Q&A for How to Look Approachable

Look at your body in two halves, with your waist as the middle. Then, think about how to create balance between the halves. If your top is wider than your bottom, you want to keep things on top fitted and create more volume on the bottom, or vice versa if you're wider on the bottom. If you're wider at the waist or even on the top and bottom, create the illusion of a waist by keeping things fitted in the middle, with more volume on the top and bottom.

Focus on the first impression. It only takes a moment for someone to make up their mind on whether they want to approach you. Make sure to smile, make eye contact, and seem warm when you are first meeting someone.

Wear age-appropriate clothing. Older people tend to find people who are dressed formally more approachable, while for younger people it’s the opposite.

Wear blue to look more approachable. Psychologists have found when people wear blue, they seem more calm, reliable, and approachable. Bold reds and bright yellows make a more aggressive statement.

Let them go. Tell them that if they don't want to be friends with you anymore, you're fine with that. Be confident and don't act too fazed by it. When they see you thriving on your own, they might come back to you - or, hopefully, you'll find better friends. Remember everything happens for a reason.

You don't have to talk about your issues if you don't feel like it. You can talk about something you like or find interesting. You can also ask the other person questions about themselves and their interests, and let them do all the talking.

A good time to smile is when you're greeting someone, making a joke or witty remark, asking for a favor or inviting someone, or when you're having a short conversation and nodding your head to make sure the other person knows you're paying attention.

Show interest in the people you are talking to. Ask them questions about themselves, and listen more than you talk. This approach will make you seem like a warm, welcoming person.

Practice deep breathing techniques and relaxing your face at home until you have mastered it. Then do so each time you enter a room or before a new situation.

Build up your natural talents/abilities. When you feel like you are good at something, you will naturally feel more confident. Always stand tall with your head high and shoulders back. Try this: set an alarm on your phone to go off at a random time every day. When you hear this alarm, walk up to someone and start a conversation. Not only will this help your social skills, but it will also bring you out of your shell.

I've been told the same thing. Try not to frown; instead, smile a lot. Also, wearing dark clothes and dark make-up may be a bit intimidating. Try to look light and welcoming.

Look at people you would see yourself hanging around with. They could be that lonely person you see at the café alone or that nice group of friends who seem like a nice group of people. It's just a matter of talking to people.

Ask questions to understand. Ask them to try and help you understand. It might be a lot of fun. They will have an opportunity to tell many details that may help you experience in your mind what they did. If you still don't, acknowledge it, but compliment them in some way. It's perfectly OK to say there is no way you can understand.

Try to work on changing the expression from your eyes - not only will it make her like you more, but it will also show you changed your body language for her, which most girls find attractive. If you're not sure how, ask her why she thinks your eyes look scary and go from there.

Make eye contact. Smile. Talk to him about his interests and things you have in common. Gradually find excuses to spend more time with him.

Volunteer to help others with their tasks. After you've done this a few times, people will remember you as a person who is always willing to lend a hand.

Don't worry about it. Be confident. Focus on improving your skills, results will speak for themselves.

If people noticeably try to avoid you, or only talk to you if they must, that's a good sign they dislike or get bad vibes from you. If so, you can still make friends with them, it may just take a little more effort.

You can make jokes out of any awkward moments, which can help prevent you from coming across as too serious. The best way to break out of this rut though is to just practice talking to people. Strike up conversations with coworkers or cashiers when you would normally avoid them. Over time, the thought of having a conversation with a stranger won't seem so terrifying.

Wait for opportune moments. If the person is talking, just let them talk. Don't interrupt with a question. When there is a pause, then ask a question. In a normal conversation, you shouldn't only ask questions, but also comment on what's being said. For example, "It's interesting you should say that, it reminds me of this one time I [insert anecdote]. Has anything like that ever happened to you?" This makes the conversation flow more naturally, and you're still getting a question in.

Smiling makes a world of difference when it comes to people's first impression of us.

Just have self-confidence, take a deep breath and walk with your shoulders straight and your head held high. Don't be afraid or nervous.

I have a mean resting face too, here’s something that I do to counter that: I try to smile as much as possible and sit up straight. I also try to wear inviting colours and as little black as possible.

If she has friends start a conversation with them first and then you can slowly transition to her. Or you can sit near her. By doing that for a while, she'll feel more comfortable around you. Then when you believe that she's comfortable with you being near, strike up a conversation and ask her if why she's intimidated by you and work from there. If she moves, then don't do the same stay stationary and move near her the next time you meet so that she doesn't get intimidated more.