Am I a bisexual

07/08/25 4:57pm

I'm very straight till now, but months ago, i flirted with my best friend online. Means she's a lesbian but I'm not, but I felt something. After that I met her in person and the whole situation was so awkward. Till today whenever I get close to her it's very awkward. I actually don't feel anything for her, but the other time I was sleeping and accidentally my other friend touched me, and I just got some feeling. It was different and I kept thinking it the whole day but I don't feel for her now anything. Sometimes i feel like kissing my best friend. i just wanna see how it feels but, I'm afraid it will change things for her or me too. I really wanna be a bi, but I don't feel attracted to girls normally, i sometimes like some influencers like tomboys. Or am I slightly changing day by day maybe?

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Hunter Rising
wikiHow Staff

07/08/25 6:00pm

How you define your sexuality really depends on what feels like the right label for you. Being bisexual doesn't necessarily mean you have equal attraction to both genders, so it's okay if you still prefer one gender over the other. Even if you typically identify as straight, it's normal for feelings to shift and it's perfectly okay if you want to see how a kiss feels with another girl.

When you're figuring out if you're bi, take a moment to reflect on what qualities you're attracted to and what connections make you feel the safest when you're being your true self. If you know anyone else who's bisexual, ask them about how and when they realized their sexuality and consider if you feel similar. If you're still not sure, try taking wikiHow's "Am I Bisexual?" quiz to see if the label is right for you.

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Samantha Fox, MS, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist

07/08/25 6:07pm

Expanding on that, you can label yourself as heterosexual and still experience some attraction to the same sex. If you want to figure out if you're straight or bisexual, consider what comes to mind when you think about what you're attracted to. Think about which gender you fantasize about, which gender you picture in your mind when you think of being in a relationship, and which genders you're more comfortable and connected with when you're showing affection.

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