April Davis
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Think of it like this:
At 23, do you feel that you've had similar life experiences as a 32-year-old-man? Most 20-something women are still in college or just started their careers, have only had a handful of romantic partners, and may or may not be living on their own.
On the other hand, an early-30s man has likely already obtained his degree (if he pursued one), is well into his career, has likely had a few long-term or serious relationships, and has likely lived on his own for years.
When we frame it like this, it's easy to see the lifestyle and life stage differences.
But take a 50-year-old woman and a 60-year-old man for example. They're likely going to be at similar places in life: they've had kids, are probably empty nesters, close to retirement, etc. There's much less lifestyle, life stage, and maturity gaps between those two.
First, it would be best to answer these questions:
>Why are you truly seeking a romantic relationship? Has a specific guy caught your eye? Or are you just in love with the idea of being in love?
>What actions have you taken to build a relationship? Have you been building new connections with guys, or have you been too afraid to shoot your shot?
If you're not already doing those things, you first step is to start. But if you've been trying to connect with men and it isn't working out, try this instead:
>Rethink your approach. Men love compliments! The next time a handsome guy attracts your attention, tell him he looks nice.
>Put yourself out there in the real world. Dating apps aren't the best tool for finding lasting relationships. Check out community events, local concerts, and popular places in your area to meet other locals.
>Be approachable. That sounds difficult, but I promise it's not with a little practice! Use open body language (no crossed arms, try to keep a neutral face or smile, etc), and make eye contact with guys you'd like to talk to.
I really hope this helps, best of luck to you!
Too many people get so caught up in their list of conversation starters that they prevent conversation from flowing naturally. It's nice to have a few icebreakers picked out before your date, but try to only use them during lulls in the conversation.
Here are a few of my favorite first-date conversation starters:
>If you could live in any fictional world, which would you pick and why?
>What's something mundane you look forward to every week?
>What’s something about you that most people wouldn’t gather from a first impression?
>What’s a question you’ve always wanted to be asked on a date?
These will likely be fresh icebreakers for you and your date. Each of these serves a unique purpose, but they all focus on creating connection and showing curiosity while keeping it upbeat and fun!
Plan a picnic in the park, complete with blankets, snacks, and a dedicated playlist. You can also make a handwritten menu for the snacks!
A trending date idea is to paint each other's pictures. This can be so cute, especially if you're not an artist!
Go on a local scavenger hunt. This is my personal favorite suggestion. Make a list of a few rare finds and head to a bookstore, antique shop, and your farmer's market.
Go stargazing! All you need is a light pollution map. From there, you can find areas close by that allow you to see a clear night sky. Bring some blankets!
Plan a stay at a themed hotel! This one might require a bit of planning as there aren't many themed hotels left, but you'll surely be in for a silly, unforgettable experience.
Send them a handwritten letter. It can really be about anything, but I suggest writing something romantic, like your favorite memory with them.
Make them a dedicated playlist. Add in some of their favorite songs and songs that remind you of them.
If you're creative, trying drawing or painting your partner and then sending it to them. This can be such a sweet surprise!
Order them their favorite takeout. Of course, you'll want to be sure they'll be home for it!
Adopt something in your partner's name, like an endangered animal or even a star. This is my favorite suggestion because it's so deeply romantic and meaningful.
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