How to Attract a Venus in Aquarius Man (According to Astrologists)

Woo the Venus in Aquarius guy in your life with these expert tips

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Annabelle Reyes

Last Updated: August 4, 2025 Fact Checked

The Venus in Aquarius guy you're crushing on is a highly intellectual free spirit, so how can you capture his heart? "Venus in Aquarius" means that the planet Venus falls in Aquarius on your crush's birth chart—and since Venus rules love and relationships in astrology, your crush's Venus sign can tell you exactly what he's attracted to. ^{[1]
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Research source} Venus in Aquarius guys are the rebels of the zodiac; they love originality, creativity, and intelligence, so you can catch his interest by showing him that you're equally clever and accepting of his eccentricities. Read on for our complete guide to attracting a Venus in Aquarius man, complete with insights from professional astrologists!

Attracting an Aquarius Venus Man

Astrologer Stina Garbis says that starting off as friends is key to winning an Aquarius Venus guy over. When you hang out, “be a little bit quirky, and allow your silly side to show,” Garbis adds. Aquarius energy is all about originality and eccentricity, so he’ll appreciate it if you’re authentic and true to yourself.

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Join his friend circle.

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Friendship is more valuable to Venus in Aquarius than romance. This sign is known to blend love and friendship, so “there may not be a clear line where one ends and the other begins,” says Garbis. ^{[2]
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Expert Interview} Take things slowly to build up his trust in you, and show him that you'll be a best friend and a lover all rolled into one. Be there for him, follow through on your promises, text him funny messages, and focus on having fun together.
- A Venus in Aquarius man “needs a lover who can also be a friend,” explains astrologer Angel Eyedealism. “They need to be casual about commitment and not fussy over pushing the relationship.” ^{[3]
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- To embody this energy, work on befriending him before initiating anything more serious. Even if you already have a crush on him, it's important to treat him like you would any other friend at first.
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Kyle Thomas is a globally recognized pop culture astrologer and the official Resident Astrologer for PEOPLE magazine.

Stina Garbis is a psychic astrologer with over 30 years of experience and the owner of Psychic Stina, based in Corvallis, Oregon.

Angel Eyedealism is an astrologer and performance artist who has been featured in publications such as Vogue , Cosmopolitan , and The Atlantic.

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Show off your unique fashion sense.

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The more offbeat, the better, as far as he's concerned. Wear the most unconventional and colorful outfits you own with a Venus in Aquarius. Pick anything that makes you feel good, especially if it emphasizes your favorite features. Venus in Aquarius also has a quirky fashion sense, so he wants to see you looking confident and wearing outfits that set you apart from the crowd.
- “Wear a hint of something wild with your outfits, like a bright scarf or brooch,” Garbis recommends. “They like things to be cutting edge, so do things a trendsetter would do.” ^{[4]
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- One word of warning: overly revealing clothes or super heavy makeup can be a turn-off. “Be more of natural beauty, but also trendy at the same time,” Garbis says.
- Even if you don't think of your personal style as "quirky," you can still catch his eye by changing your look each time you see him. Stay true to your personal aesthetic , but make him look forward to seeing what you'll wear next!

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Express interest in his hobbies.

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He's looking for someone who accepts him and his eclectic passions. Strengthen your friendship with a Venus in Aquarius man by learning about his interests. ^{[5]
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Expert Interview} He'll feel more comfortable with someone who makes an effort to understand and appreciate his lifestyle.
- If he has a favorite video game, express interest in playing it yourself. Give it a try and let him know what you like about it. You could even hang out and play it together!
- Compare your favorite apps or gadgets. Guys with an Aquarius sign tend to have a mind for tech, so he'll probably have a lot to talk about.

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Talk about your creative pursuits.

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These imaginative signs want a partner who thinks outside the box. Venus in Aquarius values free-thinking and creative expression, so “show your creative, innovative side to him and inspire him,” Garbis suggests. ^{[7]
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Expert Interview} Tell him about any artistic hobbies you have, and let your imagination run wild when you're together.
- You could say, "I've been taking a painting class, and I'm really proud of my progress—wanna see my latest work?"
- Alternatively, you could post about your artistic endeavors on social media and let him discover your creativity for himself.
- Talk about your innovative thought processes. Mention a time you solved a problem at work that nobody else could or navigated an "impossible" disagreement between friends.

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Engage him intellectually.

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Intelligent conversation is this clever guy's biggest turn-on. Aquarius is a cerebral sign, so you must engage with a Venus in Aquarius man mentally first, explains Eyedealism. “Impress him with your intellect, or your ability to match his intellect,” she says. ^{[8]
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Expert Interview} Bring up his favorite topics, talk openly about your ideas, and be a conscientious listener to stimulate his busy mind. ^{[9]
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Research source} This guy is extremely social and eager to have long, thoughtful conversations with you.
- Discuss philosophical or political ideas. According to astrologer Kyle Thomas, Aquarius tends to be very socially aware, community-oriented, and focused on understanding humanity, so recent news stories and humanitarian issues are bound to get his attention. ^{[10]
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- Don't worry about having the highest IQ or knowing the most interesting facts. An open mind and a willingness to talk about anything will make your Venus in Aquarius guy just as happy!
- Venus in Aquarius guys are one of the signs that might find love on the internet because they can have entire relationships in their head, adds Eyedealism. ^{[11]
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  Expert Interview} To them, an active mind is more important than a physical body.

