How to Tell if a Teenager Is Depressed

Depression can range from a temporary feeling of sadness, confusion or an inability to cope, to a deeper feeling of depression that may be caused by a disorder. By the end of the teen years, 20% of teenagers will have experienced depression, and 80% of them don’t receive any help or treatment. Being able to spot the signs of depression in your teenage child can make all the difference between leaving them all alone with their sad feelings or letting them know you understand and support them as they move through this stage of their life.

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Looking for Signs of Teenage Depression

  1. Teenagers probably won’t be able to tell you directly that they are depressed. Help keep an eye on them by listening to how they describe their days, school, friends, or other aspects of their lives. [1]
    • Feelings of sadness, such as crying spells for no apparent reason
    • Feeling hopeless or empty
    • Being in an irritable or annoyed mood
    • Frustration or feelings of anger, even over small matters
    • Loss of interest or pleasure in normal activities
    • Loss of interest in, or conflict with, family and friends
    • Low self-esteem
    • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
    • Fixation on past failures or exaggerated self-blame or self-criticism
    • Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure, and having a need for excessive reassurance
    • Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions, and remembering things
  2. A depressed teenager will show changes in their actions and the way they interact with the world. Just remember that these are signs of depression if they represent changes in behavior. [2]
    • Tiredness and loss of energy
    • Insomnia or sleeping too much
    • Changes in appetite, which can mean decreased appetite and weight loss, or increased cravings for food and weight gain
    • Use of alcohol or drugs
    • Agitation or restlessness such as pacing, hand-wringing or an inability to sit still
    • Slowed thinking, speaking, or body movements
    • Frequently complaining of unexplained body aches and headaches. You may notice this in the form of frequent visits to the school nurse
    • Social isolation
    • Poor school performance or frequent absences from school
    • Neglecting their appearance
    • Angry outbursts, disruptive or risky behavior, or other acting-out behaviors
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  3. Depression can arise from a number of conditions in a teenager’s life. When considering if your teenager may be depressed, look for events in the recent past that could be leading to depression. The presence of these things, along with changes in mood or behavior, could be a sign of depression. [3] [4]
    • Look for stressful events in the teenager’s life, such as a death in the family, parental divorce, breaking up with a significant other, or doing particularly poorly in school.
    • Consider your family history as well. If your teenager has a blood relative like a parent or grandparent who suffered from depression, bipolar disorder, or alcoholism, they are at a greater risk for depression. Having a family member die by suicide, or a generally dysfunctional family can also contribute to depression in teenagers.
  4. Teenagers are dealing with a lot of changes to their bodies and social lives, which can be stressful and difficult to process at times. If you notice signs of depression that have been going on for more than 2 weeks, there may be a more serious issue. On the other hand, occasional appearance of these signs could be typical teenage behavior.
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Watching for Signs of Suicide

  1. People who are suicidal not only have these thoughts, but tend to dwell on them. It will seem like they cannot think about anything else. They will probably talk about being a burden to others, or feeling trapped.
    • More specifically, suicidal thoughts can also be threats to kill oneself, or talking about wanting to kill themselves. A suicidal person might say things like “I’m going to kill myself,” “There’s no reason to live,” or “I wish I were dead.”
    • Suicidal people may also show rage or uncontrollable anger, particularly directed at others, including talking about getting revenge.
  2. A person who is suicidal may begin engaging in risky activities, believing they have nothing to live for. These can include using and abusing drugs and alcohol, reckless driving, or knowingly having unsafe sex. Even if the person doesn’t end up attempting suicide, these behaviors make people a danger to themselves and others. [5]
    • Suicidal individuals may also begin withdrawing from others, taking more time for themselves and removing themselves from other people’s lives. [6]
  3. If the person has been moody and depressed for sometime, and has suddenly become calm, that could be a sign of trouble. They may have made the decision to end their life, and is no longer agonizing over the decision. You may also notice deliberate activities like giving away personal possessions, or saying goodbye to people. [7]
  4. These can be stockpiling pills, or buying a weapon such as a knife or gun. If you notice this, or the person starts talking about getting their hands on these items, you should contact help immediately. [8]
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Getting Help for a Depressed Teenager

