Q&A for How to Be the Guy Every Girl Wants

Just be yourself and focus on your personal growth. If you change the way you are to try to be attractive to everyone, it's just not going to work.

People want to be heard, appreciated, and respected. So long as you're communicative, kind, and you approach conflict from a place of empathy, they'll be happy!

People like answering questions and this is a great way to get someone talking, but only to a certain extent. If you're asking more than a few questions every time the two of you talk, it's going to come off like you're pestering them. Just take it easy on this and try to relax! It can take time for someone to open up to you.

The first and most important thing is to make sure this is a good time to approach her. If she is busy reading a book, talking on her phone, hurrying to get somewhere, or listening to her music, she is busy and will not appreciate being interrupted. You need to wait for another opportunity, even if you are dying to meet her. You also need to be aware of the situation and surroundings: approaching a girl in a closed elevator, a laundromat or a secluded place at night, and other situations may come off as potentially dangerous to her. Greet her in a busy place, during the day, and when it looks like she's not preoccupied with something important to her. Second, when you approach her, make sure you maintain a good distance and don't invade her personal space. This can feel threatening for girls with a guy she's never met. Introduce yourself, smile, and shake her hand. Don't worry about being incredibly witty or winning her over with a smooth pickup line the first time you meet her: chances are it will come off as inauthentic anyway. Never approach a girl for the first time and make a sexual comment; 9 times out of 10 it will have the opposite of the desired effect. When you're talking, ask her broad questions that can't be answered with yes or no so that you will have a richer conversation. Something like, "So what kinds of movies do you like," or "Who are your favorite authors," is much better than, "Do you like Stephen King?" or "Have you lived here long?" Keep things light and friendly. If it feels like things are going well, you can ask her out on a date or a more casual hang out to get lunch. Take your time to build up a relationship and don't worry about rushing things too much.

Try dressing in nice clothes that fit you and look good on you, getting a hair cut, practicing your smile and working on your self confidence with the techniques listed above. Doing those things will make you feel better about yourself, giving you the confidence to approach her, and that will in turn help her to see the potential in you.

Every girl is different, and to know for sure, you will have to ask her if she likes you. However, women are generally socially conditioned to be polite to people in general, so this is generally not a good indicator. If you can tell if a girl likes you by paying attention to other aspects of your interactions. If a girl wants to or offers to spend time with you, smiles a lot at you, teases and jokes with you, laughs at your jokes, likes to get physically close to you, shares very personal information, has open and friendly body language or body language that mirrors yours, and makes a lot of good eye contact, chances are she's interested.

If a girl says that you are "boring," it may mean she doesn't think that your interests are very compatible. Try broadening your range of interests to more unusual and exciting things so that you can point out to her that you also enjoy doing fun and exciting things, too.

There are lots of potential signs that a girl is interested in you. If a girl wants to or offers to spend time with you, smiles a lot at you, teases and jokes with you, laughs at your jokes, likes to get physically close to you, shares very personal information, has open and friendly body language or body language that mirrors yours, and makes a lot of good eye contact, chances are she's interested. The best way to know for sure, though, is (once you get multiple positive signs) to ask her if she'd like to go on a date.

Every girl will be a little bit different, and it will take getting to know her before you will know for sure exactly what kinds of jokes she thinks are the most funny. It's best to avoid jokes that are really crude, mean-hearted, make other people (especially women) the butt of the joke, or aren't politically correct.

Only you can decide for yourself whether or not it's a good time to start dating, but no one absolutely needs to have a girlfriend if they don't want to. There are other ways and people you can spend time with, like good friends or family, so that you won't feel lonely. If you feel lonely romantically, though, and you're attracted to girls, then getting a girlfriend may help you.

That depends on why she's sulking. People sulk because they are annoyed or disappointed. If it was something you did, generally apologizing will work. Be sure to express you're sorry, name what you did wrong, and offer to be better in the future: "I'm sorry that I hurt your feelings when I laughed at you. I didn't think it would matter that much to you. I promise not to do it again." If there is something else upsetting her, then finding something to make her laugh or smile, like telling a good joke or going to see a funny movie, may help.

First, take a step back and understand that something about the encounter has gone wrong and she's feeling frightened. Even if it was unintentional, apologizing is a good first step. Try to find out exactly what you did or said that made her feel bad. Try, "I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to be a creep. I just thought you were interesting. Could you please tell me what I did wrong?" After that, what needs to happen next will vary depending on what her answer was, but it's important that no matter what she says that you take some level of responsibility for your behavior and don't brush off her feelings. So, if she says, "You're standing too close to me, and I don't like that you made a comment about my breasts," respond with something like, "I'm sorry. You're right, that was totally inappropriate of me. I actually really admire you as a person, and I don't want to come off as creepy, I just really like you. What can I do to make things okay between us?"