How Sexually Compatible Are We?

Take this quiz to see how well you get along in bed!

Some people just have perfect bed chem. When you’re between the sheets with them, they do it all just the way you like it.

Answer these quick questions about yourself and someone else, and we’ll tell you how high your sexual compatibility is with them.

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Questions Overview

1. Which word best describes yourself sexually?
  1. Adventurous
  2. Tender
  3. Energetic
  4. Low-key
2. Which facial feature do you find most attractive in the person you’re thinking of?
  1. Their hair
  2. Their jawline
  3. Their lips
  4. Their eyes
3. Has anyone ever teased you about getting together with them?
  1. All the time. People are always saying we should link up.
  2. Now and then, sure! It was sort of embarrassing, though.
  3. Well, not exactly, but I think we'd have great chemistry.
  4. I don't know, or I don't remember.
4. Do you ever banter with them?
  1. Yes, and our conversations get sort of steamy. It's easy to get carried away.
  2. Sure, we keep it light but there's something electric, too.
  3. We talk, but it's mostly polite and friendly.
  4. Not yet, but I want to!
5. When you talk to them, what kind of signals do they send?
  1. I'm pretty sure they want me. I can sense it.
  2. They're definitely interested, but it's hard to say in what way.
  3. I wish the signals were stronger...
  4. I haven't spoken to them.
6. Have you ever caught them staring at you from across the room?
  1. Yes, and the way it makes me feel is totally electric.
  2. Yes, and they got flustered and looked away.
  3. Once or twice, maybe.
  4. No, I don’t think so.
7. How often do you find yourself thinking about them?
  1. 24/7. I can't get them out of my head.
  2. At least once a day.
  3. A few times a week.
  4. Every now and then, but not a lot, to be honest.
8. Have you ever had dreams about them?
  1. All the time.
  2. One or two.
  3. Not really, or I don't remember.
9. Pick the statement that best applies to the two of you:
  1. It's more than just attraction. There's something magnetic happening between us that I'm so excited to explore...
  2. I think they're hot, but I'm not sure how they feel about me.
  3. I think they're hot, and I'm pretty sure they think that I'm hot, too.
10. Pick a word to describe what you're feeling:
  1. Attracted
  2. Intrigued
  3. Interested
  4. Unsure

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All About Sexual Compatibility

How do you know if two people are sexually compatible? When you’re sexually compatible with someone, you won’t even have to think about it. You might be nervous, anxious, or excited, but your instincts take over and you have effortless fun. There’s no way to know for sure until you experience some fun with them.

More specifically, two people who are sexually compatible usually share sexual interests and fantasies, and their libidos and sexual energy or duration often align.

How do you match sexual compatibility?
The key to matching and enhancing sexual compatibility is healthy boundaries and clear communication. When you know what your partner wants, and your partner knows what you want, you can get everything you want, and that’s what chemistry is all about. And on the flipside, when you know what to avoid and what’s off limits, you’re way less likely to kill the mood.

Can a relationship survive sexual incompatibility?
It depends, honestly. If sex isn’t a huge or necessary part of the relationship, then totally! But if sex is important to one or both of you, but the bedroom scene isn’t working out, it’s time to take stock of your priorities. Ask yourself what isn’t working out, and if it’s something that can be solved by communication. Are you and your partner willing to try new things to satisfy each other? Do you need to look outside the relationship for sexual gratification? These are questions with different answers for every couple. Seeing a couple’s counselor together can go a long way to answering them.

What are some signs you are sexually compatible?

  • You’re excited to have sex.
  • Sex feels easy and fun.
  • You trust your partner to make you comfortable.
  • You’re consistently satisfied with sex.

What are some signs you’re not sexually compatible?

  • You don’t look forward to sex.
  • Sex doesn’t feel satisfying.
  • You feel uncomfortable being sexual with your partner.

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