  1. If you notice that your teenager is showing signs of depression, sit down and talk to them. Talk about their feelings, and try to determine if they seem capable of managing these feelings, or if it seems to be overwhelming. [9]
    • People don’t always notice they are depressed. In many cases, people who are depressed become self-critical, so they will think of themselves as failures, losers, or bad people. If you don’t ask, the other person may not be able to notice depression alone. [10]
  2. When you talk to your teenager, make sure that you are letting them do the talking. The point of this conversation is to let your teenager explain what they are feeling. Avoid the urge to pass judgement or lecture your teenager on what they should be feeling or what they are doing wrong. [11]
    • Your teenager should be doing most of the talking, explaining their feelings. You can ask questions, or offer support. Say things like “I’m here for you,” “What are you feeling?” or “What can I do to help?” This will remind them that they have someone to talk to, and can encourage more communication.
    • Acknowledge their feelings. Don’t use this as an opportunity to prove your teenager wrong, or to say “Things aren’t like that,” or “It’s all in your head,” even if you believe their concerns are irrational. You want them to feel understood and supported, so for now it is important to let them know that you are listening to them. [12]
  3. If you think your teenager is suffering from depression, you should go see a medical professional. The doctor will run a series of tests, including a physical exam, blood test, and psychological evaluation in order to determine if your teen should be diagnosed with depression. Depending on what the doctor finds, your teenager may be diagnosed with depression and have treatment prescribed. [13]
    • Make sure you talk to the doctor about what your role should be in helping to treat and care for a teenager suffering from depression.
  4. One of the common signs of depression is withdrawing from friends and social activities. While your teenager is undergoing treatment from a doctor, make sure they spend time with other people. It can also be helpful to give your teenager something to do. Suggest they do something with friends, or invite them along for errands or other outside activities. [14]
  5. Depression can get worse when accompanied by bad physical habits. Inactivity, not enough sleep, or bad nutrition, which are all problems for teenagers in normal circumstances. In addition to being a sounding board, make sure your teenager is getting the right kind of physical activity to stay healthy. [15]
    • Regular physical activity can help reduce depression, and is generally healthy for you. Encourage your teenager to get an hour of aerobic activity every day, such as running, swimming, or even just walking. These can even be things you do together.
    • Keep an eye on screen time. Electronic devices like computers and television can limit people’s exposure to others, and provide avenues for depression triggers like cyberbullying or negative or violent content. Make sure your teenager is getting time away from screens to interact with real people, including friends and family.
    • Make sure your teenager is getting a good night’s sleep. Strictly enforce a curfew, and make sure your teenager is going to bed when they should. Spending a lot of time on electronic devices like televisions or phones can really hurt a sleep cycle.
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      • Teenage girls are much more at risk for mood disorders, like depression or anxiety, than boys. [16]
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      • If you are a parent, take some time to learn a little bit more about your teenager’s interests. They do live in a different world, so taking some time to know the kinds of music and games they enjoy is a good way to get a sense of how they see the world. At the same time, this effort can make your teenager more comfortable with you, and more willing to open up if you need to talk about depression. [17]
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      • If you think you may be depressed, tell other people. These can be a doctor or school nurse, of course, but also discuss it with your parents, close friends, spiritual leaders, teachers, or others that you trust.
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      Warnings

      • If you notice particular signs pointing to suicidal thoughts, or a potential suicide attempt, call 911 or a suicide hotline, such as the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988, immediately. In Canada, you can visit this website to take quick action, as well as contact the Suicide Crisis Helpline (988) for help. Stay with the person until additional help arrives.
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      • If your teenager is prescribed antidepressants, the doctor may recommend that a parent distribute them to guard against overdosing. If there are troublesome side effects, do not stop taking the without talking to a doctor first. [18]
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      References

      1. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/teen-depression/symptoms-causes/dxc-20164556
      2. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/teen-depression/symptoms-causes/dxc-20164556
      3. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/teen-depression/symptoms-causes/dxc-20164556
      4. ↑ https://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/patientinstructions/000648.htm
      5. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/suicide/basics/symptoms/con-20033954
      6. ↑ http://my.clevelandclinic.org/services/neurological_institute/center-for-behavioral-health/patient-education/hic-recognizing-suicidal-behavior
      7. ↑ http://my.clevelandclinic.org/services/neurological_institute/center-for-behavioral-health/patient-education/hic-recognizing-suicidal-behavior
      8. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/suicide/basics/symptoms/con-20033954
      9. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/teen-depression/symptoms-causes/dxc-20164556
      1. ↑ http://kidshealth.org/en/teens/depression.html
      2. ↑ http://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/teen-depression-signs-help.htm
      3. ↑ http://psychcentral.com/lib/worst-things-to-say-to-someone-whos-depressed/
      4. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/teen-depression/diagnosis-treatment/diagnosis/dxc-20164562
      5. ↑ http://childmind.org/article/how-to-help-your-depressed-teenager/
      6. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/tween-and-teen-health/in-depth/teen-depression/art-20046841
      7. ↑ http://childmind.org/article/mood-disorders-and-teenage-girls/
      8. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200308/teen-depression-girls
      9. ↑ http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/teen-depression/diagnosis-treatment/treatment/txc-20164566

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