“Hey, thanks for coming to talk about this.” Yeah. I wasn’t sure I was going to, but I guess we need to do this. “Yeah, so, first of all, I just wanted to say that I know we’re both feeling pretty strongly about this. So I’m going to try to stay really calm and listen to your point of view without interrupting, and I’d really appreciate if you tried to do the same.” Yeah, I’ll try. “OK. So, I’ve given this a lot of thought, and the way you treated me is still really bothering me. Your friendship is important to me and I hate the thought that this might get in the way of it, but I still feel like this is hanging over my head, and I can’t move on until we talk it out.” OK. Go ahead and start. “Alright. I’m still hurt because it feels like I valued our friendship way more than you. You hung out with people who are really mean to me and didn’t tell me about it, and then I saw the pictures on Instagram the next day, and I felt really betrayed. It feels like you’re trying to ditch me without even saying it to my face, just lying to me about it instead. If you don’t want to be my friend, I just wish you would have said it to my face.” OK, I can get where you’re coming from, but let me try to explain my side of it. I was just invited to hang out with them, it’s not like I set it all up. I didn’t actually know that all that stuff with you and them was still happening, and it’s more that I just forgot to tell you, not that I was purposefully lying. “OK, but even the fact that you didn’t know I don’t get along with them makes me feel like you don’t really care about our friendship. They were awful to me for so many years and I still can’t even talk to them. I think I’ve even talked about that with you, so for you to just forget…? I can understand that you were just invited and wanted to be polite and go, and maybe you even think that I should try to get over this on my end. But it still hurts a lot.” I do think it would be good for you to try and move on. I know they were awful to you, but now it’s just making you miserable. But either way, I can see where you’re coming from. I shouldn’t have forgotten. I guess I was just...excited to be included. I know that must make you feel betrayed. “It does, a little. But I’d rather you just tell it to me like this than have to piece it together from Instagram pictures.” Look, I’m really sorry that I didn’t realize how much this would bother you. That was my fault and I’m sorry. But you really shut me out after that and I didn’t even know how to react, beyond just ignoring you right back. “I guess I just...got defensive. I probably should have let you explain, but I was just feeling really vulnerable and hurt. I’m sorry too.” Are you OK? Are we OK now? “I think this was just the first step, but we’re getting there, yeah.”