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My best friend gossiped about me behind my back, which really hurt me. I trusted her with something sensitive because I thought she was open minded. To my face she acts like an understanding friend, but behind my back she talks badly about me. What should I do?

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Confront your former friend about her strange behavior. Ask if you've done something wrong to make her feel this way about you. If she can't explain herself, distance yourself from her. It sounds like she is a judgmental person who betrayed your trust

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I read some of my friends text messages with someone else and found out in the messages that she doesn't like me. I'm not supposed to know. What should I do?

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I would simply move on. If someone doesn't like you, I don't see a good reason to try to salvage your friendship with them. It will likely harm your relationship further when you admit that you invaded her privacy to find this out. Seek out people who are interested in being true friends to you.

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I have a friend who does this to me all the time. What do I do?

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You can approach the friend about their behavior, or you can decide that you don't want to be friends with someone who isn't a good friend to you. Think about what feels right to you, and move forward.

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I have a friend that I have known for nearly 8 years now, and I'm still not sure she's really my friend. I feel like she keeps whispering about me to other people.

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Approach a trusted mutual friend and ask if they can shed any light on this girl. Is she actually talking badly about you or is it in your head? If the girl hasn't given you a reason to distrust her, there may not be one.

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My roommate is telling my personal business to others and tries to make me look bad but is nice to my face, which confuses me. What should I do?

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He might be jealous and is not acting like a true friend. It may be best to keep your distance or find a better roommate. Reflect on your own behavior as well: Are you being a good roommate? Are you receptive to feedback? Has he spoken to you before talking about you behind your back?

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