How to Make a Grandparent Happy

Grandparents are special people in the family structure. They are proud of their status as “grandparent,” and they are proud of the family that has grown beneath them. There are many different ways to make a grandparent happy; it is most important to know what your grandparent likes. Simply making an effort is enough to make your grandparent happy and reassure him/her that you care.

Method 1
Method 1 of 4:

Spending Time With Your Grandparent

  1. Depending on how old your grandparent is, he may be limited in some respects. If you would like to spend time with your grandparent, be sure to plan for activities that your grandparent can easily do.
    • For example, if your grandparent needs to use a cane or walker to help him get around, then planning a morning walking around a local park is not a suitable idea. Your grandparent will not be able to walk for a long period of time and will need frequent rest breaks.
  2. Especially if your grandparent has health issues or is past the age of 80, for example, he likely has some limitations for accepting visits. Avoid planning your visits during these times.
    • Know if your grandparent sleeps late in the mornings or takes naps around a certain time every day.
    • Know if your grandparent has a regular doctor appointment each week or has a medical routine to do at the same time every day.
    Advertisement
  3. Based on what you know your grandparent can and likes to do, figure out how the time you spend with your grandparent will go. There are many ideas for making new memories with your grandparent:
    • Cook or bake together
    • Sit and talk about life and memories
    • Read a book together
    • Take a walk around the neighborhood or in a park
    • Make a craft with him/her
    • Learn a skill that he/she has, like carving wood or knitting
    • Have a picnic
    • Visit a local art gallery
    • Play board or card games
    • Go shopping or window shopping
    • Go fishing, boating, or hunting
    • If you have a talent, you can use it to make them happy. For example, you sing or play piano for them. [1]
    • You can spend some time with them and have a conversation, so they do not feel lonely. [2]
    • Or you can bring something nice for them.
  4. In this case, your grandparent may not be able to leave the facility. Prepare activities to spend time together that can be done where your grandparent is.
    • Talk about life and memories
    • Play board or card games
    • Put a puzzle together
    • Make a craft together
    • Read a book together
    • Write a story or poem together
  5. It will be important to your grandparent that you show up on time and on the correct day. He has been looking forward to this and will be disappointed if you are late or if you cancel.
    • If you are running late, call your grandparent and let him know to expect you a little later. Be sure to explain why.
    • If it turns out that you need to reschedule, let your grandparent know immediately. Do not wait until the last minute to call and change the plans, because your grandparent will likely feel very let down. Be sure to reschedule for another day and time that you are certain you are available.
  6. It truly means a lot to grandparents to spend time with their grandchildren, so be sure to respect his excitement about seeing you by engaging in the activity and conversation.
    • Enjoy the time you are spending with your grandparent, because you never know how much longer you might be able to do this.
  7. Let your grandparent know realistically when you will be able spend time with him again. Create plans for the next time you will visit him.
    • You can do a different activity next time, or you can do the same thing again.
    • Make sure your grandparent has written down somewhere when you will come for your next visit.
    • Scheduling the next time gives your grandparent something to which he can look forward.
    Advertisement
Method 2
Method 2 of 4:

Helping Your Grandparent

  1. Your grandparent might still live independently, and in that case, she almost certainly would welcome help with chores around the house. Ask your grandparent if she could use your help with anything. [3]
    • Alternatively, if you know that your grandparent needs some help, you could surprise her by showing up unexpectedly to do the work.
  2. If your grandparent does not want to ask you to help due to pride or a strong feeling of independence, or if she is vague about needing help, think of some ways in which you can help her.
    • Vacuum the house
    • Dust the furniture
    • Pull weeds in the garden
    • Help harvest homegrown vegetables
    • Wash the walls
    • Deep clean the carpets
    • Do the laundry
    • Paint a room
  3. Sometimes, your grandparent's home might need professional work done that you cannot help complete. However, you can help your grandparent call different companies or contractors to get price estimates and to get the work scheduled.
    • Having a new roof installed
    • Having a new appliance delivered and installed
    • Getting a porch or deck built onto the house
    • Having a pest issue resolved
    • Having some kind of renovation done inside the house, like replacing cabinets
  4. You can arrange a day and time that works for both you and your grandparent, or you can show up to surprise her.
    • Be sure to follow through with going to her home, if she is expecting you. You will let her down and lose trust if you do not show up.
    • Be polite and respectful if your grandparent is hesitant to let you help due to pride or feelings of independence. While she might truly need the help, she could find it offensive or upsetting if you become pushy about it. If your grandparent does not want you to do as much work as you planned to do, then complete the tasks she is allowing you to do and try to get to the others next time.
  5. You are volunteering your time to help your grandparent, but you should still be sure to complete the work to the best of your ability.
    • Your grandparent probably did a lot to help your parents raise you, and this is your opportunity to help repay the favor. This is also a good time to show her how much you appreciate and care about her.
    • You want your grandparent to live in comfort and health, so do your best to ensure that this happens when you offer to take care of chores personally.
  6. If you can, make plans to be at your grandparent's house the day that the work is supposed to be completed so that you can make sure it gets done.
    • You might need to take your grandparent to your house or somewhere else for the day, depending on what kind of work is being done on her house. Take care of those arrangements ahead of time, if necessary.
    Advertisement
Method 3
Method 3 of 4:

Staying in Touch With Your Grandparent

  1. If you live close to your grandparent, then decide how often you can realistically visit him.
    • If you are a youth and cannot drive yet, this will depend on your parents' availability to drive you to your grandparent's house.
    • Consider whether you can go after school or work and how many times per week. Maybe you can only commit to once per week, or maybe you have availability to visit a few times per week.
    • If you live far away, always make an effort to visit your grandparent in person when you are in town.
  2. [4] Even if you live close to your grandparent, you could still create a habit of calling once or twice per week. If you live far away, you will want to do this regularly.
    • If you have a commute of 20 minutes or more to/from work or school, you could easily spend that time chatting with your grandparent. Bluetooth devices and Bluetooth accessibility in cars are both very common today to make talking while driving safe.
    • Call whenever you know your grandparent is available and whenever you have time. If your grandparent is an early riser and you have time in the mornings, call then. On the other hand, if you cannot call until the evening, call at an appropriate time for your grandparent.
  3. If your grandparent is tech savvy, he might be up for learning how to use a video calling service. [5]
    • If you live far away, this is a way for you to catch up with your grandparent and for you to see each other.
    • When you visit your grandparent in person, take a couple of hours to teach him how to use the service and practice.
  4. Your grandparent will love getting a card or letter from you, and he will appreciate that you took the time to write to him. [6]
    • You can send a card for his birthday, anniversary, or other holiday.
    • Your grandparent will like being remembered and recognized on days like Veteran's Day, if he was a member of the military.
    • You can also simply send a note “just because,” to catch your grandparent up on what is going on in your life.
    Advertisement
Method 4
Method 4 of 4:

Respecting Your Grandparent

  1. This is an important step that permeates all kinds of interactions you have with your grandparent.
    • Be an active listener when your grandparent is telling you stories about your family history or about her memories. Ask questions and make comments that prove that you are listening.
    • Respond appropriately to her requests or commands. If she asks you to do a task, then you should do it.
  2. Your grandparent grew up in a different time period, where societal norms and values were different. Be aware of what habits might irritate your grandparent.
    • Stay off of your cell phone or smartphone while spending time with her. Your attention should be focused on her.
    • Avoid arguing with or talking back to your grandparent.
    • Thank your grandparent when she does something for you or gives you a gift.
    • Be polite to your grandparent and to others when you are out in public.
    • Be helpful and do any tasks or chores without complaint.
  3. The fact is that your grandparent is getting older and will likely suffer some health issues. She is not going to be alive forever, sadly, and your grandparent needs to know that you value the time spent with her.
    • Let your grandparent know often that you love her.
    • Focus your attention on your grandparent when spending time with her.
  4. Your grandparent has spent many more years alive and has many more life experiences than you do. Even if you do not totally agree with her advice, your grandparent is almost certainly speaking from experience.
    • If you do take her advice, and it works for you, be sure to let your grandparent know and thank her for helping you.
  5. Grandparents truly want to feel included and to be invited to events. If you are having a dinner party, or if you are going on a family vacation, be sure to extend an invitation to your grandparent.
    • Although grandparents love and enjoy babysitting their grandchildren, for example, they feel more respected and included when they are invited to events.
  6. Things were very different when your grandparent grew up, so be understanding of that. Your grandparent likely has many set-in-stone beliefs, so avoid arguing with or scoffing at those beliefs.
    • Do not try to force new ideas or beliefs on your grandparent if she is not open to learning about them. This only sets the stage for an argument and causes tension.
    • Your grandparent might be curious about a topic or norm, but she may not want to learn everything there is to know about it. Respect the boundaries she sets for the conversation.
    • Calmly and carefully explain certain new societal norms, like the ways people interact or the mixture of cultures present in society.
    Advertisement

