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  • Question
    How long till I ask him to be my boyfriend?
    Imad Jbara
    Dating Coach
    Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.
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    Ask him about his previous relationships. To work up to asking a guy to be your boyfriend, try asking him how long it took for him and his significant other to get together in his first relationship. That can help you gauge how long it takes him to warm up to someone.
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    How do you ask a guy if he's serious about you?
    Imad Jbara
    Dating Coach
    Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.
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    Ask him if he's serious about you, and pay attention to his response. Keep in mind that not answering you is an answer. If he says something like, "We're having fun together," then they're probably not taking things seriously but they're not confident enough to say it directly.
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    How do I ask him to be official?
    Imad Jbara
    Dating Coach
    Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.
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    Be direct. It might be scary to do so, but the best way to go about asking a guy to be your boyfriend is by expressing how you feel. You can also try asking questions like "What are your plans for us?" or "Where do you see this going?"
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    My friend asked my crush if he liked me and all he did was blush. What does this mean?
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    It means he likes you but he's too nervous to admit it. You should ask him yourself, he'd probably be much more likely to be honest with you. Do it in a private place so he doesn't get embarrassed.
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    What do I if he says "maybe" - does it mean yes or no?
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    Sometimes it's harder for guys to understand and be sure about their feelings. If he said "maybe," just give him some time to think it over.
  • Question
    How old should I be to have a boyfriend?
    Rober2006
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    It honestly depends on how ready you are. Some people are ready at 10, others are ready at 18.
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    I've had a crush on this guy for a long time and he asked me out twice and I said no and since then, I've realized how much of a jerk he was, but I still like him! What do I do? He also asked out my BFF.
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    If he's a jerk then you don't need him. You deserve better and if he truly liked you he wouldn't have hurt you by asking out your best friend. Move on and find someone else.
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    How can I tell if my ex boyfriend still likes me?
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    Think about how often you talk and how comfortable he is around you. If you talk rarely or he is uncomfortable or defensive around you, he probably doesn't have feelings for you anymore. But if he talks to you a lot, tries to impress you, and/or compliments you, and seems really comfortable, there is a good chance he still likes you.
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    What if he is not ready to have a girlfriend, and then he started ignoring me?
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    Tell him you understand and you'd like to still be friends. Maybe in the future when he's ready things will be different. For now, don't push, just focus on getting to know him and being his friend.
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    Is it okay to date a person of a different color?
    Warriors4laf
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    Of course it is! You can date anyone you want, no matter what they look like.
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    I like this guy who has been showing signs of liking me but he has a girlfriend. But they don't talk and he doesn't talk about her? Should I ask him out at the end of the school year?
    KallikxLusa
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    You should first casually and subtly ask him if he is happy in his relationship. If he says no then maybe you should give it a shot. If he says yes then maybe it's time to move on.
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    I have a crush on a guy, but he already has someone. What do I do?
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    You accept that either the guy isn't right or the time isn't right. Even if he isn't perfectly happy in his relationship, you don't want to try to break them up, as that will only engender bad feelings all around and cast a shadow of guilt over your (hoped for) new relationship with him.
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    What if I ask and he says no and our friendship is ruined. What do I do?
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    If that happens, your friendship probably wasn't very strong anyway. Most of the time there will be a little awkwardness, but the friendship will recover. Make sure you tell the guy that you still want to be friends no matter how he feels about you.
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    Is 11 too young for a boyfriend?
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    It depends if you're ready to have a boyfriend or not. If you aren't then I would wait till 13 but if you're ready and you know someone will say yes then go ahead.
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    Why do guys say "I love you" when they don't really mean it?
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    Guys often do this when they want something from you that they don't think they will get without saying "I love you." Not all guys are like this, but some are, so be cautious.
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    I'm 13 and the guy I like is 17. Is the gap too much?
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    Even though it's "only" four years, a 13-year-old and a 17-year-old have very different maturity levels and are at vastly different points in their lives. I would suggest you try to date someone closer to your own age.
