How can I be more affectionate towards my partner?

To be more affectionate toward your partner, little things like holding their hand, putting your arm around them, or hugging and kissing them more often can go a long way. If you aren’t the biggest fan of physical touch, there are also tons of non-physical ways to make your partner feel loved. You could try doing some thoughtful gestures, like writing them a sweet note and leaving it somewhere for them to find, or bringing them their favorite beverage or treat when you know they’re having a tough day.

Everyone’s different when it comes to physical touch. Some people love all forms of touching, while others prefer none. The most important thing is to make sure you discuss what your partner likes and dislikes. Maybe they want hugs and kisses. When you want to try something else, make sure that it's out in the open and address it directly to your partner, so that you both understand each other clearly. Remember, communication is key, especially when matters of the heart are involved.

The most important thing is to first communicate that you notice this difference in affection needs between you and your partner. It's easy to back off of these conversations because of feeling ashamed that you might need something different from each other. Try not to fall into that trap. Second, find out by asking your partner what type of touch is most important to them, and then feel out the moments that it means the most. Third, let them know you are trying through body language too, such as more eye contact, more smiling, initiating shared activities, or making some food for them can also go a long way to communicate care and affection.