Community Q&A

Search
Add New Question
  • Question
    What do my grandparents expect from me?
    Community Answer
    They expect you to be respectful and loving. Help around the house if you can. They usually just want to have a good time with you.
    Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
    Thank you for your feedback.
    If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
    Yes No
    Not Helpful 8 Helpful 46
  • Question
    How can I help my grandpa feel less lonely when he is alone after I visit with him?
    Community Answer
    Send him letters (handwritten), video chat with him (or even just a phone call), and take and send lots of pictures.
    Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
    Thank you for your feedback.
    If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
    Yes No
    Not Helpful 6 Helpful 33
  • Question
    I want to honor my grandfather, who passed away early this year. I really miss him, as I was very close to him. How can I?
    Community Answer
    Do activities you did with him. Like, go fishing if you used to fish with him. Maybe even pray at night and talk to him.
    Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.
    Thank you for your feedback.
    If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow
    Yes No
    Not Helpful 13 Helpful 31
See more answers
Ask a Question
200 characters left
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Submit

      Advertisement

      Tips

      • Show your grandparent that you care. Any time you spend or anything that you do with him is a sign of how much you value him. [7]
        Thanks
        Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0
      • Do not feel obligated to spend money on your grandparents. She most likely has all of the possessions she wants. What she would rather have is time with you.
        Thanks
        Helpful 2 Not Helpful 0
      • You can wake up early and make a cake to show that you love him/her!
        Thanks
        Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0
      Show More Tips
      Advertisement

      Warnings

      • Be aware of the limited time your grandparent likely has left. Spend as much time with him as you can, and make him aware of how much you love and respect him.
        Thanks
        Helpful 27 Not Helpful 7


      Advertisement

      You Might Also Like

      How to
      Make Coffee
      How to
      Become Taller Naturally
      How to
      Improve Your Alexa Ranking
      The Best Couples Halloween Costumes for 2021
      How to
      Slim Your Face
      How to
      Start a Vegetable Garden
      How to
      Make Homemade Pasta
      How to
      Reduce Plastic Use
      How to
      Organize Your Schedule
      How to
      Find Things You Lost
      How to
      Be a Cholo
      How to
      Iron
      How to
      Do Drywall Repair
      How to
      Organize Your Garage
      Advertisement

      References

      1. ↑ https://friendshealthcare.org/2017/03/23/15-fun-activities-visit-grandparents/
      2. ↑ https://friendshealthcare.org/2017/03/23/15-fun-activities-visit-grandparents/
      3. ↑ http://womanitely.com/reasons-visit-grandparents-week/
      4. ↑ http://coolmompicks.com/blog/2011/09/11/4-ways-to-make-your-grandparen/
      5. ↑ http://coolmompicks.com/blog/2011/09/11/4-ways-to-make-your-grandparen/
      6. ↑ https://www.newsmax.com/FastFeatures/Grandfather-activities-fun-Father-s/2010/12/10/id/379593/
      7. ↑ http://www.goodnet.org/articles/6-simple-ways-to-make-your-grandparents-happy-today

      About this article

      Article Summary X

      To make a grandparent happy, try to keep in touch by visiting them when you can. You can do activities they like, such as taking a walk together, playing board or card games, or sitting and talking about memories. You should also make a habit of calling them regularly, such as once or twice a week, even if you live close by. Additionally, you can offer a hand with jobs like painting a room or vacuuming the house if they need help. For more tips, including how to teach your grandparent to use a video calling service, such as Skype, read on!

      Did this summary help you?
      Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 110,887 times.

      Reader Success Stories

      • Panhasak Ky

        Jul 3, 2020

        "I read this article, I tried it, and It worked with my grandparents, I did everything this article told me to do, ..." more
      More reader stories Hide reader stories

      Did this article help you?

      Advertisement