Q&A for How to Face Reality

It's very important to have a coach, mentor, or friend you can bounce ideas off of. This is called sound-boarding, and it can be a very powerful way to get clarity.

Face the reality that no one is perfect. We are human and humans are imperfect. Expecting yourself to be perfect is a recipe for depression. Instead of trying to be perfect at everything, learn to accept failure as a learning process and just commit to trying your best.

Think about why this person said it. What were you doing that prompted that statement? Look in the mirror and ask yourself what, if anything, you need to change about yourself or your behavior. Reflect on your past and present, and figure out if you're in denial. Ask yourself the same question again, after you've spent some time seriously considering these things.

Talk to he/she. Try to get him/her to stop saying hateful comments, and remember to do it as kindly as possible. Maybe they don't realize they're doing it. The best thing you can do is emphasize to them how hurtful you find this behavior.

Keep on dreaming - if you cannot stop doing it, maybe it is what you need. However, make some place for the real world in your life: some things just need to be done. Control the extent to which your imaginary perfect world and the real one mix with each other, and everything should be fine. If you find it impossible to make space for real life, talk to a therapist, counselor or a trusted friend/family member for advice.

Do nothing. Let her put herself in debt and learn her lesson. That is the only way she will learn that she must live within her means. If she gets social security money, she sounds like someone that would benefit from having a representative payee.

You have to see the writing on the wall, their are many, many fish in the ocean, look elsewhere and you may find something much better.

Do not let external factors influence how you feel about yourself. Always remember that inside you is a kind and intelligent human being. Never forget your self-worth. Just because you are unemployed doesn't make you a bad person. That can be changed. As for your relationships, if they are hurting you more than benefiting you, perhaps rethink keeping them. Do what's best for you, and all else will fall into place.

Have you been professionally diagnosed? You need to seek help from a mental health specialist. If you're not sure how to find one, talk this over with your doctor and they should be able to refer you to someone.

There are many reasons as to why someone may do this. They could simply be asocial, or, they may have depression or another form of mental illness. Depending on who they are, try talking to them and asking why they do this. Don't be hostile, just say that you are curious. Social withdrawal is a symptom of depression, however it doesn't 100% mean they have it. I know someone who does this because of their religion. There are many reasons as to why someone may do this.

It sounds like you need new female friend and interest in your life. It is not healthy to maximize your time thinking about one person and you must love yourself more. You are just as important as she is, think about yourself and how you really deserve to be loved and treated. You want someone who will love you the same way you love them. There is not a light switch on love, you either love someone or you don't. Question your gf to see if there is a reason for her actions that has not been shared with you.

Communication can help to break inaccurate impressions. Listen more and learn. Your actions that look productive, whatever you do, whether studying, working, reading, etc can create a favorable impression in others. You know you are responsible and hardworking, so you can disregard their random thoughts and keep believing that you are a good person who is not useless.