15 Sincere Apology Letters to Your Boyfriend for Any Situation

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When you mess up in a relationship, it can be hard to write an honest, genuine letter to your boyfriend asking his forgiveness. Don’t be left hanging—instead, keep reading for 15 apology letters to your boyfriend you can use whenever you need to say “I’m sorry.” They touch on different relationship scenarios, from having a fight or breaking his trust to not showing him enough support. We’ve also spoken to clinical psychologists and relationship specialists to offer solid advice on crafting an apology letter sincerely and thoughtfully.

Writing an Apology Letter to Your Boyfriend

Relationship counselor Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW, suggests apologizing right away to show remorse and accountability. Start your letter with a statement apologizing for your actions, like, “I want to apologize for the way I talked to you today. I know I let my emotions get the better of me, and it hurt your feelings.”

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15 Apology Letters to Your Boyfriend

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    Heart-Touching My Love,
    I am truly sorry for the harsh words I uttered yesterday. They were unnecessary and do not reflect my true feelings for you. I deeply regret the pain I caused and hope we can discuss this issue openly to heal and move forward together. Please forgive my thoughtlessness. Your voice and feelings are incredibly important to me, and I value them more than you can imagine. Let’s work through this together.
    All my love,
    [Name]     [1]

    Meet the wikiHow Experts

    Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW , is a relationship counselor and psychotherapist specializing in individual and couples therapy.

    Gera Anderson, PsyD , is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in integrated behavioral health, neuropsychological assessment, and pain management.

    Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD , is a licensed clinical psychologist with over 25 years of practice in holistic health psychotherapy.

    Lena Dicken, Psy.D , is a clinical psychologist specializing in therapy for anxiety, depression, life transitions, and relationship difficulties.

