1. Express yourself tactfully. Don’t lash out or try to make her feel bad, even if your feelings are hurt. Instead, simply and calmly tell her how you feel. Don’t: shame her for her feelings. I don’t understand why you don’t feel the same way I do. I know we really connect—why can’t you see that? Do: calmly and clearly state your feelings towards her. I like you a lot more than a friend, and I’ve seen us having a future together for a while now. 2. Respect her feelings. Always remember that you cannot force someone to love or like you. I’m sorry, but I don’t feel the same way about you. Okay, I’m glad you told me now. It’s good to be on the same page. I like you as a friend, and don’t want to ruin our friendship. Well, I guess we don’t feel the same way about each other. I’m really sorry. It’s okay, don’t feel bad. 3. Get closure. Once you make sure that she doesn’t share the same feelings with you, do not continue to persist. You will find someone who shares your love—however, this girl is not the one. Don’t: Try to invalidate her feelings, or convince her to date you. You don’t really mean that. I know you feel the same way about me, you just haven’t realized it yet. Let’s just give it a chance and see what happens? You might change your mind. 4. Walk away from an unequal friendship. If your emotions are still too raw, maintaining a casual friendship with her can be too difficult painful. It may be impossible for you to maintain a relationship based upon mutual support, especially if she begins dating someone else. I just don’t feel the same way about you, but I really value our friendship. Can we stay friends? I understand, but I can’t ignore my feelings towards you. It’s hard for me to spend time with you knowing that you don’t feel the same way towards me.