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Grinding is a sexy way to dance with someone at a club, party, or rave, and you don’t need any experience to get started. In this article, we’ll teach you everything you need to know about grinding, including how to catch someone’s attention and dance with confidence. We’ll also teach you how to add in some spicy moves and control how hot things get.
A Beginner’s Guide to Grinding for Girls
Establish a connection with someone on the dance floor, then position your body so you’re facing away from them. Bend your knees, move your hips and butt in a circular motion, and follow your partner’s lead. If you want to spice things up, you can grind against your partner’s pelvic area.
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Section 1 of 3:
Approaching the Guy
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Get the attention of a guy on the dance floor. Unless you already know the guy you want to dance with and he’s led you to the dance floor, you'll have to hit the dance floor on your own first. You can take a trusted friend or two with you so you’re more comfortable, or just do your own thing. [1] X Research source The key is to look like you’re having fun to catch someone’s eye and encourage them to dance with you.
- To show interest in a guy , give him a few quick or medium-length glances. You can tell he’s interested if he looks back, smiles, or keeps glancing at you. [2] X Research source
- Don't look around like you're desperate to dance with someone, even if you've found your target. Instead, let the guys see what a great time you're having, and they'll come to you!
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Move closer to the guy and “accidentally” bump into him. Once you've found your guy, and maybe even locked eyes with him from across the room, you and your friends can start moving closer to him. Make this a natural, gradual move, and wait for him to come closer to you. Keep dancing, making eye contact , and giving him occasional smiles to show interest. If you’re feeling bold, you can “accidentally” bump into him to make the first move. [3] X Research source
- Make your way over to him during the course of a song.
- Maintain a little distance as you move closer so you don’t crowd the guy.
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Brush up against the guy to communicate that you want to grind. If the guy hasn’t approached you or directly asked you to dance at this point, you have to initiate things. Step in front of him so you lock eyes, then spend a minute dancing in front of him. You can let your body brush against him by dancing super close and then pulling away slightly, or by lightly brushing against his arms or shoulders. Move to the beat and slowly turn so he can start dancing behind you. [4] X Research source
- If he still doesn’t get the memo, you can be direct and say something like, “You’re cute! Want to dance?” or “I love this song. Do you want to dance together?”
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Section 2 of 3:
Grinding with a Guy
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Position yourself in front of the guy, facing away from him. Typically, the guy stands right behind the girl and puts his hands on her hips while grinding. However, you can leave a few inches to a foot between your bodies if you don’t know him or don’t want to get too raunchy. [5] X Research source You can also tilt your upper body away from your partner so it doesn’t feel so intimate.
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Bend your knees and sway to the beat. Both you and the guy should bend your knees slightly so you’re able to swing your hips and grind against each other. Move back and forth, swaying your hips to the same beat as your partner. Keep an eye on their hips and shoulders to get in sync with them quickly.
- Grinding is all about following your partner’s lead and having fun. “Following [them] can help you feel more confident when you are dancing,” according to professional dancer and instructor William Orrock.
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Move your hips and butt in a circular motion. Following your partner’s lead, rotate your hips and butt in a continuous circular motion, keeping your knees slightly bent at all times. Your hips should move in the same direction as your partner’s. If you're feeling bold, you can touch the his pelvic area with your butt as you move it from side to side. [6] X Research source However, you set the rules and control how far things go!
- “You can get better at rolling your hips by practicing a figure 8 motion,” says Orrock. “Keep your hip rotations between the width of your shoulders and more side to side, and tilt your pelvis forward and backward to understand how to move directions.”
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Move your arms and chest to the beat of the music. Look ahead or slightly down as you work your arms and chest, moving your hips in sync with your partner. You can bring your arms down so they’re on your knees or near your waist, or wait for your partner’s hands to land on top of yours or around your waist as you continue to dance. [7] X Research source
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QuestionWhat do I do if I get pregnant from grinding?Community AnswerYou won't get pregnant, unless your way of "grinding" is having sex or maybe you are grinding naked, i.e. there is a possibility of transfer of body fluids.
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QuestionHow do I grind with my clothes off?Community AnswerOnce you're both naked, do the moves described in this article. Keep in mind this will very likely result in something far beyond grinding (sex), so don't attempt this unless you're prepared to go there.
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QuestionCan you orgasm from front grinding?Community AnswerIt's possible for some women, but not for most.
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Tips
- Make sure you see the face of the person you are grinding with at least once so there are no surprises and you can tell if they’re interested.Thanks
- If you want to get better at grinding, practice at home where no one is watching. You can record yourself rolling your hips and dancing with an imaginary partner.Thanks
- If your partner doesn't know what to do, take their hands and place them on your waist, stomach, or hips. Feel free to take the lead, even if you’re in front of them!Thanks
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- If a guy tries to grind on you and you're not feeling it, don't worry about being polite. Just say "No thanks" or walk away. You never have to do anything you're uncomfortable with.
- If the grinding is going well, make eye contact and smile. Or say something simple like "Having fun?" to break the ice. Go with what feels natural in the moment.
- If he touches you somewhere that feels wrong, feel empowered to move his hands back to a respectful spot. You get to decide what's okay and what's not.
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Warnings
- If the guy touches you in a way you don't want him to, step away, turn to your friends, or walk off. You don’t need to explain yourself, and consent is yours to give or take away at any point!Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://www.edmfestivalinsider.com/girls-learn-how-to-grind-dance-in-minutes-right-now/
- ↑ https://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/how-do-i-respectfully-grind-with-someone/
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To grind on a guy, first move close to him, make eye contact and smile to get his attention. If he smiles back and seems interested, move closer and “accidentally” brush against him a few times. If he plays along, stand in front of him, facing away and move your hips in a circular motion. You’ll need to bend your knees so you’re level with each other. You should also move your arms and chest to the beat of the music so your whole body is moving. For more tips, including how to do a side-to-side grind, read on!
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- "After grinding for a bit, I'll talk into a guy's ear and say he can look but don't touch. I'll do the touch the floor move quickly without panties on and give him a view to remember. Just be mindful of others and leave if he tries to touch." ..." more
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