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Surprise him.

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Match your Venus in Aquarius guy's spontaneous energy. Text him at random times during the day when the mood strikes you, and go out of your way to surprise him with a small gift or a spur-of-the-moment invitation to hang out. This sign loves surprises and wants to be with someone who can keep him on his toes.
- Text him something like, "I learned the WEIRDEST fact about Ancient Rome, and I have to share!" or "I just heard a cool song on the radio and thought of you. Here's the link!"
- Gifts shouldn't be overly extravagant. Pick up his favorite coffee drink on your way to hang out with him, or get him something small and thoughtful for his birthday, even if you haven't discussed gifts.

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Intrigue him with some mystery.

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These men prefer solving puzzles over having answers spelled out. Rather than coming out and telling him that you have a crush, let him figure it out on his own. Be ambiguous about your feelings for him and play it cool. It may seem strange, but the less interested you act around him, the more interested he'll become. According to Thomas, Aquarius energy is a little aloof and emotionally detached, too, so this behavior will be attractive and enticing to him. ^{[12]
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- Every now and then, when he asks a question, answer with, "Wouldn't you like to know?" or "I'll tell you later—it's a secret! 😉" This will make him even more curious to know the answer.

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Keep things drama-free.

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Venus in Aquarius guys have a hard time dealing with emotions. When you're still getting to know each other, stick to simple and lighthearted topics that he can have fun talking about. Because he's more analytical than emotional, he won't want to discuss his feelings or get deeply personal before he's ready. ^{[13]
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Research source} Stay positive, go with the flow, and take your cues from him.
- Examples of upbeat topics could be: "What do you do for fun?" "What's your favorite book/movie/television show?" or, "If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?"
- When discussing heavier topics with your Venus in Aquarius, make sure you're alone. He'll be especially unwilling to open up when he's in front of other people.
- Although this detachment can make a Venus in Aquarius man seem a little unemotional, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care. Those with Aquarius men actually do value genuine connections, and they can be very romantic, though this “typically comes from an intellectual space, rather than an emotional one,” explains Thomas. ^{[14]
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Be independent.

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Needy behavior is unappealing to a Venus in Aquarius guy. This is one of the most independent zodiac signs, so he's attracted to people with a need for freedom that matches his own. Keep pursuing your own interests, and don't be afraid to ask for a little alone time to do your own thing—a Venus in Aquarius guy will completely understand and even appreciate you voicing this need.
- Spend plenty of time with family and other friends to show your guy that you don't need him to have fun!
- Take time to enjoy your solo hobbies and share what you are working on with Venus in Aquarius, whether it's your latest poem or a new personal record for your daily 3-mile run.
- Ultimately, it’s important to “maintain a life of your own to prove that you are a high quality, self sufficient and confident person and that you don't need your Aquarius to always pick up the pieces or dictate how you live your life,” says Garbis. ^{[15]
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Give him space.

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This sign is happiest when he has plenty of independence. Tell him that you understand his need for alone time, and make it clear that you're happy to spend time with him however you can. Venus in Aquarius wants a partner who isn't threatened by his independent nature, so he'll love the fact that he can be around you without feeling guilted or pressured into more commitment than he's ready for.
- Let him go off on his own or have some space to think if he asks for it. The fewer demands you make, the more he'll want you in his life.
- He might cancel plans to do something else he deems important, like finishing a book or working on a project. Accept this gracefully and say something like, "No problem! I can't wait to hear about that book when you're done!"

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Be your authentic self.

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Venus in Aquarius gravitates towards originality. Backgrounds and social labels don't matter to this eccentric rebel; he wants to know about everything that makes you unique! Be honest about every aspect of your life, from your interests and hobbies to your personal history. Show him that you're proud of who you are, and a Venus in Aquarius won't be able to get enough of you. ^{[16]
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- Don't sweat about having too little in common. This guy wants to stand out from the crowd, so he doesn't need you to be unconventional in the same ways he is. He loves being around different kinds of people.

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Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.

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You have to relax a little bit to gain more intimacy with an Aquarius man. Since this sign is so in their head, though, you definitely need to let them know that you're physically interested in them.

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How to Attract a Venus in Aquarius Man (According to Astrologists)

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Join his friend circle.

Show off your unique fashion sense.

Express interest in his hobbies.

Talk about your creative pursuits.

Engage him intellectually.

Surprise him.

Intrigue him with some mystery.

Keep things drama-free.

Be independent.

Give him space.

Be your authentic self.

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