Maya Diamond, MA

Relationship Coach

Maya Diamond is a Dating and Relationship Coach in Berkeley, CA. She has 15 years of experience helping singles stuck in frustrating dating patterns find internal security, heal their past, and create healthy, loving, and lasting partnerships. She received her Master's in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies in 2009.

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need advice, I fell for this boy at first glance
It's very easy to project onto all of your hopes and desires for love onto someone like this, but it's very important not to do that. One way to prevent it from happening is whenever you notice yourself going into that fantasy, tell your mind to stop and focus back on the present moment. You really consciously and mindfully stop your mind from going there because that fantasy and projection can just grow and grow and grow until your level of knowing a person and your level of fantasy is very disproportionate.
Why don't I like kissing? Is it possible to not like kissing?
It’s totally normal to not like kissing, so don't be afraid to set your own boundaries around it. It's okay if you want to wait until the second, third, or fourth date to kiss someone, and it’s also okay if you don't want to kiss them at all.
How do you tell if someone on Tinder is a scammer?
Tinder scammers often say "I love you" really soon after you match, even though they haven't even met you in real life. Additionally, scammers will often say they're in another country working and need money to get back to the United States (or where you're living). In general, they'll tell you about problems in their life that require money they need from you. It's never a good idea to send money to someone you've met online, even if they seem like a kind person who really cares for you. Just don't do it.
Best Tinder bio advice for men
The most important thing when making a Tinder profile is to make a profile that represents your interests, lifestyle, and personality, and to be very clear about what you're looking for on the app: are you after a casual relationship? Something more committed? Say that.

That's something that a lot of people are afraid to do because they think it'll limit their matches, but when you leave it open, what happens is that you attract the wrong people. So when you're very clear about why are online, whether it's Tinder or other dating sites, that helps filter the people who are not right for you from messaging you and helps you attract those people who are really the right fit for you in terms of your goals and your vision for what you want in your life.
I learned the average age for a first kiss is 15...
Good question. Here are some tips to have a good first kiss when you do have it: use tongue, tune in and attune to the other person while you're kissing them to really feel them so that there's a feeling of connection. Open your mouth and move your head. Also, you can do different things, like use your tongue in different ways. I would say that really aggressive kissing isn't good. The worst type of kissing is when a man pushes his tongue down your throat and you end up feeling overwhelmed by that. I think it's great if the man is leading the kiss. But he also needs to be tuning into the woman at the same time and not overly aggressively forcing the kiss.
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