I am ugly, what do I do
So the title kind of says it all lol. I am still in high school and stuff and I am kind of ugly. I do not have any deformities and I am not overweight so losing weight would not help me much either. About a year ago, I was really dedicated to becoming pretty so I woke up early and did a whole beauty routine with hair, makeup, outfit, everything basically. And I was still rejected by pretty much every boy in my school. I have always been teased for my looks ever since middle school and got rejected a lot in elementary. Of course, my family and friends call me pretty but I know they are lying. On a good day, I guess I look average but most of my pictures turn out terrible and my smile is really bad, not because of my teeth but just the way it looks. Makeup does not change much and I am just not sure what to do because I know people will say to focus on grades or something else but I am a straight A student and all I want is a hot boyfriend but it seems like I will never get one because no matter how much effort I put, I am still not hot and I dont think I will ever be. It is just hard to wake up knowing I have to deal with looking like myself every day and knowing that I can never get married or have a family. I doubt plastic surgery will help me much either. *And I know for sure I am ugly as when every guy rejects me, he calls me ugly to my face, and Ive been rejected about 30 times now* Im not sure what type of advice Im even expecting lol, but im just tired so I dont know what to do anymore.
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First of all, I totally feel you! It’s completely normal to feel insecure and unhappy with the way you look, especially in high school (which can be pretty brutal). I won’t say that conventional beauty standards don’t exist—they definitely do, and it can be tough to feel confident or desired when you don’t quite fit them. The thing is, beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. I know, it sounds cliché and hard to believe, but it really is true! Everyone is attracted to different things, and even if you don’t feel like you fit the common definition of “beautiful” or “pretty,” I promise, there will be someone out there who thinks you’re absolutely perfect. One thing to keep in mind is that confidence is always attractive, so the best thing you can do is own who you are completely, without trying to hide or change the way you look. Once you accept yourself for who you are and come to appreciate your unique, one-of-a-kind look, your real beauty (which has more to do with who you are than how you appear) will truly shine through!
(P.S. If you’re looking for some encouraging or relatable music, I highly recommend Audrey Hobert’s new album. Her song “Phoebe” in particular deals with a lot of these issues, and it’s a very empowering and inspiring track.)
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(P.S. If you’re looking for some encouraging or relatable music, I highly recommend Audrey Hobert’s new album. Her song “Phoebe” in particular deals with a lot of these issues, and it’s a very empowering and inspiring track.)
To expand on the idea of boosting your confidence, if you feel unattractive, mirror work will really help. Stand in front of a mirror and just look at yourself. At first, lots of critical thoughts might come up, and your mind might be focused on picking your appearance apart. It’s important to remember that those initial critical thoughts are not the truth—they're just the voice of your inner critic speaking. The more you ignore the inner critic and focus on finding things to appreciate about yourself, the more confident you will feel.
Look in the mirror and find something to appreciate about the way you look. You might like how your hair looks, for instance, or you might love your skin. You might notice that your collarbone is really beautiful. Actively practice looking in the mirror and finding things to appreciate, instead of things to criticize. If you do this, over time you’ll start to build a practice of appreciating how you look rather than criticizing it. Your confidence will build because you’re focusing on what’s great about you, and you’re ignoring the critical voice that likes to point out your flaws.
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Look in the mirror and find something to appreciate about the way you look. You might like how your hair looks, for instance, or you might love your skin. You might notice that your collarbone is really beautiful. Actively practice looking in the mirror and finding things to appreciate, instead of things to criticize. If you do this, over time you’ll start to build a practice of appreciating how you look rather than criticizing it. Your confidence will build because you’re focusing on what’s great about you, and you’re ignoring the critical voice that likes to point out your flaws.
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