Should I leave/dump my friends?

06/03/25 6:19pm

Recently my friends have been getting more and more nasty and aggressive towards me. They keep switching work partners as well, leaving me to scramble. At lunch break I get left out and they never seem to care.

Sometimes they also call me a ‘nerd’ ‘bookworm’ and sometimes even ‘ugly’! I find it offensive and mean. I just try and stick a brave face on, yet I have to almost hold back tears. Today I started to just hang out with one really loyal friend and had a great time! We didn’t need to fake anything, we just talked about music and stuff.

I feel better whenever they’re not there, but I’m a social butterfly and love to have tons of friends. Turns out I’m very naive when it comes to picking friends.

Advice?

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06/03/25 6:20pm

First of all, we’re sorry you’ve been dealing with this! It sounds like your friends have been pretty unkind and insensitive toward you, and that’s absolutely not okay. If you really care about preserving these friendships, you could try to confront them about how you’ve been feeling to see if they’ll change their behavior. If they aren't receptive or don't change, it may be time to move on from them. Try spending more time with the loyal friend you had a great time with, and focus more on quality than quantity when it comes to friendships. You deserve friends who respect you and love you for who you are, not friends who insult you or tear you down!

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