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Chloe Carmichael, PhD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Chloe Carmichael, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who runs a private practice in New York City. With over 12 years of psychological consulting experience, Dr. Chloe specializes in relationship issues, stress management, self-esteem, and career coaching. She has also instructed undergraduate courses at Long Island University and has served as adjunct faculty at the City University of New York. Dr. Chloe completed her clinical training at Lenox Hill Hospital and Kings County Hospital. She is accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of “Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety” and “Dr. Chloe's 10 Commandments of Dating.”

Education

  • Doctorate of Philosophy, Clinical Psychology, Long Island University Brooklyn
  • Master of Arts, Clinical Psychology, Long Island University Brooklyn
  • Bachelor of Arts, Psychology, Columbia University

Professional Achievements

  • Dr. Chloe is an internationally known speaker, USA Today bestselling author, and female entrepreneur
  • Her book, Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety, was endorsed by Deepak Chopra and Jim McCann (Founder of 1-800Flowers.com), and translated into Mandarin, Turkish, and Russian
  • Consultant and frequent speaker at Baker McKenzie, the third largest law firm in the world
  • Has presented for the Anxiety Disorders Association of America, Keybank, Dechert LLP, Orrick, Sidley Austin LLP, Cleary Gottlieb Steen & Hamilton LLP, State of New Jersey Judiciary, Shawmut, The Harvard Club of Central Florida, NerdWallet, Inc, Duke- Fuqua School of Business, Harvard Business School Alumni Association, Belfer Management LLC, Columbia University, Ellevate Network, The 92nd Street Y, Ivy Tutors, Iona College Alumni, SYNLawn, IVY The Social University, Chamber of Commerce, and more
  • Featured expert, Psychology Today and mindbodygreen
  • Served as a psychologist for the New York College of Podiatric Medicine

Certifications & Organizations

  • Licensed Clinical Psychologist (License # 019584)
  • Member, American Psychological Association
  • Member, National Register of Health Psychologists
  • Member, Advisory Board, Women’s Health Magazine
  • Certified Yoga Instructor since 2001
  • Completed coursework in Buddhism and Meditation with Robert Tenzen-Thurman, an Oxford scholar and the first American to be ordained a Tibetan monk by the Dalai Lama
  • Completed coursework in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction by Jon Kabat-Zinn of the University of Massachusetts Medical School

Favorite Piece of Advice

The healthy function of anxiety is to stimulate preparation behaviors!

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Forum Comments (16)

Why am I still single?
It's great that you're noticing feelings for someone new. It shows you're open to connection. Since your recent breakup is still on your mind, it might be helpful to check in with yourself and make sure you’re truly over your ex. Take some time to understand the reasons for the breakup and ensure you feel ready to move forward emotionally. In my book, Dr. Chloe’s 10 Commandments of Dating, I talk about the importance of dating from a place of confidence rather than just filling a void. When you do decide to approach this new person, keep it light and natural; you don’t have to make a big declaration. Try starting with casual conversations, showing interest in his life, and giving him space to reciprocate. If you want to be a bit more direct, a simple 'I enjoy spending time with you. Would you like to grab coffee sometime?' keeps things low-pressure while signaling interest.
What's considered a big age gap in relationships?
First, congratulations on your relationship - it sounds like you've found someone who is very special to you. At the same time, understand that his potential reservations are something for him to overcome, not for you to overcome. You sound unsure about whether he's even worried - perhaps start by asking him about his feelings and then offer him reassurance if his doubts are about your ability to handle the age difference - but if he's unsure whether he can handle it, that's not your issue to overcome.
How do I confess my feelings to someone?
It sounds like you’ve already built a great connection, which is a strong foundation! Instead of thinking of it as a big "confession," try framing it as an invitation, something simple like, "I’ve really been enjoying spending time with you, and I feel like there’s something special between us. I’d love to take you on a real date. What do you think?" This way, you're expressing your feelings without putting too much pressure on her to respond a certain way. In my book, Dr. Chloe’s 10 Commandments of Dating, I talk about the importance of confidence and direct communication. People appreciate clarity, and even if she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll gain self-respect by being open and honest!
How do you get over a crush?
Getting over a crush starts with acknowledging your feelings while also giving yourself a firm nudge to move forward. Try redirecting your focus by filling your time with activities that bring you joy, such as hobbies, socializing, or personal goals. It can also help to reframe the situation as sometimes a crush is more about the excitement of possibility rather than the reality of a true connection. If you find yourself ruminating, using structured thought exercises like the Mental Shortlist Technique from my book Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety can help you contain and process those emotions in a healthy way.
Telltale signs she will cheat on me?
It’s completely normal to feel unsettled when something feels different in your relationship. Instead of focusing solely on potential signs of cheating like increased secrecy, emotional distance, or unexplained absences, try shifting your attention to the overall health of your connection. Find some time when things are quiet and you can talk, then tell her you've noticed things seem different and ask her if she agrees. A calm, open conversation about how you've been feeling can reveal whether there's a real issue to address. Also, if you have a history of dealing with infidelity make sure to consider if that is shaping your current perspective. Wishing you all the best!
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