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    I am not sure about how my crush views me. He has kissed me and told me that he has feelings for me. But he has also cheated before. What should I do?
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    This sounds like a toxic relationship, and it might be best to end it. He might just be stringing you along and not looking for anything serious, and he's probably seeing other girls. If you don't want to end it, have a conversation about your feelings and what you want from him.
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    I'm 12 in middle school, there is this guy I've had a crush on for awhile. Is there a way I can ask him with a note?
    KallikxLusa
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    If you want to take the note route, then wait until you have a class together or if you have lunch together. If it's in class you can slip the note onto his desk and either stay or keep walking. At lunch, you can place the note in front of him and either stay or keep walking. Or you could slip it into his bag and wait for him to find it.
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    I'm 10 and I like this guy and he likes me back. Should I ask him to be my boyfriend?
    Community Answer
    Sure, if you want to. As long as you feel ready to have a boyfriend, it's totally fine to ask him.
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    My friend told my crush I like him, and then all my crush did was smile. Later that day I asked him out. He said he'll think about it. What should I do?
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    Just be patient. Give him time to think about it. If you keep bothering him for an answer, he'll be more likely to say no.
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    What do I do if I ask him out and he says, "I'll think about it"? That's a no right?
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    It could be a no, but he might also really want to think about it. Give him a little time, but don't get your hopes up.
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    How do I get to know my crush first if I've never talked to him before?
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    If you're shy, it may be best to simply be direct about it. Try to work up some courage, and practice talking to him in the mirror. You could ask simple questions such as, "What's your favorite color?" or, "What are your hobbies?" Another important thing is to try to find the right time. Between classes or 3 minutes before school starts wouldn't really work, since you don't want to rush. If you find that you don't have similar personal interests, but still like him, don't worry, as many successful relationships exist where the partners have separate interests but love each other anyway.
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    Everyone thinks this kid and I are dating, but we're just good friends. He's asked for my phone number through friends, and I feel like he's going ask me to date. What do I do if I'm too young?
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    If you're too young, your'e too young. What's the sense in ruining a perfectly good friendship by turning it romantic when neither of you is mature enough to handle that? If he asks you, explain just that -- you care for him and value his friendship but feel like you're too young for dating.
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    What should I do when I'm going to talk to my crush but her friend comes in between us and speaks rudely to me?
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    If she is rude, try to respond with politeness. Show that you aren't bothered by her rudeness. If she continues to block you, tell her that you wish to talk with your crush (don't say "crush," say their name) and go around her.
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    What if we have a long distance friendship and can only see each other once a month with our parents around?
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    Ask for their number so you can call, text, FaceTime, etc. with him privately. Once you've gotten to know each other better, you can try asking your parents if you can arrange to get together without supervision.
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    What if I've heard stuff about him liking me, but when I asked him out he said no?
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    If that's the case, either the information you heard was wrong, or he's just not ready to be in a relationship right now. If he said no, you just have to respect that and move on.
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    How do I tell him without making it too awkward?
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    Wait for a time when it is just the two of you and just ask him. If he doesn't accept you, just think of it as his loss and move on. If you are friends with him, try to go back to being just friends.
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    What if I am too much of a nervous wreck to ask my crush?
    Community Answer
    If you're not ready to ask, it's okay to take a little time. But you'll never get what you want if you don't ask for it, so sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and go for it!
  • Question
    What if two guys like me and they say they're going to fight over me, but I don't want them to fight? How do I get them to not hurt each other?
    Community Answer
    Tell them that you're not going to go out with either one of them if they fight, because you dislike physical violence. If they're still going to fight, tell an adult that can intervene.
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    I dont know if my crush would think that we are old enough for a relationship, because we are 11. Should I still try to ask?
    Community Answer
    Sure, you never know until you ask. Many people start dating around your age, so there's a decent chance he will say yes.
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