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You're crushing on someone and wanting to ask them out, but there's one problem: you're not sure if they like you back. Fortunately, there are all kinds of signs you can look for to figure out if someone is into you. To help you out, we've rounded up the best ways to know for sure if your crush likes you too. Use the tips below to find out how your crush really feels.
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Start the conversation. Start with something simple like, "Hey, how was your weekend?" or if it's nearer the end of the week, "Hey, got anything planned for this weekend?". Always remember to say their name whenever you can. People love that.
- If they like you, they'll keep the conversation going by asking you questions about your weekend- and you'll get into their life.
- If they just mumble something like, "It was fine" and then go back to what they were doing, they're probably not interested.
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Talk to them as much as possible. A lot of people think that if they talk to their crush a lot then their crush will think they're pathetic, or clingy, but that's just not true. People love it when you hang out with them and actually try to talk about all sorts of topics. [1] X Expert Source Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach Expert Interview. 16 June 2021.Advertisement -
Listen carefully at all times. Try to relate to what they say, but don't try to be someone you're not.
- Don't daydream while they are talking, they'll hate that and find it a turn off.
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Do the smile test. If you look at them and they're already looking back at you, smile at them. Many girls and some guys like it when the other person makes the first move. Hold the eye contact just for a second, then smile at them. [2] X Expert Source Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach Expert Interview. 16 June 2021. If they like you, they'll smile back. If they don't like you, they'll give you a weird look or turn away.- Smile with your eyes and make sure you have white teeth and a nice breath.
- Don't use the smile test unless you know each other. Don't try this with a crush who doesn't know you.
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Become friends with your crush. This is vital before continuing on with the next steps. You can only keep testing their interest if you are good friends. So, become good friends!
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Get to know about what kind of music your crush likes, their favorite TV show, their favorite celebrity, etc. Find out all that you can about stuff like that.
- If they like you, this will turn into a conversation because they'll ask you what your interests are too.
- If they don't like you, it will sound more like an interview. It sounds creepy if you're just sitting there asking them all these questions and they're responding with one-word answers. If this is the case, stop the conversation and give your crush some space.
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Try the hug test. Go up to your crush and offer them a hug for no apparent reason. Make sure you hug them gently, not like you might with one of your guy friends. Put your hands on their upper back (if your crush is a girl or trans guy, steer clear of their bra!) and slowly rub your hand in up-and-down or circular motions. If they're interested, they'll hug you back.
- Notice whether their chin is resting on your shoulder. If it is, there's some chemistry there. Rest your chin on their shoulder too, and bow your head a little bit so it looks like you're looking at the ground.
- If they don't hug you back or they refuse the hug in the first place, they're likely not interested. But some people just don't like hugs, so don't jump to conclusions.
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Try to hold their hand. If you're lucky enough to sit together in a class, attempt to hold your crush's hand. But this has to be done very carefully. Make sure their hand is off the table and resting on their seat. If they're right-handed, sit on the left side of them. If they're left-handed, sit on the right side of them. Slowly move your hand towards them and gently touch their wrist. They may jump a little at first; remember, this person may like you.
- If they do, try to stay holding hands for the remainder of the lesson.
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Play with their hair. If your crush has a strand of hair in their face, gently tuck it behind their ear (for long hair) or brush it out of the way (for short hair).
- If they're interested, they'll likely smile.
- If they're not interested, they'll likely move away.
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Do not flirt with other people to see what their reaction is. If your crush does like you back, seeing you flirt with another person will just make them feel stupid. They won't know you're doing it to see what their reaction is- they'll think you're doing it because you have a crush on the person you're flirting with.
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Notice whether they try to touch you. If you reach something out for them to take, see if they gently touch your hand before they take it. This may be a sign of their eagerness to get closer to you. [3] X Expert Source Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach Expert Interview. 16 June 2021.- Beware: It could just mean they bumped you by accident.
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Notice them playing with their hair, rubbing their lips, looking at their nails, or fiddling with their fingers. These are all possible signs that they're nervous and may mean that they're interested in you.
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Notice whether they makes eye contact while talking to you. If not, it could mean your crush is nervous, or just doesn't make eye contact, or doesn't like you.
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Notice some typical responses from a person who might fancy you. These include: Blushing, complimenting you often, giggling, making excuses to hang around you, teasing you, staring but looking away quickly when caught, hugging you and whispering to friends when you walk by.
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QuestionHow do you get your crush to like you back?This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerYou can’t really control how your crush feels about you, but being your best self around them will help. Dress nicely and keep yourself well-groomed when you know you’ll be around them. Try to strike up a conversation with them, and keep it friendly and upbeat. Look for ways to show off your good qualities, like your kindness or sense of humor.
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QuestionHow can I be cute to my crush?This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerThat depends a lot on what your crush is like, but the best thing you can do is be yourself. Be friendly and confident and let them see your good qualities. Wear clothes and hairstyles that flatter you and make you feel good, and practice good hygiene so you look and smell nice. Be kind around them and let your sense of humor shine.
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QuestionWhat are some physical signs your crush likes you?This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerThey might make prolonged eye contact, smile at you a lot, or look for reasons to get close to you or touch you. You might also notice them fiddling with their hair or even blushing when they talk to you.
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Tips
- Dress well. Don't overdo it though.Thanks
- Get to know them better before asking them out. Even if you have to go through "friend zone" first, it'll be worth it in the end.Thanks
- When talking to them, check their pupils. It's a proven fact that bigger pupils means more interest, particularly in you. [ citation needed ]Thanks
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Warnings
- If the two of you aren't good enough friends, the holding hands test won't go down well. If you're in doubt, do some more talking before starting on the action.Thanks
- Only try to touch them if you know they will be okay with it.Thanks
- Don't avoid them to hang with the guys. They won't like you for that.Thanks
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To know if your crush likes you back, start by asking a simple question like “How was your weekend?” and see if they keep the conversation going by asking about yours. Another way to tell is to check their body language for common signs of nervousness like hair twirling or looking at their nails, which could mean they’re interested in you. Additionally, notice whether they use opportunities to touch you, like lingering on your hand when you pass them something. For more ways to tell if your crush might like you back, including how to look out for common signs like blushing or giggling, keep reading!
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