I have so many toxic traits that no one even comments on. Even these quizzes say I’m totally empathetic, a good person, and not at all toxic…<br />My worst trait is that I want these results to settle my worries, but no matter how honestly I answer them… I don’t believe they were obtained legitimately, so I should be getting some responses on how to be a better person.

There are several reasons you may be in this situation: your friends may expect a level of “non-toxicity” that is unattainable so the way they behave becomes toxic instead; you may live in an environment where you don’t feel safe and you become toxic no matter how much you try to be better (which in itself can make you feel worse about yourself); or you apologise rather than question (not defend) because you hold your friends higher than yourself and in doing so avoid thinking about your own worth or responsibilities.<br />The way you wrote this comment shows that you’re not ignorant about the possibility that you could be a better person, so be proud of yourself that you’re already in that stage!<br /><br />I would advise you to take a breath. No matter your age, changing far enough to feel like you are a good person takes years of small changes. You have to look at traits that YOU do not enjoy in others and embrace your feelings of defensiveness and sadness, because they both are rooted in untreated insecurity. (Which is true for all “toxic” people, btw. Some just don’t like that truth)<br /><br />Many times it’s hard to believe you can be a better person because people’s perception of you seems like the only one.<br />A place that is very good for me to go when I feel insecure is “Meditation Mind” on discord (super easy to find, you don’t have to meditate to join). They’re positive and clock any toxic talk without being rude, and I think you could benefit from being around energies other than your friends😊❤️<br />You sound like you are a truly good person at heart! I hope you can feel safe enough to grow into them one day.