm like the most flashy the hottest and the most amazing thing they have ever been with there lucky to have me" and then if they dump you you say "your just mad your never gonna be like or look like perfection" (or at least that's what I did am I the toxic one!?!)

Mine also Self Obsessed shown as red flag

Mine was "You love people (read: can’t be alone)" and honestly yeah, I love all my friends and hate being alone to my thoughts, I hate my thoughts, they're so mean and they make me sad and confuse me, that's why I have so many friends...

I got "your ambitious (read:ruthless)

Mine said im ruthless cuz im ambitious like ouch...

Mine really said I love people but I am very introverted and hate people so what's up with that

Mine said my problem was that I'm a lone wolf. I have trouble commiting to stuff (?)

It said that I'm I'm ambitious (read: ruthless)

It said i love people cant blame them

I apparently can't be alone. Why can't I love everyone and everything?

Mine said ambitious aka ruthless. Its probably saying that because I never let anyone stopping from my dreams and goals. I am really trying to live my dream job and basically living my life

Im reckless

I got Ruthless

mine said independent too, is that bad? If anything, that's good, I can make do by myself, besides, its not like I'm in a box or something, If I need help I ask. tbh I'm good w/ just my dog and my cabin in the woods.....(it said I'm anti-social to, lol if only they knew how wrong they were....)

I think people get self-obsession and self-interest mixed up often. Self-obsession means you only care about yourself and aren't putting others first. Self-interest means that by working hard to become your best self, (Theoretically, say you become a millionaire by working by yourself knowing you would be rewarded in the future. You could've done a big business allowing you to give people jobs and donate money to people who need it!) you can help others because of what you have accomplished by yourself.

Apparently I am too independent. How is that bad?

Loving yourself isn’t a bad thing, but too much of anything can throw your life off balance. Self-confidence is key, but if everything revolves around you, you might be closing yourself off to other perspectives, relationships, and valuable lessons. Think about this: a mirror can reflect you, but it can't show you the world. If this result made you reflect, take it as an opportunity to grow, not as a judgment. The key is balance—love who you are, but stay curious about others too. In the end, self-love shines brightest when it also lights up those around you.

Same here

It sounds like you're owning it, and honestly, loving yourself isn't a red flag—it's important for self-confidence and growth! Self-obsession can sometimes be a fine line, but as long as it doesn't hurt others, embracing who you are is totally valid. As for what others got, I’m curious to hear their results too!

Nothing's wrong for caring for yourself, it's just when you put yourself in front of a loved one or a friend so many times is when it can be a problem.

i think everyone has there own problems but its what makes us us

Soooo.... I love people (Read: I can't be alone), which is true. I enjoy spending time chatting with my friends all day every day. How do I become more independent???

Mines says can’t be alone it’s so accurate