Should you kiss on the first date?
M23 here. What are your thoughts on kissing on a first date? I can never tell when I go on a date whether I should try for a kiss, how to do it, or when. I often end up not even attempting it because I don't want to come off too strong and frankly I also don't want to be rejected. Is it safest to just wait until date number 2? Or if not, how do you initiate a kiss on a first date?
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I believe that you should wait until you invite her home to kiss her. Then, you can see where it goes, and you'll be in a position to take it further.
It can still be fun to just kiss, but it's sort of a half measure, and doesn't let you establish much of a physical connection.
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It can still be fun to just kiss, but it's sort of a half measure, and doesn't let you establish much of a physical connection.
If you're stressed about whether or not to kiss someone on a first date, my recommendation would be to not even try to go for a kiss. This may sound negative, but worrying the whole date about whether you should kiss or how to kiss her the right way may make you anxious and make the date more stressful than it has to be. I'd set the thought of kissing her aside and just focus on getting to know her and having a good time. If the kiss happens, it'll just be a bonus!
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It really depends on the person and the date. Some people make out or even hoook up on the first date. Others don't have their first kiss until months after being in an established relationship. It's up to you to assess how the girl is feeling and use your best judgement. Observe her body language and what she says. If she leans in close to you a lot, finds ways to touch you (like brushing her hand or leg against yours, leaning against you, etc.), and flirts with you, that could be a good sign that a kiss on your first date is viable.
I'd say your best opportunity for a kiss on the first date is at the end of it. Watch for the "linger"—this happens when the two of you initiate your goodbyes but the conversation somehow keeps going, and you draw out your date. This is a good sign that she could be waiting for you to kiss her! Lean in and see how she reacts. If she backs up or looks alarmed, pull back. But if she stays put and smiles or leans in, then go for it!
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I'd say your best opportunity for a kiss on the first date is at the end of it. Watch for the "linger"—this happens when the two of you initiate your goodbyes but the conversation somehow keeps going, and you draw out your date. This is a good sign that she could be waiting for you to kiss her! Lean in and see how she reacts. If she backs up or looks alarmed, pull back. But if she stays put and smiles or leans in, then go for it!
I think it depends. If, say it's a blind date, or you met on a dating app etc, and they're basically a stranger, then wait it out. But it also depends on how important/intimate kissing is to you. Some people don't kiss until their wedding, some people kiss their friends (different kisses of course). If you've been friends for a while, and you're pretty sure this is like a good/lasting thing, and both of you are ready for it, then go for it!
It also depends on what you're in it for. Are you looking for long term? A small fling? A sexual relationship? etc. However you need to make sure that you are looking for similar things. If one of you is just looking to be sexual, but the other long term... that's not going to work out very well. If it's long term, I'd say slow and steady wins the race, it's good to be cautious, just not too cautious. A small fling, take it your own pace, follow the chemistry, kiss if you want. Sexual relationship, I can't say anything.
If you're holding hands, or saying goodbye, greeting her, or even sitting at a cafe, you can always take her hand and kiss it. It's charming, it's sweet, and it allows physical touch. Don't kiss in public, in the middle of crowds, she might find it embarrassing, and you can't let the sparks fly as well. Do it somewhere private or quiet. You'll be standing rather close anyway, turn to her. Eye contact is important as well, if she looks away, then it's not the time to kiss, if she holds it, then you can start leaning in. From there, you'll know what to do. But keep the first kiss short, not a peck, but no longer than 5 seconds. Then if you both want, go in for more. Good luck!! And have fun :)
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It also depends on what you're in it for. Are you looking for long term? A small fling? A sexual relationship? etc. However you need to make sure that you are looking for similar things. If one of you is just looking to be sexual, but the other long term... that's not going to work out very well. If it's long term, I'd say slow and steady wins the race, it's good to be cautious, just not too cautious. A small fling, take it your own pace, follow the chemistry, kiss if you want. Sexual relationship, I can't say anything.
If you're holding hands, or saying goodbye, greeting her, or even sitting at a cafe, you can always take her hand and kiss it. It's charming, it's sweet, and it allows physical touch. Don't kiss in public, in the middle of crowds, she might find it embarrassing, and you can't let the sparks fly as well. Do it somewhere private or quiet. You'll be standing rather close anyway, turn to her. Eye contact is important as well, if she looks away, then it's not the time to kiss, if she holds it, then you can start leaning in. From there, you'll know what to do. But keep the first kiss short, not a peck, but no longer than 5 seconds. Then if you both want, go in for more. Good luck!! And have fun :)
Maybe as it depends how confident you are and how well you know the person
Voted: 🤔 Maybe
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I don't think there's a black and white answer here. Whether or not you should kiss someone on the first date really depends. If you had a good time and get the vibe that she did too, then generally, I say go for it--yes, there's a possibility you'll be rejected, there's always that possibility, but you gotta be brave!
You can lead up to a kiss throughout the date by "breaking the touch barrier" as soon as you can: hug her or shake hands when you meet, give little touches throughout the night, like high fives or touch her hair or just be physically close to her. This will signal that you're interested in being more physically intimate, so the kiss won't seem to just come out of nowhere; it will also increase sexual tension between you.
At the end of the date, though, if you're still not sure about kissing her on the mouth, try kissing her hand, or better yet give her a forehead kiss--it's cute, its pure, it's unexpected. And it lets her know your intentions. Good luck man!
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You can lead up to a kiss throughout the date by "breaking the touch barrier" as soon as you can: hug her or shake hands when you meet, give little touches throughout the night, like high fives or touch her hair or just be physically close to her. This will signal that you're interested in being more physically intimate, so the kiss won't seem to just come out of nowhere; it will also increase sexual tension between you.
At the end of the date, though, if you're still not sure about kissing her on the mouth, try kissing her hand, or better yet give her a forehead kiss--it's cute, its pure, it's unexpected. And it lets her know your intentions. Good luck man!
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