How to Make a Girl Blush: What to Say, Text & Do So She Feels Special

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If you're trying to woo a girl, there's nothing like seeing her face flush red as she tries to suppress a smile. Seeing this is a major sign that you're doing something right, but it takes some strategy and tact to pull off. We talked to dating coaches and relationship counselors to show you the best ways to make her blush, including things to say or text, as well as what not to do.

Making Her Blush: Quick Tips

  1. Offer her an earnest and respectful compliment.
  2. Make eye contact with her and hold it for a few seconds.
  3. Do a little light flirting to make her comfortable.
  4. Tease her gently so you get an opportunity to banter.
  5. Tell an inside joke that only she’ll get.
  6. Impress her friends or peers.
  7. Show her how much she means to you with a thoughtful gift.
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Making a Girl Blush

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  1. Offering a girl a compliment is the simplest, most direct way to make a girl blush. Dating coach John Keegan recommends just telling her that she caught your attention, but there are lots of ways to compliment girl. [1] Almost everyone appreciates a good compliment. If you choose the right words—walking the thin line between sincere and funny—she just might blush. (For a list of great compliments, check out the section below .)
    • Make the compliment about her choices or her personality instead of just her looks or her belongings, like “You know how to choose a dress,” instead of “You look good in that dress.”
    • Explore topics besides her looks. For example, her smarts and artistic abilities are also great things to bring up.
    • Don't lay it on too thick. One or two compliments per conversation are fine. A constant string of compliments will usually make people feel uncomfortable.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 431 wikiHow readers how they prefer to let a girl know they think she’s cute, and 64% of them said giving a casual compliment with a light smile. [Take Poll]
  2. Sometimes a single look can say a thousand words. [2] When you catch her eye as you talk, smile at her and hold her gaze for a few seconds longer than you normally would, Keegan suggests. [3] If she’s shy, even the slightest amount of eye contact may turn her cheeks pink. If she smiles back at you, it might be a sign she feels attracted to you (though you shouldn't go off of this alone).
    • When something else catches your attention or someone else starts talking, break your eye contact. Don't keep staring at the girl—this can come across as creepy leering.
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  3. Not all girls will blush over something as innocent as eye contact. However, a little good-natured flirting can usually do the trick. Just like a compliment, don’t lay it on too thick, and keep it light and playful. The simplest way to flirt is to give her a quick wink when you catch her eye, then look away like nothing happened. This works best when someone else is talking.
    • Another basic way to flirt is to give someone a ridiculous compliment with a lighthearted delivery. For example, if the girl flexes to show off her bicep, you might say something like, "Oh man, I bet you could lift more than me.”
    • Just don’t be condescending—she’ll probably be able to!
  4. Teasing takes a little finesse, but it works great when you get good at it. Your goal here isn’t to embarrass the girl, but instead to give her a chance to tease you right back. Always keep your teasing lighthearted, and back off immediately if you sense that she feels offended or genuinely embarrassed. Relationship counselor Jason Polk warns us to never tease someone at their own expense. [4]
    • A good rule is to tease her about her positive qualities instead of her negative qualities. For example, if she’s a great driver, you might say something like, “I feel like I’m in a Fast & Furious movie with you behind the wheel. Who are we racing?”
  5. Dating coach Laura Bilotta says cracking a joke is a great way to get closer to her and build rapport. [5] When you're hanging out in a group of people, try making a joke that only she will get . It can be a reference to something from your shared past, something funny that happened to you two but not the other people, or something that references a mutual interest. If you pull it off, she'll feel special. Out of all the people, you singled out her for some humor.
    • Thinking up an inside joke is up to you—only you can search your shared history for something amusing to say.
    • For example, if you both showed up late to a party, next time you see her, you might say, “Good to see we’re both on time to this one.”
  6. Girls listen to their peers. If she hears her friends or family talking about what an amazing, desirable person you are, she may start thinking about you in new romantic ways. Your best bet for this to happen is to simply present your best self to impress her circle. Look as good as you can, have confidence in yourself, and make an effort to be friendly to all of her peers.
    • If you're already dating, impressing her parents with your politeness and achievements can be a major plus. For many girls, the approval of their parents can mean the world.
    • A little old-fashioned chivalry and good manners in front of the parents can make you look like an absolute gentleman . If you really want to look good, consider getting a clean haircut as well.
  7. “When you show a girl that you are genuinely interested in what they love, understanding why they love it, and wanting to learn more about it, it makes them feel like you care about them,” love coach Kate Dreyfus tells us. [6] Feeling seen and cared for is one of the best ways to make a girl blush. Here are some ideas.
    • Write her a sweet, hand-penned note.
    • Make her a mix with her favorite songs on it.
    • Take her to your favorite hiking or camping spot.
    • Share a picnic somewhere with a gorgeous view.
    • Treat her to a semi-fancy night out just because.
  8. On the other hand, if the girl you're trying to make blush isn't your girlfriend, making your romantic intentions known can certainly make her blush. This can be something as simple as breaking the touch barrier, Keegan says—for instance, touching her shoulder as you laugh or a little flirting. [7] If you want to be drastic, consider asking the girl out . She's certain to be flattered, even if she doesn't feel the same way. If she does, you have an exciting new relationship to explore!
  9. A flirtatious touch is a fabulous way to get closer to her, relationship coach Candice Mostisser says. [8] Keep it subtle and respectful, though, and always ask permission. Ask if you can sit next to her instead of across from her. When you see her, give her a hug, or shake her hand while you also touch her elbow. These little moments of contact can go a long way.
    • If you don’t know her well, avoid things like caressing her cheek or touching her thigh. These are probably not very welcome.
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What to Text or Say to a Girl to Make Her Blush

