April Davis
Matchmaker
April Davis is a Matchmaker based in Minneapolis, Minnesota. She is the Founder and President of LUMA, a high-end executive matchmaking service designed for singles seeking a long-term committed relationship. April established LUMA in 2010 with the belief that everyone deserves to be in a healthy, loving, and long-lasting relationship. April employs a team of professional matchmakers with over two decades of experience, committed to finding their members the person they will spend the rest of their lives with. In addition to their matchmaking offerings, LUMA offers date coaching services. LUMA was featured on Inc. 5000’s list of Fastest Growing Companies, and April was featured for her work on Bravo's Hit Reality Show, Real Housewives of the OC. Through LUMA’s customized approach for members, dating coaching services, and cultivated connection-building, April has designed a business to help clients meet their perfect match. She received a Master’s Degree in Business Administration, Management and Operations and a BA in Accounting and Business/Management from The College of St. Scholastica.
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What can a man do to be more romantic?
Romance doesn't need to include a grand gesture or expensive gift. It's about making someone feel valued, seen, and emotionally connected to you. As a matchmaker, I've seen that the most romantic men are the ones who pay attention, stay present in their relationship, and aren't afraid to show affection.
Here are a few ways men can be more romantic:
1. Listen, then act.
Romance starts with paying attention to your partner. Did they mention a new song they love, a book they're reading, or a dream trip they want to take? Find small, meaningful ways to incorporate those details. Maybe it's a handwritten note with her favorite quote, or planning a date around her favorite band.
2. Be intentional with your words.
Compliment your partner on more than just their looks. Tell them what you truly admire about their character, passions, or the way they make you feel. Emotional intimacy is build on words of affirmation.
3. Show affection in unexpected ways.
A random forehead kiss, a midday "thinking of you" text, or holding hands while walking can carry deep romantic undertones. Romance is often found in the quietest moments.
4. Create meaningful experiences, not just plans.
Anyone can make dinner reservations, but taking the time to curate a playlist for the drive, bringing their favorite flowers, or taking a walk under the moon afterward? Those little details are incredibly romantic.
5. Be consistent and emotionally available.
Romance thrives in safe, stable environments. Showing up regularly, being appreciative, and sharing your feelings build lasting emotional connection.
Really, romance is about emotional generosity. When you offer your attention and care without expecting anything in return, you're sure to have a lasting romance.
Here are a few ways men can be more romantic:
1. Listen, then act.
Romance starts with paying attention to your partner. Did they mention a new song they love, a book they're reading, or a dream trip they want to take? Find small, meaningful ways to incorporate those details. Maybe it's a handwritten note with her favorite quote, or planning a date around her favorite band.
2. Be intentional with your words.
Compliment your partner on more than just their looks. Tell them what you truly admire about their character, passions, or the way they make you feel. Emotional intimacy is build on words of affirmation.
3. Show affection in unexpected ways.
A random forehead kiss, a midday "thinking of you" text, or holding hands while walking can carry deep romantic undertones. Romance is often found in the quietest moments.
4. Create meaningful experiences, not just plans.
Anyone can make dinner reservations, but taking the time to curate a playlist for the drive, bringing their favorite flowers, or taking a walk under the moon afterward? Those little details are incredibly romantic.
5. Be consistent and emotionally available.
Romance thrives in safe, stable environments. Showing up regularly, being appreciative, and sharing your feelings build lasting emotional connection.
Really, romance is about emotional generosity. When you offer your attention and care without expecting anything in return, you're sure to have a lasting romance.
How can you make a girl fall for you?
Great question! This is something I'm asked often as a professional matchmaker.
The truth is that you can't "make" anyone fall for you, and neither should you try to manipulate someone's feelings. But what you can do is create the conditions where real connection and attraction have room to grow. And that starts with showing up the best version of yourself, not performing for someone else.
Here are a few recommendation I make for my male clients:
1. Be genuinely interested in her as a person.
Ask thoughtful questions, listen closely to her answers, and follow up on things she's shared with you. People are drawn to those who make them feel seen and understood.
