What are the signs of a toxic friend?

there are so many signs that someone is toxic. they could threaten to stop being your friend unless you do xyz thing. they can ignore you for petty reasons. they might only reach out to you when they need something. they may talk trash about you behind your back. they might sabotage you. i could go on and on

I also have a friend. Let's just call her J for short. Every time I'm around her, something feels off. Now, I don't trust random quizzes online because a lot of times they are inaccurate, but this friendship feels kind of one-sided. Whenever I tell her something, she's usually like "Well that's impressive." or if it was rough, it's "You had a bad day? I had one even worse." I caught her trying to trip me once, and she's whispering to a bunch of her friends weirdly, then after that something bad happens. It's usually related to my bestie. It's like she's planning to ruin my friendship with my bestie. My bestie will be Jada for short. Every time J talks about Jada, it's always in a negative way. She says stuff like "You shouldn't be friends with her because she's lying to you about her cousin" and stuff when both "cousins" said they weren't cousins. Similar experience here, whoever you may be. Split the friendship with them. I want to, as well but I feel scared to because I have her phone number and everything. I also feel like she might deny my worries and keep me in it. (This entire friendship was forced in the first place, all of a sudden J walked up to me and was like "Do you wanna be friends?". I said yes, trying to not be rude)

My friend just ignores me, and at one point she slapped me across the face and has put into situations where I’ve had MULTIPLE (like 12 at least) panic attacks. She honestly doesn’t care about me, and I’ve just been searching for someone who doesn’t mind that I cry over minor mental problems/issues, and then they could hit me at full strength and I’ll ask them, ‘what was that for?’ In Andy kind way without shedding Andy tear.

You should surround yourself with friends who lift you up and make you feel good. If your friend only cares about herself then she's not truly your friend. If you feel like she can change, then you can try talking to her about how her behavior makes you feel and see what happens, but if not then stop being friends with her

My friend is also toxic....but the problem I have is we work together too. Even if I cut her out of my life personally I will still see her everyday at work. I'm so despondent about my situation. Don't really know what to do.

My friend is WAAAY toxic and I sorta knew it from the start 😐

I should probably find a new friend group right about now.

I now know my Bestie is Toxic.She is always mean,rude and disrespectful.I knew it from the start.

The test says that my friend isn't toxic but I'm still not convinced. She's nice to me but it always feels like there's a wall between us. We used to be really close but we don't talk much these days. She's always hanging out with her other friends. She knows that I'm insecure about my forehead and she hasn't ever directly insulted me for it, but she has definitely pointed out other people's foreheads...saying stuff like "I used to have a crush on this guy but his forehead was so big lol". I feel like she's just putting on a facade and is INDIRECTLY trying to make me feel insecure. She gives fake compliments (I can tell bc I know her well enough to tell). Am I just overthinking or is she actually secretly toxic?

My friend always interrupts me to talk about her bf, she also makes me the butt of her jokes and is extra nice to me when I bring snacks. Sometimes she listens, but its usually ab her. I help her with homework but she calls ME dumb. I know she has an eating disorder and something else. She leaves me for her other friends. Not sure if shes taking out her life things on me or is just toxic.

My” Friend” was toxic. She has backstabbed me many times before. I always thought she was a bit toxic, but this quiz confirmed that. She betrays me At least one time a month.

My "friend" talks sh!t about me behind my back, rolls her eyes at me constantly, and we're in a trio so she's constantly trying to get me away from the other girl. I hate her for what she's doing because I haven't done anything to her. She also makes fun of me and is rude because of the fact that I'm part of the pride and therian community. I'm really sad.

My friend is so annoying IDK why I am even her friend she is rude and always has an opinion on the tiniest things!!!! She might be toxic. PS she is probably a Karen

The quiz said that my friend " might be toxic ", and i actually have been thinking abt that since earlier this year... This friend, "A", has done a lot of things that i consider might be toxic (it is). For example, a few weeks ago i got a pretty good mark on my accounts final exam and i was so happy bcs the last time (mid-year exam) i failed the subject but for her, she failed both the finals and mid-year... So her reaction was like: She said to me "You only passed bcs the teacher gave everyone in our class extra marks, you know that right...?" "Yea, the teacher said that i'm already a pro with the basics and my only prob was only how to do bla bla bla-" "You know if u're smart at this topic, i would've asked u abt it but since we are like in the same LeVEl i couldn't rlly asks u (chuckles slyly💀)..." = this last one was yesterday btw... Other than that, one of the reasons why i think she's toxic is bcs when i told her that i didn't/couldn't go to school for some reason, she, most of the time, would literally cusses me out, calling me a pig, an idiot, a slang word in my language that means a freaking man private part😭 and some other mean stuffs... BUT WHEN IT'S HER TURN NOT GOING TO SCHL, I DON'T EVEN SAY THOSE MEAN THINGS TO HER!!! I ONLY SAY THINGS LIKE OKAY, YEAH SURE, UNLIKE HER WHO LITERALLY DOES THE OPPOSITE TOWARDS ME AS IF IT'S HER WHO DIDN'T GO TO SCHL💀💀💀 Furthermore, she would sometimes ignore me (maybe several times/days in a month too) and most of the time for no reason?? Like gurl pls just tell me what i did wrong bcs i rlly want to know why... Our friendship is almost 4 years now and has been going great for the last 3 years but idk why it's different this year... maybe bcs she feels envious of me? Jealous?? I'm not that much of a good friend and i'm truly aware of that, still i alwys try my best to be a good bsf for her, alwys giving her compliments when she downgrade herself (a lot of times) to make her feel better, tries to make her feel better and then forgives me when shes mad at me and all those other friendship stuffs. She said she has been friends with a few toxic ppl before and seems like shes starting to also become one now too... It's just that the reality still hasn't hit her in the face yet.