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    Drop an earnest compliment about her personality or features. “Any sincere and personal compliment should work,” relationship therapist Alysha Jeney tells us. “For example, you might say, ‘Your freckles are the cutest thing I have ever seen.’” [9] Compliments on her personality work best. Of course, keep it respectful and non-sexual, or she’ll be blushing for the wrong reasons. When in doubt, her eyes are always a great thing to comment on.
    • “Sorry, it’s just that we made eye contact just now and I didn’t want to look away.”
    • “Your hair is absolutely gorgeous.”
    • “I love hearing your laugh. It’s intoxicating.”
    • “I’ve never seen a dress quite like that. You totally own it.”
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    Ask her a flirtatious question. Asking her a question puts the ball in her court. And if it’s a flattering, flirtatious question, she’ll probably get a little flustered trying to think up an answer—in a good way! In a pinch, Mostisser says that making hypothetical plans together is a great way to flirt. [10]
    • “Oh, I know Katy! Would you like to get together sometime as a group? Any excuse to see you again.”
    • “I can tell you have a generous spirit. Is that why you want to be a nurse?”
    • “That’s incredible? Where did you learn to do that?”
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    Tell her you’re glad to see her. Sometimes, a little appreciation goes a long way. People want to be wanted, and if you tell her graciously how much you enjoy seeing her, she’s sure to turn red. “It can be something as simple as… “I'm so glad you're here,” Mostisser assures us. [11]
    • “Thank God you’re here. I was starting to worry this party was a dud.”
    • “Never thought I’d run into you here, but I’m so glad I did.”
    • “I was hoping I’d see you again soon! Tell me what you’ve been up to.”
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    Tell her you’ve been thinking about her. Everyone loves to hear that someone thought about them when they weren’t around. Next time you see her, tell her about something that reminded you of her. Keegan gives us an example: “I was watching this documentary and they talked about this conversation that we had, and it just made me think of you and I wanted to say hi.” [12] Or, text her the moment something makes you think of her to make it seem more enthusiastic.
    • “I remembered you talking about this book, so I picked it up. It’s incredible. You have great taste.”
    • “I just saw that guy you told me about. He had a lot of great things to say about you.”
    • “I’ve been wanting to tell you that I saw an actress that looks just like you.”
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What Not to Do

