I don't know how to talk to my crush

02/07/25 6:04pm

I have been in love with a girl in my class for 2 years but I have barely spoken to her. I don't want to keep just sitting and waiting for her to talk to me but I have no idea how to approach her or what to say. I have her number from when we worked on a group project together and have thought about just texting her casually but I feel awkward and never know how to go about it without coming off weird. Anyone know what I should do? I'm dying here!

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02/08/25 10:02am

Shoot your shot and try not to overthink it. You'll never know if she's interested unless you put yourself out there, and you don't want to look back and regret never talking to her.

Approach her before or after class and just keep things really casual. Ask her how she's doing, what her plans for the weekend are, or what she thought about a recent class assignment or exam. Pay attention to what she says so you can refer back to it later. For instance, if she mentions plans to see a movie with friends on Saturday, you could ask her the next week what she thought of the movie and if you should go see it.

Once you've chatted in person a couple times, you could try texting her. Just ask her what she's up to to get the conversation started. Then, you can find out more about what she likes, such as her favorite books, movies, or musical artists. Give her a compliment or share something that made you think of her.

Pay attention to her responses, too. If she's not super responsive or says she has to go, she might not be feeling it. But if she keeps engaging with you, she may be interested. Best of luck!

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Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach

02/08/25 6:13pm

I think sometimes people get caught up in the exact words to say; the words are much less important than energy. You can throw out the most interesting topic, and if you write it like your grandma would write a text, it's going to fall flat. The same applies to the phone or face-to-face conversations, though obviously, you're in a more real-time environment.

You share energy with statements. If I say, "Hey, I went to the library today, it was really hot, and I saw the best dog on the way home," there are so many things in what I just said that you could give an energetic, great response to. I've already given you more than enough that you don't have to ask any questions. So look to make statements; look to create good energy and focus a little less on the content and more on the energy, enthusiasm, and life that you bring to the content.

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WikiZebraCaster991

02/09/25 12:12pm

If she's in your class there are probably some class things that you can talk to her about to break the ice and make first contact. Ask her about assignments, tests, or projects and from there, move on to asking questions about her and getting to know her better. If you find yourself getting nervous, try taking deep breaths before you go and talk with her.

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WikiRiverDancer234

02/10/25 8:56am

In your communication, body language and energy and important! Smile, stand up straight (but don't be stiff), and make eye contact (but in a warm way not a creepy way). Be genuinely interested in what she has to say and the rest will fall into place. Same goes for over text. Your "body language" will come across in your punctuation and use of emojis. It's hard to read tone over text so you can be a little generous with exclamation points and emojis if you want to come across as enthusiastic and friendly (but don't overdo it). Mirror her texting style.

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