I have this one friend (I will refer to as A) and I usually hang out with them and two other people (one very close friend and one kinda close friend). When we're in a group and chatting, A acts extremely friendly and starts being nice, but when I'm alone with them in one of my classes, they just ignore me, move to another table, and talk with other popular students. The thing is, I share an awful lot of classes with A, and A seems to do this in every single class (even after school when its just us waiting for our cars). There is also this one popular girl that she tries/pretends to be close friends with even though I know that they have literally just known each other for a few days and they don't seem like real friends. This keeps continuing to happen, and on top of that, A is extremely involved in drama (even stuff that has nothing to do with her) and spreads rumors about people. There are also multiple times where they lie to get attention like saying that she had mental illnesses (ignored me when I asked if she was diagnosed or needed a therapist). However, even though I'm pretty sure this might be a toxic relationship, I don't want to tell her that I don't want to be friends straightforwardly because they might cause drama and spread rumors about me (happened before). Honestly I don't know what to do at this point so I'm looking for some advice that might help. :) Thanks and sorry for the very long description.

it says that my friend might be toxic but I know she is I feel it. Me and my best friend are really close and my other friend is always trying to get in the way of it. She also always invites my best friend to things when she knows I can come, then she presides to call me/ text me about it and say oh I was trying to find her at this football game sorry see you tomorrow. Am I just seeing things or is she really a toxic person and if she is how do I let her go? I've been friends with her for sooo long!

I knew my friend was toxic but I wanted to check. I know her life is hard enough already but I feel like I need to cut her off. Any suggestions??

it say that me friend aint toxic

My friend is subtly controlling and kinda makes me feel like i don't do enough, like raising her eyebrows at me, kinda like emphasising what I haven't done, and trying to one-up me or creating drama. Like if I try to say "Oh I haven't had the best day and I stayed up really late last night so I'm quite tired," she'll start talking about how she has ballet 5 days a week and always does her homework and that I would never be able to cope if I were her, and I know that that might be true, I'm not sure, but it's still feels pretty hurtful and disregarding (is that a word?). She also tries to find ways to make her life seem harder like when there was a competition at school that was philosophy. There was a spot bc someone quit and she was asked if she wanted to and she said "yeah sure, I definitely can!" but she had just been complaining about how she had ballet rehearsals that week, and how it was so hard for her to fit stuff in, but she willingly signed up then complained to our friend group about it, and I had kind of wanted to do this competition since I usually don't sign up. It's like she's always tired, always having a worse day, but she doesn't try to make it easier, like she adds to her drama. I always feel empty after seeing her and dread seeing her. So I kinda wanna move away but she sits with me and my other friends every day and always asks questions if I sit somewhere else. Sometimes I sit somewhere else bc I don't like how the conversation is almost always ballet, which two of us don't know about (me and my bestie) so it feels like I'm being ignored, and it gets brushed aside if I say anything. And the other people (2 of them and her) I sit with are my really great friends and one of them is her bestie, they do everything together. I really want to stay with them so I dunno what to do. I like to avoid conflict so I don't know how to stand up. Sorry for yapping and the long paragraph but I want to find a way to fix it.

The quiz said my friend was toxic. And i think it’s right. She’s always bragging like, “I’m gonna be one of the first people to see Moana 2!” And does a ton of gossiping.

ur friend sounds like bad

It made me realize my old friends were actually having a toxic behavior towards me. i'm so glad I had the courage to change the place I wanted to go to stop being with them. what a relief!

It says my friend is probably not toxic

turns out IM the toxic friend 😀… welp

Guys, I've had a friend for 3 years, but this year she kinda seems almost embarrassed to hang out with me around her friends. What should I do? Because she's really kind, but she blows me off.

they should be there making you feel good about yourself like I honestly had a similar situation my friend we'll call her e she always cancelled last minute and I honestly didn't see the signs till earlier this year she kissed my bf and told me to stop being such a baby bout it and that she deserved him more

I think that you should approach her and tell her respectfully how you feel, and if she doesn't listen, just try to carefully separate yourself from her and stop trying to please her, cut in when she's talking about herself and refuse respectfully to stop talking, tell her about everything in your life that you want her to know and see how she does.

if they ask u many favers but the allway ignore you when u talk to them then probily yeah

My friend is so toxic and I'm always the but of her jokes. How can I stop being her friend?

Whelp apparently my friend is toxic too. Time to make some changes around here...