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  1. When it comes to complimenting a girl, you'll want to avoid anything that makes her feel like a sex object (or a "piece of meat") rather than a feeling, thinking human being. [13] Keep your compliments about her beauty, her intelligence, her decisions, and her personality. Avoid the following subjects:
    • Her sex characteristics (e.g., bust size).
    • How revealing or non-revealing her clothing is.
    • Her race or ethnicity.
    • Outward identifiers of her religion or social status.
  2. While it's OK to be attracted to someone or be captivated by someone's beauty, getting too fixated on her looks can be a great way to ruin your chances. [14] In the best case scenario, it’s considered creepy, so avoid it . In the worst case, this sort of behavior can constitute harassment. Actions and comments that are inappropriately personal or sexual or personal are off-limits. Avoid the following sorts of actions:
    • Staring or ogling—especially if you're looking below the neck.
    • Asking prying questions about her dating or sex history.
    • Pressing her for a chance to hang out together if she says "no" or offers an excuse for why she can't.
    • Making any sort of comment that insinuates that she should do something sexual with you.
  3. Touching someone inappropriately without their consent is wrong. At best, it is cause for this person to get angry with you. At worst, it can be a crime. Mostisser tells us that while touching can be flirtatious, you should ask permission first. [15] If you haven't already established that touching is OK, keep your hands to yourself except for harmless flirtatious gestures like briefly touching her shoulder as you laugh.
    • If she appears uncomfortable or asks you to stop, then stop—even if you don't think you're doing anything wrong.
  4. As noted above, gentle teasing can be a great way to flirt with a girl and get her to blush. However, there's a fine line to be aware of here. Teasing a girl in a way that makes her feel self-conscious or under attack can lead to hurt feelings, anger, and even lasting grudges. Avoid the following sorts of topics as a general rule:
    • Negative comments about her appearance or weight.
    • Serious criticisms of her personal, political, or religious views.
    • Gossipy comments about her family or the people she spends time with.
    • Mean-spirited imitations of her tics or habits.
  5. A few sincere presents or a fancy night out every once in a while can be great for showing that a girl means a lot to you. However, trying to throw your weight around by spending lots of money on your outings or buying luxurious gifts isn't a good idea. [16] It may make her blush, but her blushing is likely to be out of embarrassment for you. Money is entirely separate from your ability to make girls feel special.
    • People with lots of money can be romantic, but this isn't why they're romantic. Trying to woo girls with money is likely to make you end up broke or in the company of women with poor life priorities.
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      • If you're dating, do romantic gestures like writing sweet notes or planning cute dates. Showing you care deeply can bring on a blush. But don't come on too strong.
      • Give sincere compliments about her looks, talents, or personality. An unexpected, thoughtful compliment can easily make someone blush.
      • Don't try to impress her with gifts or money. Focus on emotional connection. A girl who truly cares won't be wooed by material things.
      • Make eye contact and smile when you talk to her. Holding her gaze just a bit longer than usual can create intimacy.
      • Tease her playfully about silly things, but never tease about sensitive stuff like appearance.
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      1. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201404/5-secret-powers-eye-contact
      3. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      4. ↑ Jason Polk, LCSW, LAC. Relationship Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 November 2021.
      5. ↑ Laura Bilotta. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 9 February 2023.
      6. ↑ Kate Dreyfus. Holistic Love Coach & Intuitive Healer. Expert Interview. 10 September 2021.
      7. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      8. ↑ Candice Mostisser. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.
      9. ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
      1. ↑ Candice Mostisser. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.
      2. ↑ Candice Mostisser. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.
      3. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      4. ↑ https://www.apa.org/education-career/ce/sexual-objectification.pdf
      5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/out-of-the-ooze/201707/how-to-avoid-creeping-women-out
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      7. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/201907/do-women-really-prefer-men-with-money-over-looks

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      To make a girl blush, catch her eye when you’re talking to somebody else, smile at her, and look at her for just a bit longer than you normally would. If she’s shy, that may be enough to make her blush. You can also give her a simple, unexpected compliment, like “You look great in that outfit.” Alternatively, try teasing her gently about something lighthearted, or flirt with her to make her blush. No matter what you do, treat her as a real person and not just a sex object, and avoid anything creepy like staring at her body. To learn how to make a girl blush by cracking jokes around other people, keep reading!

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