Be open and honest with your friend. You will never find out what is wrong unless you speak openly and directly about your concerns. Having an honest conversation with the other person will allow you both to bring up issues in your relationship. You may very well find that a good talk will clear the air and even strengthen your friendship in the end. Below are some ideas for how to start this conversation: * I feel as though we never hang out any more. Is there anything going on that I should know about? * I was thinking about what you said to me yesterday, about not understanding or caring about your problems. Can we talk about this? You’re my friend, and I want to be there for you. * I’m getting the sense that we’ve been drifting apart over the past year. Do you feel the same way? Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements Starting a sentence with “you” (“You always make fun of me”) sounds accusatory and will immediately put your friend on the defensive. Instead, focus on using “I” statements (I feel like you always make fun of me.”) This forces you to take responsibility for what you are thinking and feeling. “You” Statement “I” Statement You can go days without even saying hi—you obviously don’t care about me. When you go for days without saying hello or asking about I’m doing, I feel really lonely. The other day, you invited Laura and Elizabeth to the Halloween party and completely ignored me. I was really upset the other day when you invited Laura and Elizabeth to the Halloween party but didn’t ask me to come too. You’re always making fun of my weight. When you make comments about my weight, I get really depressed and anxious.