Help, how do I tell him I like him???

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03/10/25 11:35am

So, we've known each other for three years, and I love being around him! He gives me so much happiness and warmth. But anytime I try to tell him, I chicken out! We've had a lot of romantic moments but both of us are to anxious to say anything. I'm terrified I'll lose the happiness I'll get around him. What do I do?

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03/10/25 11:37am

Telling your friend how you feel can be nerve-wracking, but it's worth it to shoot your shot and see where your relationship can go. We suggest just spitting it out directly and confidently: don’t beat around the bush—but be sure to let him know there’s no pressure. Just say, “Hey, I feel like we get along great, and I would love to be more than friends. If you don’t feel the same, that's okay! I just wanted to put it out there, and if you don’t return the feelings, we can go back to how things were.”

Telling a friend you have a crush on them can be risky, because if they don’t return the feelings, things might be awkward between you both for a little while—but since you’ve been friends for a while, you’ll probably be able to move past the awkwardness and return to being friends if he's not interested in taking things to the next level. Good luck!

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Cristina Morara
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03/10/25 11:41am

Don’t confess your feelings unless you’re willing to change the dynamics of your friendship. If he felt something romantic for you, you would know. But if you must, do it carefully and slowly. When you flirt with your guy friend and look at him differently, he should get a sense that you’re trying to shift things and will react accordingly. If he’s oblivious to your new advances or super shy, you could playfully pose the question: "Have you ever imagined us together as more than just friends….?" What he says and how he says it will tell you everything.

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