Q&A for How to Ask a Girl out if You Are a Girl

In person is better normally, but if you think you can only do it through a text, that is fine. My girlfriend wrote me a letter to explain that she liked me and had a friend deliver it and I loved that. Just do what works for you.

Kiss her only if you think she likes you back and would accept the kiss. Being that it will be your first kiss with her, do it somewhere private, so if she welcomes it, it will be more special. However, if she doesn't accept it, nobody else will see if you get rejected. Don't let it be a huge surprise to her though; the key is timing. If it feels like it is right then it probably is but if not, then wait. Don't drown her in your kiss or go overboard - it is the first kiss. Eiither let her deepen it or wait for a more intimate kiss when the time is appropriate.

Some signs may include: If she flirts with you or smiles and laughs a lot when she's around you. If she blushes or looks down shyly. However, you need a group of signs, not just one, before you can see a pattern of being liked enough.

You might want to talk about it ahead of time to make sure you're on the same page. My advice is to give her a small kiss on the lips and see if she smiles or gives you some other sign to proceed before you start making out.

Be her friend first of all -- she is in a vulnerable place right now. Ask her why she feels the way she does. Tell her you would like to help her solve her problems, then help to get the needed help. When she is feeling better, that would be the right time, when she is stronger and happier.

Ask her if she has a crush or type? If she refers to a boy, she is probably straight or too shy to tell you she likes girls. Give her time and space until she's comfortable.

Try sending her a note, telling her how you feel and asking her out. Explain that you have a disorder and a hard time talking to people; if she's nice, she'll understand. You can put the note in her locker, send as message on her social media, or text it to her, if you have her number.

Everyone is shy when it comes to putting their feelings out there. Try to get to know her better, spend time with her and her group of friends. The more you talk to her, the easier it will get, and the better idea you will have about how she feels about you.

You can tell your parents eventually, when you feel that the relationship is serious enough to warrant telling them. Pick the right time to tell them, then tell them you are lesbian and that you have a girlfriend. It might help to have supportive siblings with you.

After you tell her about your feelings, ask her what she thinks your friends will think. Talk to your friends about how this is important to you and they should support you.

Play truth or dare, and ask her who she likes, to find out. If she does like someone, still remain friends with her. Your feelings may go away or she might stop liking someone else and you can make your move.

If she's your friend, she shouldn't do that, and if it happens, you can tell her she's not being a good friend, and ask for help/support from your other parents or a trusted adult. You should make sure the person knows you're a lesbian well before you ask her out and accepts you as you are. Then you'll know she won't find it weird or be mean about it if you do ask her out; she'll simply tell you that that isn't her sexuality or that she's not interested.

That's a tough situation. This girl may be willing to be secretive about the relationship, hiding it from her parents, but relationships conducted that way tend to be stressful and end badly. What are your crush's thoughts on the matter? You might try to talk with them yourself and see if that makes any difference.

Tell her that you have to talk to her in private -- when you get her attention, tell her you have something private and secret to talk about. Tell her that you can just stay friends if she doesn't agree but you like her.

Take a deep breath, count to three in your head and just ask! Suggest an activity you can do together and hope that the answer is yes.

Just bring up the topic of love and see how she reacts to it. If you ask her if she has a boyfriend or girlfriend and she says yes, then she is allowed, but probably isn't interested. If she says no, then ask her why.

Just take it slow. Go on one date and see how it goes. Then, if you start a relationship, your parents a more of a concern. But for now, just enjoy spending time together.

She could have mixed feelings about your relationship. If she does like you, she might feel defensive about it, like she doesn't want you to know. Maybe she's just shy, or maybe she isn't fully certain about her sexuality. You should just as her. If she's your friend, she'll be honest with you.

You don't have to tell your parents at first. If you have any close siblings or friends you could tell them. Make sure that you have support in place before you tell your parents. You should really get help with your self harm, talk to a counselor at school or your doctor who can recommend a good mental health professional. A professional could also advise you about talking to your parents about your sexual preference. It may seem uncomfortable but they are there to help. The biggest thing to remember is you are not alone. Talk to people. There are people out there that can make you stronger.

Just ask her! Be prepared for her answer either way, but the best way is to just be direct.

It's best to let it go. If the girl you like is already with someone then interfering will only cause drama. You may hint to her that you are interested but do not make a move or tell her unless she is no longer with anybody. If she likes you and you tell her, then she could get together with you instead, but if her feelings aren't reciprocated, then you may lose your friendship with her. Back off a bit until she's available.

(That's super cute.) You can drop hints that you are bi/lesbian and talk about the LGBTQ+ community with her. You can always ask her what she thinks of lesbians, or you could just straight up ask if she is gay. You could also just try complimenting her or making a flirtatious remark or two and see how she responds.

Yes, you should wear pajamas.

Pay attention to the smallest things that she does. You can try counting how many things she does differently around you. If you get to 20 positive things, it may be time to try to tell her.

Try to make it more comfortable for them. Talk somewhat quietly when you ask them and be subtle with your body language. .

You could ask her to hang out at your house, or stay a while after school, if you go to the same school.

Try looking for signs that she likes you in a more than friendly way. Such signs could include: looking at your lips or staring at your eyes for longer than normal, increased heartbeat or dilated pupils around you (though this one is kind of hard to notice), or leaning and pointing her feet towards you even when she is not talking to you. If she displays all or most of these, then she probably likes you. If not, try asking another friend to bring up the subject with this girl (something like, "I think you and X would make such a cute couple!" or "I noticed that you and X spend a lot of time together, do you like her?") when you're not around. And if she responds positively, then try to ask her out!

Just try to talk to her in private, or through email. Express your feelings to her. If she does not agree, do not push her. You can tell a school counselor about your feelings as well. Have confidence to tell the counselor and especially, your parents.

I wouldn't overthink it. Date the people you're attracted to. You don't need to put a label on your sexuality and then act accordingly.

Just try flirting with her and spending more time with her. If you guys are friends already, ask her over for a sleepover. If you guys have class together, shoot her goofy looks across the classroom and try to make her laugh. Keep in mind that you ultimately can't control her sexuality, she has to figure that out for herself.