2. Be confident, but grounded.
Confidence is attractive, but only when it's rooted in self-respect, not arrogance. Show her that you're comfortable in your own skin, but also open to learning, adapting, and growing.
3. Be consistent and dependable.
This might sound simple, but it truly matters: do what you say you'll do. Text when you said you would. Arrive at the date on time. Follow up with her. The real foundation for any relationship is feeling emotionally safe with someone.
4. Respect her pace.
Romantic tension builds when someone feels desired, but not pursued too aggressively. Pay attention to her cues, both emotional and physical. Be sure to let the connection unfold naturally.
5. Lead with authenticity, not strategy.
The right woman for you will fall for who you truly are, not who you're trying to be. If you focus on being kind, thoughtful, and self-aware, you're already ahead of the game.
If the attraction is mutual, it's not about making someone fall in love with you. It's about inviting them to get to know the real you.
The truth is that you can't "make" anyone fall for you, and neither should you try to manipulate someone's feelings. But what you can do is create the conditions where real connection and attraction have room to grow. And that starts with showing up the best version of yourself, not performing for someone else.
Here are a few recommendation I make for my male clients:
1. Be genuinely interested in her as a person.
Ask thoughtful questions, listen closely to her answers, and follow up on things she's shared with you. People are drawn to those who make them feel seen and understood.
2. Be confident, but grounded.
Confidence is attractive, but only when it's rooted in self-respect, not arrogance. Show her that you're comfortable in your own skin, but also open to learning, adapting, and growing.
3. Be consistent and dependable.
This might sound simple, but it truly matters: do what you say you'll do. Text when you said you would. Arrive at the date on time. Follow up with her. The real foundation for any relationship is feeling emotionally safe with someone.
4. Respect her pace.
Romantic tension builds when someone feels desired, but not pursued too aggressively. Pay attention to her cues, both emotional and physical. Be sure to let the connection unfold naturally.
5. Lead with authenticity, not strategy.
The right woman for you will fall for who you truly are, not who you're trying to be. If you focus on being kind, thoughtful, and self-aware, you're already ahead of the game.
If the attraction is mutual, it's not about making someone fall in love with you. It's about inviting them to get to know the real you.
How long should I wait before the next date?
First of all, it’s great to hear that your date went so well! That level of connection is always worth nurturing.
It’s completely normal to feel anxious after a great date, especially because you're excited about something new. The good news is that following up 24-48 hours after isn't clingy! It's confident and reassuring when done right.
Try sending you date a quick message that references something you both enjoyed on your night out. For example: "I had such a great time with you last night. Still thinking about [funny/meaningful moment]. Would love to see you again soon. Are you free this weekend?"
That message shows your interest, but isn't pressuring. This should set a strong foundation for healthy communication and relationship dynamics from the start.
Best of luck!
It’s completely normal to feel anxious after a great date, especially because you're excited about something new. The good news is that following up 24-48 hours after isn't clingy! It's confident and reassuring when done right.
Try sending you date a quick message that references something you both enjoyed on your night out. For example: "I had such a great time with you last night. Still thinking about [funny/meaningful moment]. Would love to see you again soon. Are you free this weekend?"
That message shows your interest, but isn't pressuring. This should set a strong foundation for healthy communication and relationship dynamics from the start.
Best of luck!
I don't know how to talk to my crush
Practice is always the best way. Just practicing talking to people that you're attracted to all the time or even if you're not that attracted to, just practicing chatting with anyone. So, the more you practice conversing, doing that small chat, you're going to be better at it when you do come into contact with this person that you like. So, maybe it's practicing joking around and making people laugh, so then, as soon as you're around somebody that you do like, it's easier, it just rolls off your tongue a lot easier.
How to Get a Girlfriend When You’ve Never Dated Before?
If you're wondering how to be confident the first time you kiss somebody, I think it can be beneficial to be open for feedback, and just asking the person after you kiss them how it went. You can always practice on your hand if you need to see what that's like. Just like anything in life, there's sources out there where you can learn and watch, study how other people have done it and what works for them. If you want to master anything, then it's good to learn about it. Maybe watching other videos and stuff might be helpful.
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