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Livvxia
Livvxia
06/03/25 6:19pm
Basically, I got with my boyfriend 6 months ago, And honestly it was going great, But recently it has been different and I am not sure how to feel and what this means. He recently has asked to hang out I would say 4-5 times a week, I am someone that does around 5 clubs per week as I am focussed on a career I want to peruse one day.

Anyway, he knows what I do every week yet mostly he will usually ask me on days o am busy, And I always remind him and he will always reply the same… “Oh” and recently he would go offline for the rest of the day. And honestly, That reply would kind of make me feel guilty for the rest of the day.
Note we go to different schools in a similar area, but we have different times we start and finish. What do I do? Be honest. ❤️
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Sixu Chen
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07/21/25 10:49pm
Thanks for sharing. The best advice I have is to have an open communication with him and set the expectations. If you are too busy to hang out then it is ok to tell him that but propose an alternative idea, and that way it is not just a rejection but an invitation to find a better time to hang out.

I think if you guys keep the communication open and honest, you will find a time to hang out that work for both of you. It seems that right now without they communication, his needs are not being met nor being communicated.
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wikiHow Editorial Team
06/03/25 6:20pm
Navigating different schedules in a relationship can be tough, but it’s not impossible. It just requires a bit of communication and planning! It sounds like your boyfriend has been trying to schedule hangouts when you’re busy with other commitments. In this situation, the best course of action is to sit down with your boyfriend and talk things out. Explain that you want to spend time with him, and that you aren’t trying to hurt his feelings when you turn down invitations—you’re just busy with your clubs. From there, the two of you can try to come up with some date times that fit into both your schedules.

If your boyfriend ultimately says that he needs more quality time with you than you’re able to give, you may have to discuss whether or not you’re a good fit for each other. However, if he’s willing to compromise, there’s a good chance you’ll be able to work things out!
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06/05/25 7:19pm
I think you should show him this exact paragraph you wrote and see what he says. If these are your real feelings then it would be good for him to see that and if he reacts negatively, honestly, he's not the one.
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