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    Hurting His Feelings Dear [Name],
    I want to apologize for the way I talked to you today. I know I let my emotions get the better of me, and it hurt your feelings. There is no one on Earth that I would rather be with every day, and your thoughts and ideas are incredibly valuable to me.
    I know I tend to like things a certain way, and to be honest, it can make me feel a little vulnerable to be making decisions with you. It's not an excuse for the way I acted, but I do want you to know I plan on working on how I communicate my feelings to you so you can see how much I really do respect and value who you are as a person.
    Love,
    [Name]
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    After Having a Fight Dear [Name],
    There's no excuse for the way I just kept snapping at you today. Thinking back on it, I realized that I came out of the gate ready for a fight and kept prodding you until it turned into one. Just because I'm stressed about work and managing all of my other responsibilities doesn't mean I should have taken it out on you.
    It hurts me to think about how much my callousness hurt you because you're the last person I'd want to cause any pain. I promise I'll find another way to let out my stress instead of targeting you with it in the future.
    Love,
    [Name]
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    Being Jealous My darling,
    I realize my jealousy was uncalled for and hurtful. I trust you completely and love you deeply, and I am committed to working on my insecurities to ensure our relationship continues to grow stronger. I deeply regret any moments I made you feel less valued. You are everything to me, and I am committed to making amends. I promise to elevate you through my actions and words, ensuring you feel loved and respected every day.
    All my love,
    [Name]
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    Sorry for Being Rude Dear [Name],
    While I know that just saying sorry for being so rude to you in front of your family is not enough, I know that I need to say it to you anyway. I am so sorry for my rudeness and know that saying the words to you is not enough to make things better. I want to be a wonderful girlfriend for you. And I am determined to change so I can be a better girlfriend. I promise I will make things better for us. You are the guy that I want to be with, and I am going to prove it to you. I hope you can forgive me for messing things up so badly.
    Forgive me,
    [Name]     [2]
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    When You Lied Dear [Name],
    I've really betrayed your trust by lying to you, and that's unacceptable. In trying to protect you from hearing the truth, which I knew was going to cause you pain, I ended up doubling the blow. I shouldn't have taken your agency from you by deciding what was best instead of just telling you the truth from the jump. I promise I won't take advantage of your trust again, and I'll be honest in the future.
    I understand if you need time to trust me again, but I'd like it if you could give me the chance to regain your trust.
    Love,
    [Name]     [3]
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    Betraying His Trust Dear [Name],
    We have something so good together, and I am afraid that I might have ruined that forever. I am eternally sorry that I completely betrayed your trust. A good, healthy relationship should be built on honesty, and I was not completely honest with you about what has been going on lately. You cannot imagine how remorseful I feel over this. You deserve to have a girlfriend who is honest with you, and I have fallen short of that standard. I promise to do better from now on. I do not want to risk losing you. I need to learn to be comfortable in my own skin and to share everything about myself with you. Please give me a chance to gain your trust back. I love you.
    Love,
    [Name]     [4]
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    Having an Affair Dear [Name],
    I really messed up this time. Whenever you feel ready, I’d love to meet face-to-face. I promise to just listen this time. I’m going to spend some serious time working on myself and changing my behavior. I hope you can forgive me for this very unforgivable offense. You have always believed in me and supported me. I am sorry I’ve hurt you like this and betrayed our relationship. I am sorry from the core of my heart for hurting you this badly. I love you and miss you.
    Please forgive me,
    [Name]     [5]
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    A Romantic Plea My dear,
    You are a truly amazing guy who deserves to be with a woman who is just as patient and selfless as you are. Unfortunately, I did not meet all of these standards and did not give you what you deserve in a relationship. This is something that I am determined to change. I completely accept the blame for the things that I did to hurt our relationship, even if it was not on purpose. For some reason, it is so hard for me to say that I am sorry, even when I know that I am the one who is in the wrong.
    What we have is truly special, and to me, it is something that cannot be replaced. Our relationship really is the very best thing that I have in my life, and I want to work on making it better. Please forgive me for being so stubborn and unwilling to change things. I want to work things out between us, and I hope you do too.
    Your stubborn sweetheart,
    [Name]     [6]
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    A Sad Apology Dear [Name],
    I know that you have been feeling like you are not a priority in my life at all, and I am very sorry that my thoughtless actions have caused you to feel this way. You mean the world to me, and I am so sorry if my insensitive and neglectful actions and words have caused you to doubt how much I love you. My love for you is still as strong as it ever was, and I am sorry for putting you second when you should be first. Your feelings deserve to be acknowledged, and you deserve to be heard.
    I want to be a better girlfriend to you. I want to do my part to help make our relationship flourish and grow stronger. I know that I can do this, and I know that you are the only guy for me. Please forgive me for everything, and I will do my best to make it all up to you. I realize that I have a lot to prove to you, and I hope that you will give me the chance to do it.
    Always yours,
    [Name]
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    A Funny “I’m Sorry” Dearest [Name],
    This letter may come as a surprise to you, especially after my not-so-wonderful behavior over the last few months. I know I have been snapping at you unnecessarily, and I can see how you have been putting up with my mean comments. I now realize how much you love me and how lucky I am to have someone like you in my life. I’m sorry for being such a mean girl to you. I have never tried to hurt you intentionally, but sometimes life feels so tough that my thinking gets clouded by frustration. But I promise to change my behavior. And love you the way a wonderful person like you deserves to be loved. I hope you can sense my penitence and plea for peace through this letter.
    Yours lovingly,
    [Name]
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    Short Dear [Name],
    I deeply regret not listening to you when you needed my attention the most. Please forgive my thoughtlessness. Your voice and feelings are incredibly important to me, and I value them more than you can imagine. Let’s work through this together.
    Your love always,
    [Name]
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    Taking Him For Granted Dear [Name],
    I am sorry for taking you for granted. You are the foundation of my life, and I cherish every moment we share. I want to make a conscious effort to dedicate more time to us to be together and strengthen our bond. I love you dearly, and it pains me to know I’ve hurt you. Let us work on healing together, improving our communication, and strengthening the love that binds us.
    Please forgive me.
    Love,
    [Name]
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    Being Insensitive My dearest,
    Overlooking your feelings was a mistake for which I deeply apologize. I am committed to becoming more attentive and caring, ensuring that your emotional needs are met and that you feel valued every single day. The words I chose were hurtful and completely unnecessary. I vow to use only words that uplift us both from now on, fostering a more loving and supportive environment in our relationship.
    Love,
    [Name]
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    Not Being Supportive My love,
    I’m deeply sorry for not supporting your dreams lately. You deserve a partner who believes in you unconditionally. I want to be that person for you and support your aspirations without reservations. I’m truly sorry for not being there when you needed me most. From now on, I promise to be your unwavering pillar of strength and support, ensuring I’m always by your side during the times you need me the most.
    Forever yours,
    [Name]     [7]
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How to Write an Apology Letter to Your Boyfriend

