How to Get Out of the Friend Zone After Rejection

That’s a great question, and I get why it feels tricky. In my book, Dr. Chloe’s 10 Commandments of Dating, I talk about the importance of confidence and clear communication in relationships. Try subtly shifting the dynamic by complimenting her in a way that goes beyond friendship, suggesting a more date-like activity, or playfully mentioning the idea of you two as a couple to gauge her reaction. If she responds positively, build on it. If not, you’ll have your answer without risking much. When the time feels right, you can say, “I’ve always valued our friendship, but I’d be lying if I said I never wondered what it would be like to date you. Have you ever thought about that?” This keeps it honest while leaving space for her comfort.

I don't think you should fundamentally change who you are just to try and get out of the friendzone...but if you want to try and become the best version of yourself, that could be a great way to make yourself more attractive to you friend! Try to pinpoint specific areas of growth that you want to focus on, make concrete goals, and work towards them! For example, if you feel out of shape, you can put together a workout regime. Or if you wish you had more time for your hobbies, work on your time management or shift around your schedule. People are attracted to people who know what they want in life and put in the time and effort to make it happen!