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How do you be aloof if someone is flirting with you?

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Focus on being subtle without hurting the other person's feelings. Make sure that you're not giving any mixed messages by holding their hand or touching them on the shoulder playfully.

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What if I am there for someone who is going through some trauma, but they take out their feelings on me, and are now negative and cold to me? What can I do?

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Try not to take it personal and imagine the hurt they must feel. Sometimes listening and making an appearance is more than enough.

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How can I stop being so dependent on others?

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Start doing more things yourself, and eventually you'll get there. If you're old enough, consider saving money so you can move out and be more independent.

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What do I do when someone tries to make me laugh but I don't want to seem too rude?

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Smile, maybe. If you are genuinely amused, show it a little.

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How do I completely ignore a crush?

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Don't look at them. Just let your eyes slide right past them if you accidentally look in their direction. Don't talk to them. The only problem with this is that if you really like them, you're sending them all the wrong signals and they'll likely give up because you're showing disinterest.

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How do I keep a cool head when confronting my boss about treating me unfairly?

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Practice. Decide beforehand what you want to achieve through your conversation. Practice in front of a mirror or with a friend, play out different scenarios and see what you like and don't like. Request a private meeting with your boss and talk openly and clearly. Avoid being accusatory and allow room for a conversation. Having a number of key phrases prepared, as well as a few quick fix answers, will allow you to stay calm and maintain control of the conversation.

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What if someone was trying to pick a fight with me?

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Ask them to stop and if they don't, ignore them and walk away.

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My crush has hurt me. He says that he wants to be with me, but it takes ages for him to text me or phone me. I feel like I'm being used. What can I do?

Sara Hooper

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Talk it out with him. Tell him to tell you exactly what he wants and make sure both of you are on the same page.

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