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    How do you find things to talk about if you and your date are lost for words?
    Cristina Morara
    Dating Coach
    Cristina Morara is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Relationship Expert, and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a luxury matchmaking service based in Los Angeles that serves clients nationwide and internationally. As a former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect partner through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communications and Psychology from Villanova University. Stellar Hitch has been featured in the Huffington Post, Chelsea Handler’s Netflix documentary, ABC News, the Tonight Show, Voyage LA, and the Celebrity Perspective.
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    Before the date, think about five interesting things about yourself that you'd be willing to reveal and share. One way to weave those ideas into a conversation is to ask the question you'd like to be asked yourself. Good conversation is also about sharing something a little meaningful about yourself. Some good icebreaker questions, like "what were you like in high school?" or "what would people be surprised to learn about you?" can really get the conversation going.
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    What if I really can't find anything interesting to talk about, should I just say boring stuff?
    Moonmodule1998
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    Sure, because it's the boring stuff that can lead you into the more interesting topics. Many conversations aren't immediately deep and fascinating—you have to ease in with small talk, then keep digging until you either hit gold or the conversation otherwise ends. Also, even talking about boring things can become enjoyable. You may be pleasantly surprised.
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    What do I say to a girl I proposed to who hasn't given me a reply yet?
    Wafflebutter
    Community Answer
    "I will still love you, no matter what you say."
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    Why was this reviewed by a counselor? Is that a good specialist in this department?
    Tom De Backer
    Top Answerer
    Why not? Counselors are expert listeners, and can sense when someone wants to talk about something. Moreover, just because someone has been a fisherman their entire life doesn't mean they don't also play chess. So if a counselor was found willing to review this, it's an excellent step forward in quality. Feel free to review, edit, add anything you like - it really helps.
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    What if I can't think of any questions?
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    There are always questions. If you run out of general questions, ask about the other person's interests or hobbies. If that is done, ask about their family. Ask if they love the TV show you love. Ask if they have a sibling. Ask if they play any sport. Ask where they got that cool backpack from. Ask about literally anything around, it's fine. If the conversation is getting too dull, with too many awkward silences, it is best to leave the conversation when it still hasn't gotten stale. Make plans for a next time, and say bye.
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    What should I do if I have bored the listener or over-shared information?
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    If you find that you have bored the listener or that you have made the wrong step in a conversation, it is very important to not drag that incident out further, just change topics as smoothly as possible. Say something like, "So, enough about me, how have you been?"
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    I really want to talk with a quiet, withdrawn family member. We’re both retired, so we don’t discuss work, and we really have nothing in common. These suggestions seem geared toward work or friends; what should we talk about?
    Donagan
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    It's probably not true that you have no common interests. If you're members of the same family, that's a common interest in itself. Use your imagination: you may discover several topics of interest to you both. Just the fact that you "really want to talk" to this person suggests that there may be an emotional connection between the two of you that could lead to fun and rewarding moments together.
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