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I messed up my first hug with my girlfriend. We both hugged above the shoulders, but I think she wanted me to hug below the waist.

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Don't worry about it, and try again! Getting to know another person's hugging habits takes some practice.

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My girlfriend is just going to walk up to me and hug me, how do I hug her back?

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Just keep it natural. She's your girlfriend! Keep your hands on the back of her waist if she intends to keep hers on your shoulders. Lean in closely and maybe even give a light kiss on her cheek or neck. Hug her tight and never be the first one to back away. Don't worry about it too much.

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How do I get a girl to notice me if I am quiet?

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Try and get to hang around her more, and maybe be a little less quiet. Try and make friends with her too. This might surprise you, but a lot of girls find shy boys to be cute.

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Would it be awkward if I hugged a girl from behind and then kissed her on the cheek while still hugging her?

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If it's a girl you know well, such as your girlfriend, it wouldn't be awkward to do this unless she isn't fond of physical contact. Hugging from behind and kissing her on the cheek is a sweet and intimate thing to do. If you mean would it be an awkward position, then quite possibly if she doesn't turn her head toward you, so wait for the right moment. And if you meant could you do this to just any girl, then no, that would be awkward as this is definitely and intimate gesture.

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How do I hug a girl I like, as support, not to show that I like her?

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Hug her like you mean it, but don't hug for too long otherwise she'll think you're trying to be too intimate.

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How can I hug a girl to show that I like her?

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Make sure that you are comfortable with her and she is comfortable with you. Wait until you are leaving her or something good happens, then open your arms to hug her and move closer.

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How do I hug my girlfriend without startling her?

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Hug her when you are in a relaxed environment, like at home or a quiet area. Move slowly so you do not scare her.

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There is a girl that I like and she likes me back, but when do I know when the time is right to hug her?

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Start off by holding hands maybe. Or maybe when you say hi or bye, just casually hug her.

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This girl I have a crush on used to have a crush on me back. We got into an argument because I was mad that she hugged many other guys. She eventually said, "If you wanted to hug me, then you should of gathered up the courage and did it before others did." Should I hug her?

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It sounds like the opportunity has passed for you.

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Told a girl I like her but she says she's not interested. How can I hug and peck her?

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If she's not interested, I don't recommend trying to touch her. Give her some space, but continue to be friendly.

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I just hugged my girlfriend for the first couple of times today, how would I move in for a kiss on the cheek or lips?

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I would wrap one arm around her waist, and with the other hand, cup her cheek and kiss her right on her lips. Make sure to close your eyes and don't kiss with tongue until your relationship is a little more advanced.

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What do I do if she hugs me for longer than I intended?

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Just slowly start to let go when you feel you want the hug to be done, and otherwise, just wait 'til she's done. It's no big deal, and you shouldn't say anything. It might mean she really likes you or she just really needed a hug.

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Would it be a good idea to get her something and then hug her?

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Yes. After receiving a gift, a girl may even thank you by giving you a hug.

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Can I use a hug to show her that I miss her? If yes, how?

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Hug her when you see her and tell her how much you have missed her. The best way is to just be direct.

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What if the girl doesn't want me to hug her even though I want to hug?

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Then do not hug her. Sometimes our impulses are hard to contain, but consent matters in all things. I know a hug doesn't seem like that big of a deal, but to some it may be, and everyone should have the choice of whether or not to be touched.

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This girl wanted to hug me once, but I was nervous so I didn't hug her back. I like her, will she still like me?

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There's a good chance she still likes you. You should be bold and approach her and ask for a hug. You could also say, "Sorry about the other day when I didn't hug you, you just caught me off guard."

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How should I hug a girl who is not much of a communicator?

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Just ask her if you can hug her. If she says no, politely tell her that you understand. If she says yes, go for it!

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How do I hug a girl without making her feel uncomfortable?

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If you don't want to make her uncomfortable, ask her first, "Is it okay if I give you a hug?" Then just follow the instructions in the article to hug her, or do whatever comes naturally in the moment.

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Is it inappropriate for me to hug a girl's butt?

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More than likely, yes, it is inappropriate. Hugging someone's butt has serious sexual implications that might very well make a girl uncomfortable.

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How can you hug a girl in a way that is not sexually suggestive?

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Don't hang on too long, or the hug will "automatically" become sexually suggestive. Also, keep your hands near the top of her back, in between her shoulder blades, generally avoiding both the small of her back and her neck, along with any other potential erogenous zones.

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Should I put my head to the left or right when I hug a girl?

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Do whatever feels natural in the moment. Move slowly so you do not knock your heads together. If you move your head to the left, she will naturally move her head to the right, and vice versa.

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At what age should people start dating?

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It completely depends on the person and their beliefs/preferences. Some people aren't comfortable with dating until they are much older.

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Our relationship ended because of a misunderstanding. Now I want to get her back. Is it OK to hug her?

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Do not hug a girl without her permission. Hugging might just make it more awkward, especially if the relationship ended on bad terms.

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How can I hug a girl that I like (I'm in middle school)?

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If you and she are in the same after-school program, when you are leaving, you can give a "See you later hug".

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If I hug a girl, can I have sex with her?

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No, absolutely not. Hugging a girl does not mean you can have sex with her.

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How hard should I hug my girlfriend?

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A good, strong hug can make a girl feel safe and loved, but too hard and she will feel crushed or suffocated. Her response, positive or negative, will guide you.

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I am generally very close with this girl, but we are not dating. I wrap my arms around her, pull her in and give her a squeeze. She doesn't complain and she smiles when we hug. She doesn't mind these hugs; is it acceptable?

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As long as both of you are comfortable with the hug, then it is acceptable. It sounds perfectly fine.

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I hug a friend by wrapping one arm around her neck and patting her back, and don't do anything using the other arm. Is it OK if I place my other arm around her waist or her back?

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The waist one would be more if you are dating or a close friend. The back should be OK, though.

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I like this girl, but she does not know it yet. I'm dropping hints. How should I hug her to make her like me a bit more than friends?

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Talk to the girl first. Some girls don't like to be hugged immediately.

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How can I hug a girl who doesn't know I like her?

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You shouldn't. If you are not in a relationship with her yet, don't hug her. It will make you and the girl feel awkward and she might start to dislike you. Try building a relationship with her first.

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