Q&A for How to Make Up with a Friend

Absolutely! Still, be conscious while doing so and avoid accusations. Discuss with them which of their actions were upsetting to you by utilizing I-statements (for example, say something like "When you said that, I felt it was an attack against me.").

First, acknowledge what could have been different about your behavior and take accountability for your actions. Reducing blame and accusation and explaining your experience will help reduce defensiveness and allow for the relationship to repair.

Tell her that you're sorry, and the situation was your fault. Don't try to make excuses. Tell her that you hope she still wants to be your friend and that you'll give her some space if she needs it.

Write her a note or send a letter saying you're sorry, even if it wasn't your fault. Or, go up to her, and if she doesn't want to talk, just give her time.

It depends on the person and exactly what you said to them. Apologize sincerely and tell them it will never happen again. Say that you really hope they can forgive you, because you really care about them, and then just give them some space. Leave it up to them.

You don't think those things are important, but she obviously does, or she wouldn't be upset. Apologize for whatever she's upset about, even if you don't think you did anything wrong. Sometimes you have to be the bigger person in life, especially if you want to maintain friendships.

Ask her what is bothering her. It might be family or at-home problems and she is taking it out on you. If she won't budge and she won't tell you what is wrong, you could try telling a teacher or counselor that you are worried about your friend. If she seems like she just needs some space, give it to her, and try talking to her again in a few days.

Of course! Tell him that you're sorry about hurting him and that you'll do your best to make sure it doesn't happen again in the future. Tell him you hope you can still be friends. I'm sure he will forgive you.

Try to stop her in the hallway and pull her aside, and let her know that you are sorry for whatever you did. She will probably do the same. If she's not ready to make up right away, be patient. Sometimes it takes someone a little while to get over hurt feelings.

Try to give your friend some time and space - a few days, perhaps a week - and try talking to your friend again. If your friend still doesn't want to talk, you may need to move on.

If your friend doesn't want to be friends anymore, then you just need to accept this decision and move on. You can't control the way others react, and friendship requires the consent of both people.

Tell her that you need some time/space to figure things out. Think about what happened and try to decide if you want to continue this friendship or not. If you end the friendship over this, will you regret it in the future? You don't have to forgive her right now if you're not right. Your friend should understand if you need to take a break for a while.

If you've tried everything and she still hasn't forgiven you, then maybe it's time to move on.

If she's threatening to spread rumors about you, that's wrong, and you should tell an adult. If you did something to hurt her, apologize for it, but two wrongs don't make a right. She shouldn't be threatening you just because she's upset. Ask a teacher, counselor, parent, etc. to intervene.

Apologize for what you are sorry for first. This may prompt them to say sorry as well. If not, don't pressure them. Once they know you're trying to make up with them, they'll probably say sorry eventually, and then you guys should agree to never say such hateful things to each other again.

Try to meet up face to face and just apologize. Tell her that you said some things in the heat of the moment that you really didn't mean, and that you're very sorry. Tell her how much her friendship means to you and that you sincerely hope she can find a way to forgive you. If she doesn't forgive you immediately, just give her some time. She will probably come around.

If you're rethinking this decision and you want to be friends with them again, you should just ahead and tell them that. However, if you truly know that the friendship is a bad idea because of your romantic feelings, you'll just have to endure missing them. It will get easier with time as your feelings start to fade.

The best thing to do is to be honest. Be kind about it though. Tell them how you really feel and they will accept it. If they don’t then give it time. Make sure you give them little notes of love and gesture. Things will usually smooth over with time.

Apologize for whatever you did even if you don’t know, if they did something wrong and you started to ignore them, then depending on the kind of person they are they might be too stubborn to admit they are wrong. Or you did something you may not know about. Apologize anyway and see if they apologize for what they did as well.

If it was just a joke, understand that she did not mean it in a mean way. If you really felt uncomfortable by it, tell her that you did not appreciate it and that you would like it if she didn't say jokes like that again. If she did mean for it to be mean, ask her to explain why so the two of you can sort things out.

If your friend wasn't sincere about their apology, it will be hard for you to forgive them. Try asking what you two can do in the future to avoid conflict to see if she's thought about her actions. Keep an open mind and bring some suggestions for the two of you to talk about.