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    Show remorse by acknowledging that you hurt him. It’s easy to say you’re sorry for hurting his feelings , but it's harder to recognize that your words or actions caused him pain. Miller believes that “opening that door of communication for your partner provides a platform for them to ask any questions that they have about what happened and what went wrong." [8] Once the door is open, and he knows how sorry you are, it’ll be easier to fix.
    • Avoid saying “I’m sorry you feel that way.” This comes across as insincere and doesn’t hold you responsible for things you said or did. Licensed clinical psychologist Gera Anderson, PsyD, suggests instead saying something like, "I’m sorry that my actions made you angry; that was not my intent." [9]
    • Other alternatives to “I’m sorry you feel that way” include:
      • I was so tired after a double shift and shouldn’t have been so angry with you about locking the door. I’m sorry that happened.
      • I understand you’re feeling like I don’t support you. My not coming to your speech is a pretty good example, and I should have been there.
      • Is there anything I can do to make things different? I promise to catch myself the next time I get moody over eating dinner together.
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    Be specific about what happened. Once you’ve acknowledged what you might have done, use details when apologizing for being moody , or for a disagreement or fight you had. It won’t excuse you, but it can give him a clearer sense of where you were coming from. Relationship psychologist Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD, notes that you can use detail to be genuine. “State what you are sorry for and make sure it directly relates to the actions you committed that caused the hurt.” [10]
    • Going into detail when apologizing after a heated argument or bad experience gives what happened context you both can use to work things out.
    • Being straightforward is important, whether you need to apologize for cheating on your partner or just being in a bad mood. Dr. Tovar also says that “directly stating what you did wrong and how you know your actions were improper can go a very long way to the person you hurt. Show them you care by admitting your mistake." [11]
    • Here are some examples of specific apology statements:
      • When I said I didn’t care about how you felt, that wasn’t true. I felt overwhelmed by my sister’s phone call, and couldn’t deal with any more stress. I’m so deeply sorry I said that.
      • It wasn’t right that I left you at the bar when you said you wanted to talk to your friends. I should have been patient and not stormed off. I feel terrible after it.
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    Ask for their forgiveness. One of the most important parts of a genuine apology letter to your boyfriend is asking them to forgive you. It’s ultimately up to him to decide when and how he can forgive you; he may need time and space to think things over. Miller trusts that you should "be patient and understand that whatever happened may have broken this person's trust. It may take a little time for them to come back around." [12]
    • I value our relationship and will do everything I can to earn your forgiveness.
    • I messed up, and I'm truly sorry. You didn't deserve that, and I feel terrible for hurting you.
    • I'm deeply sorry for my behavior. I was out of line, and I regret my actions. Please forgive me.
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    Express a genuine commitment to change and make things right. Miller suggests “apologizing, but then follow up with actions, whether that be showing that they can trust you again, or that you're willing to make more effort." [13] When trying to make up with your boyfriend after hurting him , show specific ways you intend to work on aspects of yourself you don’t like and restate how much he deserves better. Here are some examples of committing to change: [14]
    • I’m committed to making it up to you. Please let me make you dinner tomorrow night.
    • I've thought about what I can do to show you I'm sorry. Can we talk about what would help you feel better?
    • I'm willing to [behavior or actions to make things better], if that would help. Please let me try.
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    Lena Dicken, Psy.D

    Clinical Psychologist
    Dr. Lena Dicken is a Clinical Psychologist based in Santa Monica, California. With over eight years of experience, Dr. Dicken specializes in therapy for anxiety, depression, life transitions, and relationship difficulties. She utilizes an integrative approach combining Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioral, and Mindfulness-based therapies. Dr. Dicken holds a BS in Integrative Medicine from the University of Hawaii at Manoa, an MA in Counseling Psychology from Argosy University Los Angeles, and a Doctor of Psychology (Psy.D) in Clinical Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology at Westwood. Dr. Dicken’s work has been featured in GOOP, The Chalkboard Magazine, and in numerous other articles and podcasts. She is a licensed psychologist with the state of California.
    Lena Dicken, Psy.D
    Clinical Psychologist

    Give them space after apologizing. Try saying, “‘I understand that you're still upset with me, and that I've hurt you deeply. I want our relationship to continue, and when you are ready to talk, I'm ready to listen.

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FAQs: Writing an Apology Letter to Your Boyfriend

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    How do I say sorry in a text? Texting your boyfriend after a fight is more effective when you express remorse sincerely, as you would in a traditional apology letter. Be specific about how your actions hurt your boyfriend, and how you will make amends in the future. Apologize through text by keeping your message on the shorter side, though, since long texts leave more room for potential misinterpretation.
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    Is a text apology a real apology? A text apology can be as sincere as an in-person apology, depending on the seriousness of why you’re saying “I’m sorry.” If you offended him with an earlier text, or it’s impossible to apologize face-to-face, texting is usually acceptable. If you had a terrible fight or betrayed him in a big way, though, ask if he’ll speak to you in person via text and save the rest.
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    What if my apology isn't accepted? Instead of focusing on your apology being accepted, it’s more important to show patience by giving your boyfriend space to think. It’s ultimately up to him whether he decides to forgive you or try to work it out. As long as you share your sincerest apologies using thoughtful, specific language, he’ll be able to know how sorry you are for whatever occurred between you.
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    Can an apology fix a relationship? An apology letter full of emotional sorry messages is not an absolute quick fix to any relationship. What it can do is open up communication between you both and help get to the heart of any issues you’re experiencing as a couple. An apology letter is an opportunity to reconnect while acknowledging your wrongdoing; it’s also a chance to focus on improving yourself in the relationship going forward.
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